Advice And Tips Needed!! DCD Being Served Court Papers Tomorrow!

[MarinaVanessa]

Yes another reason I have that in my policy. They are required to pickup Ina safe and approved age appropriate legal car seat or booster and it states if they appear to be impaired, the police and Dhs will be called immediately... They sign that section individually.... Ive actually had that happen before.

Me too. I have a similar policy in my handbook about it too.

[rmc20021]

I once had a dad show up to pick up a child, who was under the influence. I had added it into my policy that I would ask them not to take the child, but if they insisted I would call the police with their license plate number.

This same dad commited suicide some time after that...so I don't put anything past anyone who is an alcoholic or drug addict.

From what you described I would almost bet their will be court ordered documents prepared which will not allow dad to have contact with child due to his drinking...and who knows what else.

Just please, please be careful and have your plan very well thought out to protect everyone in the home should he show up.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I do believe that this is more than just divorce papers. She has not been specific (as soon as she answers my phone call I will ask the detailed questions), but I do believe there will be divorce papers in addition to either a restraining order or protection order. Whichever it may be; the court is waiting for her to turn in a notarized affidavit in order to obtain the court papers we need. This is all supposed to be done today, and he is supposedly going to be served the papers tomorrow.

Yes, what I was referencing to was in addition to divorce papers. He was served divorce papers a few days after I filed and I had to go to court to get the additional paperwork (which is not a restraining or protection order).

Hopefully she is able to get it all in and you are able to obtain a copy of the restraining order/protection order for your facility!

[Lilbutterflie]

Update:

I have spoken to DCM, and it is indeed a protective order in addition to divorce papers. She is getting a notarized affidavit for the court today; giving it to the judge tomorrow. The judge will be signing the papers tomorrow; and the papers are supposed to be served to DCD as he is leaving work tomorrow evening. I have made it very clear to DCM to try to get me those papers before he is served, but she is making it sound like he will be served right after they are signed. Fortunately, DCD works later hours than DCM, and I think DCM will be picking her daughter up before DCD is served the papers.

I also mentioned to DCM that I have contacted the local authorities and they have agreed to do extra patrols of my neighborhood once I have the protective order. I told her they requested she call them to request extra patrols in and around her house as well.

I have been extremely aware and cautious about DCD picking up his daughter. He has never appeared to be intoxicated, smelled like alcohol, or given me any indication that he was impaired. It is only once or twice a month that he picks her up. However; he always walks instead of driving his car (they live a couple blocks away). According to DCM, he cannot start his car without passing a breathalyzer test.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Praying for you!

[Willow]

Update:

I have spoken to DCM, and it is indeed a protective order in addition to divorce papers. She is getting a notarized affidavit for the court today; giving it to the judge tomorrow. The judge will be signing the papers tomorrow; and the papers are supposed to be served to DCD as he is leaving work tomorrow evening. I have made it very clear to DCM to try to get me those papers before he is served, but she is making it sound like he will be served right after they are signed. Fortunately, DCD works later hours than DCM, and I think DCM will be picking her daughter up before DCD is served the papers.

I also mentioned to DCM that I have contacted the local authorities and they have agreed to do extra patrols of my neighborhood once I have the protective order. I told her they requested she call them to request extra patrols in and around her house as well.

I have been extremely aware and cautious about DCD picking up his daughter. He has never appeared to be intoxicated, smelled like alcohol, or given me any indication that he was impaired. It is only once or twice a month that he picks her up. However; he always walks instead of driving his car (they live a couple blocks away). According to DCM, he cannot start his car without passing a breathalyzer test.

While I am glad you have a plan to keep you and yours safe, I do hope this mom isn't just trying to scare you or garner undue sympathy.

Unfortunately lots of couples going through a divorce will try to pit common parties in their lives against each other. Remember that almost anyone can get an emergency order of protection, but only those in true danger can keep one in place. If you've never seen anything amiss with him, all the time in care the child has been healthy and happy, and if at the OFP hearing he'll be entitled to after being served they pull it please try to give him some benefit of the doubt.

After leaving a physically abusive marriage myself it drives me nuts when women play that card to come off as the victim. I *wish* my ex-husband would have been a decent father. It flat out ticks me off when many dads are great parents, but moms wants custody and freedom so they abuse the court system in order to keep them apart. You'd be shocked and horrified to know how many do it......

I'm not saying he's innocent by any means but please don't paint him as guilty and dangerous until you have proof. I know that can be hard and you definitely need to protect yourself but I'd implore you protect yourself from them both at this point until the truth actually emerges.