8 Month Old

[williams2008]

I filled my spot with the 8 month old being that her mom was the only one who showed up for the interview last week.

This child screams if you put her in the high chair to be fed, she screams if you put her on the floor, she screams if you lay her on the changing taable to get changed, she screams if you put her down in the pack-n-play. The only time she doesn't scream is if you are holding her and I don't have time for that. I'm thinking I still need to advertise for this spot.:confused:

[TheGoodLife]

I filled my spot with the 8 month old being that her mom was the only one who showed up for the interview last week.

This child screams if you put her in the high chair to be fed, she screams if you put her on the floor, she screams if you lay her on the changing taable to get changed, she screams if you put her down in the pack-n-play. The only time she doesn't scream is if you are holding her and I don't have time for that. I'm thinking I still need to advertise for this spot.:confused:

Argh, frustrating! I have a 9 month old here that is close to that- she will play sometimes, but cries about 1/2 the time It's my friend's daughter that I'm only watching for 2 weeks as a favor, though... Tough call, good luck!

[williams2008]

Argh, frustrating! I have a 9 month old here that is close to that- she will play sometimes, but cries about 1/2 the time It's my friend's daughter that I'm only watching for 2 weeks as a favor, though... Tough call, good luck!

It's very frustrating. I normally don't take infants, but I took her to fill the spot. BIG MISTAKE on my part! She plays some, but the majority of the day she screams

[Patches]

Oh no fun! I hope that either the baby gets adjusted or you find someone to replace her:hug:

[williams2008]

Oh no fun! I hope that either the baby gets adjusted or you find someone to replace her:hug:

I hope I can find someone to replace her The lst two days I have wanted to pull my hair out

[blandino]

I know it's hard, trust me I do. But it might just take her a week or two to adjust. At 8 months, she is well aware that her surroundings have completely changed - but not old enough to understand any of it.

[Blackcat31]

Did you discuss with the mother your routines and that you will NOT hold a child all day?

How do the parents parent at home?

Do you have a two week trial period? or any length of time as a trial period?

I honestly don't think I would keep a child for the entire trial period if I saw NO signs of acclimating or adjusting.

Especially if I think for one second that the parents are doing the exact opposite of what I need to do.

[williams2008]

I know it's hard, trust me I do. But it might just take her a week or two to adjust. At 8 months, she is well aware that her surroundings have completely changed - but not old enough to understand any of it.

That's what I keep telling myself. I'm sure she will adjust, I'm just not sure I'm willing to stick it out until she does!

[williams2008]

Did you discuss with the mother your routines and that you will NOT hold a child all day?

How do the parents parent at home?

Do you have a two week trial period? or any length of time as a trial period?

I honestly don't think I would keep a child for the entire trial period if I saw NO signs of acclimating or adjusting.

Especially if I think for one second that the parents are doing the exact opposite of what I need to do.

Yes I told mom that I will not hold a child the entire day.

The mom told me that she doesn't really scream for that much attention, but when I asked her do she sit up and hold her all the time her response was "yes":confused:

I have a two week trial period and as of right now I may be letting her go before the trial period is over.

[Blackcat31]

Yes I told mom that I will not hold a child the entire day.

The mom told me that she doesn't really scream for that much attention, but when I asked her do she sit up and hold her all the time her response was "yes":confused:

I have a two week trial period and as of right now I may be letting her go before the trial period is over.

Hate to tell you this but she isn't going to adjust if mom is doing the complete opposite at home with her.

It is also NOT worth your time or sanity to deal with a child who screams all day and is clearly NOT getting her needs met.

I don't mean that you aren't meeting her needs, I mean that you should be expected to meet her needs if those needs consist of so much one to one attention and being held.

NOT fair to the other kids, you or this baby.

I'd let her go (immediately) and continue advertising for the space.

I guarantee you that you will be so relieved on Monday that it will seem like a whole new job.

[williams2008]

Hate to tell you this but she isn't going to adjust if mom is doing the complete opposite at home with her.

It is also NOT worth your time or sanity to deal with a child who screams all day and is clearly NOT getting her needs met.

I don't mean that you aren't meeting her needs, I mean that you should be expected to meet her needs if those needs consist of so much one to one attention and being held.

NOT fair to the other kids, you or this baby.

I'd let her go (immediately) and continue advertising for the space.

I guarantee you that you will be so relieved on Monday that it will seem like a whole new job.

I understand what you are saying and I clearly can not or will not offer her the one on one time that she needs.

I told mom that same thing at pick up yesterday that it would not be fair to myself or the other kids in my care to sit and hold her the entire day just to keep her from screaming.

I am definitely going to be advertising to fill this spot!

[jenn]

I have one that is exactly the same. Even when being held, he only stops crying if you are giving him 100% attention. i can be holding him and talk to someone else and he freaks out. I will admit he is getting better though. he started at a few months old and is now 6 months. Also, it helps that I have a 3 year old "mother hen" that loves to be in his face and handing him toys all the time. He likes it, and it gives her something to do other than cause trouble

[williams2008]

This baby here cries when other people are in her face:confused:

[melilley]

I have a 9 mo. old that is like that. The mom told me during our phone interview that he cries a lot and I thought I could tolerate it, some days I can, but sometimes I want to call and terminate immediately! He's been here for 2.5 months and still cries the majority of the day. When my husband is home he just wants to leave because the crying is all the time! The mom said to put him in a dark room when he cries and it will calm him I won't do that. She also said she would bring a sling thing so I could carry him...umm no. He's heavy, plus I have 5 other children to care for. I can't be bending over all the time while carrying him! I keep telling myself that he's 9 months and will be a year soon and hopefully he will stop crying all day the older he gets....lets see if that happens! But I love the family (his 2.5 year brother goes here and is an angel) and I don't want to give up on him so I guess I'll just have to tolerate it

[LoraJenkins]

I know it's hard, trust me I do. But it might just take her a week or two to adjust. At 8 months, she is well aware that her surroundings have completely changed - but not old enough to understand any of it.

I have started A LOT of children at this age the past 5 years and find that you need to give them a week or two to adjust. The first week I try to give them as much one-on-one care as I can in a group setting to get comfortable with me being their caregiver. The second week I work on getting them on my " group" schedule. At this age I find once they are secure that you are going to meet their needs, they adjust just fine.

To give you some hope: my OLDEST DCK started at 8 months. He was a HANDFUL the first 6weeks. He is now almost 5 years old and BY FAR the best behaved, most gentle, loving child I have had in years.