To Term or Not To Term

[dave4him]

One of my daycare parents is driving me crazy! Really want to just cut ties, just not sure if I should yet. Her nephew comes to my daycare three times a week from 2:30-6. She pays me 180/month to watch him. She is always nitpicking things. The most recent is the potty training issue. He is two and a half and only wears underwear, has for a few months now. She claims he has no accidents at home, and has been sent home from here at least twice now with an accident. She says I just need to listen to him and that he is potty trained. Well when I take him to the potty and he doesn't have to go he screams or cries. Sometimes he will tell me he needs to go and he does go just fine like she says. But hes a wild little normal two year old boy and accidents are going to happen. I just don't think that 180 a month is enough to put up with her anymore. he is a sweet kid and the other kids like him, just not sure what to do.

[JoseyJo]

If you really just want to be done, I would just term with a simple, non explanatory letter:

Dear DCF,

This notice is to inform you that I will no longer be able to provide childcare services to your family. The last day of childcare for [child's name] will be XXXXX. I have enjoyed providing child care services to you for your child, [child's name] and wish you and your family the best of luck.

Warm wishes,

[DC provider]

If you would like to keep dcb but just need dcm to respect you maybe just get really firm with sticking to your rules w/ the attitude that she is "buying" the services of a self employed person, not "paying" an employee! (Stole that one from Nannyde) ::

[littlemissmuffet]

I see two options:

1) Increase her fee. (I personally do not provide part-time fees - my part-timers pay full-time fees) If she stays, then you might be less resentful because you are making more money from her. If she goes, you still win.

2) Terminate. If she makes you that miserable just let her go.

[daycare]

One of my daycare parents is driving me crazy! Really want to just cut ties, just not sure if I should yet. Her nephew comes to my daycare three times a week from 2:30-6. She pays me 180/month to watch him. She is always nitpicking things. The most recent is the potty training issue. He is two and a half and only wears underwear, has for a few months now. She claims he has no accidents at home, and has been sent home from here at least twice now with an accident. She says I just need to listen to him and that he is potty trained. Well when I take him to the potty and he doesn't have to go he screams or cries. Sometimes he will tell me he needs to go and he does go just fine like she says. But hes a wild little normal two year old boy and accidents are going to happen. I just don't think that 180 a month is enough to put up with her anymore. he is a sweet kid and the other kids like him, just not sure what to do.

when parents tell me they are PT at home and then at DC they are not, I tell them that this is quite normal....

DC is not like home, they have set schedules, they have cool activities, toys and friends to play with which makes it much harder for them to make themselves STOP what they are doing and listen to their body by going to the toilet. At DC there are a ton of distractions...

Heck, I have 4 year olds that have accidents some times because they didn't want to stop playing and didn't make it to the toilet on time. It happens.'

I would tell this parent or aunt, whatever she is this and tell her that until he can use the toilet successfully for one month here, he needs to be in pull ups. He can wear underwear fist and pull up second, but this is the way it has to be. Or something to this degree.

I am sure she would understand that she would not want pee and poo all over her house, why would you??

[Blackcat31]

I would most certainly let her know that trained at home and trained at child care are two totally different things.

If she continues to nitpick, ask her if she is giving her notice since she is so unhappy with your services.

Otherwise, she can schedule time to talk privately with you and discuss her concerns. Although she does need to realize that you may not be prepared to meet all her needs and if that is the case, she will need to find other care arrangements.

Makes no sense to just complain.

[Chatter Box]

I would most certainly let her know that trained at home and trained at child care are two totally different things.

Especially when a child's schedule is all over the place!

[dave4him]

Explained all of that to the kids uncle. the little boy belongs to the Aunt through bad circumstances and has never had kids of her own. So its like the uncle says, 'she acts like the only woman who has never had a kid. don't pay attention to her.'

[daycare]

Explained all of that to the kids uncle. the little boy belongs to the Aunt through bad circumstances and has never had kids of her own. So its like the uncle says, 'she acts like the only woman who has never had a kid. don't pay attention to her.'

hahahaah her husband said that to you......that is super funny.....sad, but funny

[dave4him]

Here is to hoping my other daycare kid has her little sister and her mommy gets a good full time job and I can watch them both....!