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My son is almost 2. For about the last four months he has been absolutely horrible with the other kids. He hits constantly , takes toys, and recently has bitten twice in the past week. I feel like I am at the end of my rope with him. When he's not bullying the other kids hes hanging on me for attention . Has anyone else gone through this with their own child? Do they grow out of it or anything special you have done? I'm getting desperate and feel like I'm failing :/
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Do you think he's getting jealous of the DCK's and sharing you? Maybe you can have special toys only he can play with in his room or something? He's a little young so I'm not sure that you can let him play in his room unsupervised. It works well with my DS but he is a bit older. Maybe some other posters have better ideas. I do think you need to find a way for him to have some special time though, it may help
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I don't have any advice for you but I am curious to see what others offer for suggestions as I am going through the exact same thing with my ds, who just turned 2 last month. Other than the biting (knock on wood we don't have to deal with that), you described mine perfectly :hug: I know how frustrating it can be, coming from a mom who is going through the same thing.
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It seems to happen to many providers.
I have no advice. People here have offered tons of advice on this and none of it works for me.
I've been dealing with it for over a year. So far lost one child because of it.
My Dd now goes to preschool a couple days to give me a break from constantly having to be ontop of her. She is an angel at her school.
Here she is jealous. Doesn't want to share mom. Is so mean to the other kids. She does fine if I have only one or two kids, but that's all she can handle.Comment
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I have a 6,4, and 2 yr old and have done childcare in one capacity or another since oldest was 9m. I try really hard to make them special. I allow my kids to help set the table, make lunch, etc. I also rock my 2 yr old at nap time. I think she really needs that time just us.Comment
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I wouldn't be able to leave him in his room unsupervised at his age but thank you for your suggestion . Do you think it would look bad to parents if I had my own child go to another daycare a couple times a week? Maybe he would have an easier time if it wasn't his toys and his mom that he was sharing ?Comment
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I am going throught the same thing although my daughter is almost 4. I too have thought about putting her in daycare and actually found someone for her to go to that i would trust, but my husband said wait it out she will be going to preschool this fall couple days a week for couple hours a day. I think it's a jealousy thing. Kinda like this is my house type of thing, maybe they're being protective? I would say it's mostly for attention!Comment
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Yes, my daughter had this very problem. She was completely fine until she turned about 3 years old and yes, she was soooo mean to the other children. I did what I could to make her feel special, to help out more, to give her extra time and attention and her toys were always separate from preschool's toys, but it didn't seem to make much difference in her. I really have no advice as my daughter is kind of just growing out of it at 4.5 years old. We did put her in childcare a couple of mornings a week for about a year. Of course, she did very well there and never had a problem, it was only with me
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I know how frustrating it can be, I wish I had some advice... :hug:Comment
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Sorry, no advice but lots of support. ALL the child care providers that I know who also has their own children say that their kids are the worst. Mine were too.
All you can do is keep working on the misbehavior like you would any other child, and give him lots of attention when he's being sweet. I don't know what your set-up is, but try to avoid using his toys for the daycare if you can. That may help with some of the jealousy...Comment
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I don't know if this is right so please don't flame me for saying it. But I have always made sure my DS who is in daycare with us all day knows he is especially loved and he gets to do things the day care kids don't do. Now I never do this in front of the other daycare kids of course! But I do cuddle him more, tell him he's my favorite (because he is!!), and because this is his home and not his school he has access to every room in the house and also some of his own toys that only he can play with provided he plays with them in a room away from the daycare kids or on the weekends. Also his toys and the preschool's toys are not the same toys. He shares the preschool toys but his own toys he does not have to share.
I don't go out of my way to act like the day are kids aren't special or anything, they all get attention and love. They are special and I care for them. But I do give my DS a little more special and I've never had a single problem with jealousy. We have had this daycare open since he was 6 months and now he's 5.5.Comment
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Me too. Once my children were old enough to play alone they were allowed to play in their rooms or the basement play room with their toys. I also bent the rules for them in little ways, like during naptime they could listen to their books on CD or I'd share a little of my soda or cookie with them (the DCK nap in separate bedrooms so it wasn't right in front of them), etc.Comment
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