Would You Be Upset?

[Luna]

It would bother me too and I think you handled it perfectly. I have had a brother and sister set of dcks here for 3 years and all summer I have to remind both of them to let the insects do their business, if they're not bothering us we don't bother them, look at them with our eyes, hands off... Once we put some bread crumbs on the cement and watched the ants work at carrying them away. After about 10 minutes I stepped back out of arms reach and the boy took the opportunity to squish as many ants as he could before I could reach his hand to stop him. The two of them like to go behind the climber and squish whatever unlucky insects made the bad decision to be there, and they like to get the other kids to join them. I can't take my eyes off of those two all insect season. Drives me nuts.

[countrymom]

acually I would have been mad. He is old enough to listen and to not to do this. He did it on purpose.

[LittleD]

I feel your pain! My DS was 6 and his 6 yr old friend did that to him. In the end they were BOTH in tears!

[daycaremum]

Yes I would have been upset. He did something that made the other kids sad and he disobeyed my instructions. He would be spoken to sternly about what he had done (totally did it on purpose) and he would be sitting on time out!

I don't think I would mention it to the parents. Unless it's something huge, my policy is "what happens at daycare stays at daycare." This is to prevent kids being punished twice for the same small incident.
It also saves me the disappointment if the parent does not care like I think they should.
Now if it something that needs to be reinforced at home, then I definitely share with mum and dad.

[Brooksie]

YES! I would have mentioned it to his parents at pickup. In my house we don't hurt or kill ANYTHING. Even bees are trapped and gently put back outside and through their time here, ALL of my kids learn that EVERY life has value.

Just stole this for our FB page. LOVE IT

And patches, I'm sorry about your sons loss. That's hard to handle.

[Patches]

Just stole this for our FB page. LOVE IT

And patches, I'm sorry about your sons loss. That's hard to handle.

Thanks,
also, I shared it from your facebook page to mine

[KnoxMom]

I learned in my psychology class that the frontal cortex of a child's brain that age is still developing. Actually, it is the last to fully develop. Anyway, this part of the brain controls decision making and regulating social behaviors. The DCK has no idea that what they just did was hurtful (which is why it is so important to teach them). As another poster said, take the opportunity to discuss the feeling associated with hurt or loss to help everyone understand why the action was wrong. Perhaps the next theme can be on 'Crawly Creatures' to explain why we need them and how to be gentle with all living things. I'm blabbing now! HTH

[daycaremum]

I learned in my psychology class that the frontal cortex of a child's brain that age is still developing. Actually, it is the last to fully develop. Anyway, this part of the brain controls decision making and regulating social behaviors. The DCK has no idea that what they just did was hurtful (which is why it is so important to teach them). As another poster said, take the opportunity to discuss the feeling associated with hurt or loss to help everyone understand why the action was wrong. Perhaps the next theme can be on 'Crawly Creatures' to explain why we need them and how to be gentle with all living things. I'm blabbing now! HTH

I totally agree with him not understanding why what he did was wrong and I would definitely use it as a teachable moment about the feelings of others. But the fact is the DCP told everyone several times NOT to step on the caterpillar. That is what I would discipline him for is not listening to what I told them.