Nap at daycare vs. nap at home! HELP!

[Razzledbrat]

Ive had this baby since he was a newborn. Hes now 11 months old. From day one I would lay him down for nap and that was the end of it. It took awhile to get to this point but he now always lays down without any problems at all. No crying. Nothing! happyface

Ive told mom about this and she said he wont do that at home and he will scream, etc. so she holds him.

Well suddenly he is doing it here!!! I put him down, he screams!!!!! I check on him, give him his binki, rub him etc then leave the room. he screams!!!! His tummy is full! His bottom is dry! I can tell these screaming fits are just him trying to get me to pick him up!

Uggg

How can I explain to mom that we must be on the same page!!! I cant hold him til he sleeps! I wont.

How long should I let him cry?

[daycare]

I dont have young infants, others on here may be able to help more.

With my DCP if something they are doing at home is causing my job stress, I will bring it up to them, however, don't expect them to change. The parents will always do what is easiest for them.

Example. I don't allow pacifiers, I feel they are unsanitary with my age group and really kids over 2 shouldn't be on them anyways. The kids are old enough to know that I never give them, it was never an option, so they don't ask and they don't throw fits.

BUT as soon as DCP walks in they pull it out of their pocket and plop it right in their little mouths. Makes me cringe. BUT, it's their child.

IF I were you, I would talk to mom, but I would still try the CIO method and kind of send him the same message like I do. It's not an option.

I would start in 10minute intervals and then increase it to 15-20 and so on until he falls asleep. When you go in, don't make eye contact, don't say anything, just gently lay him down.

It has to be hard for providers who care for young ones who don't really understand hey I can do this at home, but I cant do it here at daycare..

Good Luck

[LaLa1923]

I have a dcg who did this. She is 8 months old and doesn't nap at home. They say she just won't sleep. She takes a two hour nap at my home. It took her about two weeks to get on track. You can let them cry for up to 20 mins before you go in their room.

You can have setbacks when they get sick or something changes at home.

[Lyss]

IF I were you, I would talk to mom, but I would still try the CIO method and kind of send him the same message like I do. It's not an option.

I would start in 10minute intervals and then increase it to 15-20 and so on until he falls asleep. When you go in, don't make eye contact, don't say anything, just gently lay him down.

It has to be hard for providers who care for young ones who don't really understand hey I can do this at home, but I cant do it here at daycare..

Good Luck

I did this with the one I had like this

My DCG was similar. She was a great sleeper usually, I'd put her down awake and after a few minutes she was out without crying (here anyway, she rarely slept without being held at home) but as she hit about 9-10mo she started doing the screaming thing. At this point I transitioned her to only 2 naps a day (she was getting 3 prior) and did the CIO. I went in and laid her back down at 3, 5, and then 10min intervals until she was out. Usually she was out before I even got to the 1st 10min mark. My own DD I had to just let scream (she hit this stage at about 11mos), I'd only go in every 10mins because with her everytime I went in it just made it worse. Took about 3-4 days and then they were back to going down quietly.

Prior to this DCG was nearly termed over constant screaming. Nap was usually the only time she'd stop. I got her at 3 months she screamed all day til about 4 1/2 months then finally adjusted. I had to work very hard to get DCPs to work with me, if they hadn't started putting her down during the day and letting her play on her own I know I wouldn't still have her. Its really hard when the parents don't work with you in these situations. They still struggle with nap/bed times (DCG is 17mo now), she only sleeps in their bed or for very short burst in her crib after crying for nearly an hour. Here she's great, no more screaming during the day or at nap. Phew!!

Also do you have any white noise? That sometimes helps. A small fan, waterfall/rain sounds, or a white noise machine maybe?