Off Topic....

[youretooloud]

My cousin and his wife just had their second baby boy...he's about 3 weeks old now. They live in Kansas.

His older brother is only 11 months older. (for some reason they thought this was a good idea. LMBO!)

Anyway.....

They just posted a video of both babies sleeping in the same crib. I thought, "How cute". But, reading the responses, it seems that both babies share a crib all the time.

Others voiced their concern, because Noah is just turning 12 months, and Joseph is just a newborn. At birth he was only 6lbs, so he's still tiny.

I need some kind, gentle reasons why they should reconsider their great idea.

(extra information) Mom is much older than Dad. My cousin is only 21, his wife is 42. His wife is WONDERFUL! If she were closer, she'd be my best friend...but, she is from Vietnam. (but, she's been here for nine years, so even if this was cultural, I'd think she would have decided not to do this) The mom has two adult kids, and one 17 yr old. This isn't her first rodeo.

[SilverSabre25]

I would stay out of it, honestly. There is a STRONG cultural thing going on, I bet, and it's not as inherently dangerous as say, putting the little one forward facing in the car seat or something! It's family, she's been a mom before...just bite your tongue and send positive thoughts to them

[daycare]

My cousin and his wife just had their second baby boy...he's about 3 weeks old now. They live in Kansas.

His older brother is only 11 months older. (for some reason they thought this was a good idea. LMBO!)

Anyway.....

They just posted a video of both babies sleeping in the same crib. I thought, "How cute". But, reading the responses, it seems that both babies share a crib all the time.

Others voiced their concern, because Noah is just turning 12 months, and Joseph is just a newborn. At birth he was only 6lbs, so he's still tiny.

I need some kind, gentle reasons why they should reconsider their great idea.

(extra information) Mom is much older than Dad. My cousin is only 21, his wife is 42. His wife is WONDERFUL! If she were closer, she'd be my best friend...but, she is from Vietnam. (but, she's been here for nine years, so even if this was cultural, I'd think she would have decided not to do this) The mom has two adult kids, and one 17 yr old. This isn't her first rodeo.

It def is a culture thing. My best guy friend is from Vietnam and he co-slept with his siter or parents until age 13.... Yup 13.

I would maybe say something to your cousin, not his wife....maybe offer to buy a crib or toddler bed since he's 1 now, or pass one down?....


Say something like so are you thinking about getting (1yr) a toddler bed now so he doesn't pancake his new brother? Then say, I saw cute ones with a railing at Walmart or something like that...

That is very dangerous. Ftr- my country also co-sleeps, I did with both of my kids. My 5 year old still does.....

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I would stay out of it, honestly. There is a STRONG cultural thing going on, I bet, and it's not as inherently dangerous as say, putting the little one forward facing in the car seat or something! It's family, she's been a mom before...just bite your tongue and send positive thoughts to them

Yep.

It's actually just co-sleeping and I really don't think of it as a big deal. At all.
Just like other people's children's spacing (age wise) isn't a big deal.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

It def is a culture thing. My best guy friend is from Vietnam and he co-slept with his siter or parents until age 13.... Yup 13.

I would maybe say something to your cousin, not his wife....maybe offer to buy a crib or toddler bed since he's 1 now, or pass one down?....


Say something like so are you thinking about getting (1yr) a toddler bed now so he doesn't pancake his new brother? Then say, I saw cute ones with a railing at Walmart or something like that...

That is very dangerous. Ftr- my country also co-sleeps, I did with both of my kids. My 5 year old still does.....

I'd actually be REALLY offended if someone wanted me to boot my child out of my bed/their sibling's bed/wherever I felt the best place for them to sleep was (so long as it wasn't child abuse/dangerous).

[daycare]

I'd actually be REALLY offended if someone wanted me to boot my child out of my bed/their sibling's bed/wherever I felt the best place for them to sleep was (so long as it wasn't child abuse/dangerous).

Sorry I don't understand your reply? I'm having a hard time to understand?

[LaLa1923]

That is sooooo dangerous! oh my goodness!!! yikes! can you image how they would feel if the baby were found dead!


OT: My 3 year old sons name is Noah

I'd just be blunt, but that's how we are in my family...::\


:hug:

[LaLa1923]

Sorry I don't understand your reply? I'm having a hard time to understand?

I think she's saying she'd be offended if someone questioned a parenting choice she made??

[daycare]

I think she's saying she'd be offended if someone questioned a parenting choice she made??

As ahh ok I get it. My family is like yours. Blunt. My cousins would probably hit the back of my head and say are you stupid..... He's from the "American wanna be" side of my moms family

[Cat Herder]

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[MamaBearCanada]

I would stay out of it, honestly. There is a STRONG cultural thing going on, I bet, and it's not as inherently dangerous as say, putting the little one forward facing in the car seat or something! It's family, she's been a mom before...just bite your tongue and send positive thoughts to them

Yep.

It's actually just co-sleeping and I really don't think of it as a big deal. At all.
Just like other people's children's spacing (age wise) isn't a big deal.

I actually feel this IS really dangerous. At 11 months a lot of babies are very active in their cribs. My DS just turned 1 and at 11 months he was standing up in the bed holding the side rail & bouncing up & down. How is it safe to have a newborn lying next to that?

I am all for co-sleeping and have done it with my own kids in my bed with the appropriate safety measures. The information I have read warns that a toddler should not be next to an infant.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

By all means, if you feel like it is a serious safety issue say something. If someone approached me with genuine concern, not judgement, I'd listen to them. I can't say that I would change the way I do things if I didn't agree, but I certainly would listen to them and consider what they said.

[MamaBearCanada]

By all means, if you feel like it is a serious safety issue say something. If someone approached me with genuine concern, not judgement, I'd listen to them. I can't say that I would change the way I do things if I didn't agree, but I certainly would listen to them and consider what they said.

[Blackcat31]

It def is a culture thing. My best guy friend is from Vietnam and he co-slept with his siter or parents until age 13.... Yup 13.

I'm pretty sure you mean sister and NOT sitter right??? ::

Just checking....because one is fine and the other is

[daycare]

I'm pretty sure you mean sister and NOT sitter right??? ::

Just checking....because one is fine and the other is

Dang iPad hahahahha. Yes sister!!