Mom Doesn't Work, She 'Trains'....

[My3cents]

I do contracted hours, UP TO 10 hours a day. She instantly said 10. dcb would be here from 8-6 M-F.

I don't need the money, but it is the first call I have gotten that needs/wants FT care for my upcoming opening in late June. I have two on my waiting list interested, both are PT and the same schedule.

I would want to know if she was training for ten hours a day and explain to her that is a long time to keep little in daycare if not needed. I would also explain to her that you have to be dependable upon an income and is this going to be a long term deal or a two week two month stunt? I feel the interview is not just them interviewing me but also me interviewing them to see if we are going to be a good fit for each other. I would also make it clear your not babysitting that your here for "training" not other stuff such as errand running and spa days etc.... you usually only take clients that work or go to school as it is important to you that when a child can be home with the parent that they should be with the parent and family. Good luck, curious to see how this pans out for you- Could be a great thing so long as your clear with parents from the start. Usually parents that have the money to stay home or play all day have nannies but not all. Just have to iron out the details.

[My3cents]

Makes perfect sense, but in reality ANY family could be short term or long term....ya just never know.....things change in life so quickly that I wouldn't count on anyone being long or short term....just follow my policies and it's all good.

[daycarediva]

I would want to know if she was training for ten hours a day and explain to her that is a long time to keep little in daycare if not needed. I would also explain to her that you have to be dependable upon an income and is this going to be a long term deal or a two week two month stunt? I feel the interview is not just them interviewing me but also me interviewing them to see if we are going to be a good fit for each other. I would also make it clear your not babysitting that your here for "training" not other stuff such as errand running and spa days etc.... you usually only take clients that work or go to school as it is important to you that when a child can be home with the parent that they should be with the parent and family. Good luck, curious to see how this pans out for you- Could be a great thing so long as your clear with parents from the start. Usually parents that have the money to stay home or play all day have nannies but not all. Just have to iron out the details.

This is an old thread, so I have an update:

They are still clients.

Mom still trains FT.

Dcb is a great kid, it was a rough transition (lots of screaming here and at home in the evenings) but after the first week it improved and by week 3 he was running in every morning and chatting all about his day at pickup.

Dcm on the other hand, I am less than impressed with. Not only does she train so much that dcb is in care 45-50 hours/week she goes away almost every other weekend to races or events and leaves dcb with relatives. (dcd goes along, too) She leaves dcb when she isn't training and is home for the full day.

She is also pretty high maintenance. I send home detailed daily take home sheets, newsletters, menus, etc and she wanted a daily email included so she could know about his day. I did that during his transition, but discontinued ('dcb seems to have adjusted fine now! He is a pleasure to have every day and I no longer see a reason for sending you a daily email. If that changes, we can reassess. Thank you for communicating and working together to make it as smooth as possible for dcb!' )

They pick up late 1-4x/month, and have even forgotten to pick up dcb twice. Seriously, both parents are home and 'didn't realize' dcb wasn't there. They do pay on time, money doesn't ever seem to be an issue.

Did I mention dcb is sweet and everyone adores him? He really is a great addition to the group!

[Willow]

I'm so glad kiddo worked out, but completely self absorbed selfish parents like your above drive me INSANE.

I am glad there are providers more tolerant of patents like that because guaranteed that little boy needs and loves you in ways his "parents" will never truly understand or gain themselves.......


No joke, bless your heart.

[My3cents]

I figure that if they want to pay for care and stay home that's their business. (I know not everyone agrees, but that's my philosophy - you're entitled to your own.)

You can't make your decision based on what a family might or might not do in the future - any of our parents could be fired tomorrow or decide to quit and stay at home, or whatever. All you can do is make a decision based on today.

I want to know how and where to reach the parents at any given moment in case of an emergency. I don't want to try to track down a parent. My biggest reason. If a parent is well off financially or not well off but able to pay me and that is what they want for their child I have to weigh it out and decide if I want that for my daycare. I can't align myself with all like minded people or I would be missing out on a lot. A lot of growth for one and patience and understanding for others even if I don't want that for myself. I can pick and choose what I am ok with and what I am not ok with and what will work for me and what won't work for me. I love being my own boss!

