How Can I Make This Easier?

[tenderhearts]

I need some advice on how to get a 2 1/2 yr old to listen at drop off and pick up. I try to make it as quick as possible but even before he walks in the door he's already arguing everying with his mother. He comes in and everything is a battle, if I intervene it's even worse. He will stomp, scream, run, yell and mom although tells him to stop and the second she tries to do anything it's worse, it literally takes her to leave for him to stop. I've told her drop offs need to be quick and they are for the most part, under 2 min, I've even said don't worry about his shoes I'll take care of it, she still insists on trying which makes the drama worse. Any more ideas opposed for me to tell her to be firm with him? I try to take him immediately in the other room so he just stops, but mom follows which makes a whole new drama, he screams at the other kids, whines cries, and again as soon as mom leaves he stops. SO frustrating.

[My3cents]

I need some advice on how to get a 2 1/2 yr old to listen at drop off and pick up. I try to make it as quick as possible but even before he walks in the door he's already arguing everying with his mother. He comes in and everything is a battle, if I intervene it's even worse. He will stomp, scream, run, yell and mom although tells him to stop and the second she tries to do anything it's worse, it literally takes her to leave for him to stop. I've told her drop offs need to be quick and they are for the most part, under 2 min, I've even said don't worry about his shoes I'll take care of it, she still insists on trying which makes the drama worse. Any more ideas opposed for me to tell her to be firm with him? I try to take him immediately in the other room so he just stops, but mom follows which makes a whole new drama, he screams at the other kids, whines cries, and again as soon as mom leaves he stops. SO frustrating.

Don't be so nice this time around and be more blunt. Mom, I need you to leave, if I have any problems through out the day I will call you asap. Don't allow her to follow you. Just turn around and say we got it from here. If she doesn't get it after that.......go to NannyDe's Changing of the Guards- It is hard for a parent to understand that everyone does better when they make drop off and pick up fast. It's not any other reason then that. Anytime anyone comes into my daycare my kids act out- normal. If they need to have long dragged out conversations call me at such and such a time and we can talk then.

I do feel for the parent, no matter if they want to work and have to leave the child, or they are leaving the child because they have to work, or if they are just drop in care. They care. They love their kids. I get how it can be hard to do this, but in a group setting you have to do what is best for everyone. I still feel for the parents and have been there myself.

My eyes go googly nuts while I watch the parent kiss and hug over and over, and say goodbye ten million freaking times, I have wracked up hours upon hours of this being stuck between taking the child and moving the parent out the door. but I am no better-

[Play Care]

I need some advice on how to get a 2 1/2 yr old to listen at drop off and pick up. I try to make it as quick as possible but even before he walks in the door he's already arguing everying with his mother. He comes in and everything is a battle, if I intervene it's even worse. He will stomp, scream, run, yell and mom although tells him to stop and the second she tries to do anything it's worse, it literally takes her to leave for him to stop. I've told her drop offs need to be quick and they are for the most part, under 2 min, I've even said don't worry about his shoes I'll take care of it, she still insists on trying which makes the drama worse. Any more ideas opposed for me to tell her to be firm with him? I try to take him immediately in the other room so he just stops, but mom follows which makes a whole new drama, he screams at the other kids, whines cries, and again as soon as mom leaves he stops. SO frustrating.

It sounds like you need to be more firm with MOM. Can you have her do a outside good bye? With kids like that I usually have them ready and hand them out the door to their parents (far from being annoyed my parents are usually relieved...) Good Luck!