Great parents know that they need time for themselves and what their needs are. Great parents can also give everyone of their needs to their families and be 24/7 parents. Great families come in all different situations.

I am not so narrow minded that it is one way or not at all- but I am also not so loose that all my brains are going to fall out either

[daycarediva]

I'm so glad kiddo worked out, but completely self absorbed selfish parents like your above drive me INSANE.

I am glad there are providers more tolerant of patents like that because guaranteed that little boy needs and loves you in ways his "parents" will never truly understand or gain themselves.......


No joke, bless your heart.

I do just love him. He is a DOLL. He made me a picture last night and brought it in today, it was ALL purple (my favorite color).

I am getting more parents like this as the years go on. It upsets me greatly for the children, but I can't change them all.

[My3cents]

It sounds like it is going to be a great win win situation for you.

Good luck-

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

This is an old thread, so I have an update:

They are still clients.

Mom still trains FT.

Dcb is a great kid, it was a rough transition (lots of screaming here and at home in the evenings) but after the first week it improved and by week 3 he was running in every morning and chatting all about his day at pickup.

Dcm on the other hand, I am less than impressed with. Not only does she train so much that dcb is in care 45-50 hours/week she goes away almost every other weekend to races or events and leaves dcb with relatives. (dcd goes along, too) She leaves dcb when she isn't training and is home for the full day.

She is also pretty high maintenance. I send home detailed daily take home sheets, newsletters, menus, etc and she wanted a daily email included so she could know about his day. I did that during his transition, but discontinued ('dcb seems to have adjusted fine now! He is a pleasure to have every day and I no longer see a reason for sending you a daily email. If that changes, we can reassess. Thank you for communicating and working together to make it as smooth as possible for dcb!' )

They pick up late 1-4x/month, and have even forgotten to pick up dcb twice. Seriously, both parents are home and 'didn't realize' dcb wasn't there. They do pay on time, money doesn't ever seem to be an issue.

Did I mention dcb is sweet and everyone adores him? He really is a great addition to the group!

It kills me when parents do that. They wan all that information so they can play the role of being a great parent (maybe even playing that role to themselves so they don't feel guilty) without actually having to do any of the work.

[Hunni Bee]

It kills me when parents do that. They wan all that information so they can play the role of being a great parent (maybe even playing that role to themselves so they don't feel guilty) without actually having to do any of the work.

I agree. It's gross. My sister is like that - she drops my nephew off at before-school daycare at 7 am, he goes to Head Start from 9-3, then back to afterschool daycare until they close at 6. Then she ships him off to my mothers house right after daycare on Friday until Sunday night. She does NOT even work full time.

Oh yeah, he's THREE.

I try not to be critical of parents like this...but now that I have my own and now the sacrifices I have had to make already and in the future, I feel even more critical

[MyAngels]

This is an old thread, so I have an update:

They are still clients.

Mom still trains FT.

Dcb is a great kid, it was a rough transition (lots of screaming here and at home in the evenings) but after the first week it improved and by week 3 he was running in every morning and chatting all about his day at pickup.

Dcm on the other hand, I am less than impressed with. Not only does she train so much that dcb is in care 45-50 hours/week she goes away almost every other wíeekend to races or events and leaves dcb with relatives. (dcd goes along, too) She leaves dcb when she isn't training and is home for the full day.

She is also pretty high maintenance. I send home detailed daily take home sheets, newsletters, menus, etc and she wanted a daily email included so she could know about his day. I did that during his transition, but discontinued ('dcb seems to have adjusted fine now! He is a pleasure to have every day and I no longer see a reason for sending you a daily email. If that changes, we can reassess. Thank you for communicating and working together to make it as smooth as possible for dcb!' )

They pick up late 1-4x/month, and have even forgotten to pick up dcb twice. Seriously, both parents are home and 'didn't realize' dcb wasn't there. They do pay on time, money doesn't ever seem to be an issue.

Did I mention dcb is sweet and everyone adores him? He really is a great addition to the group!

I'm glad it's working out okay, but boy is that sad for the little guy. He deserves better from his parents.