I Need Potty Training Tips

[dave4him]

So my twins are two and a half now and everyone keeps telling me they should be potty trained. They will need to be by August at least in order to get into preschool. My girl doesn't want to have anything to do with the potty and still has issues passing poopies. My boy loves to get up there and play with the toilet tissue if nothing else, he might pee. Of course he has an endless supply in that bladder. I just cant get him to tell me he needs to go.
So help!

[blandino]

Don't listen to anyone tell you that they need to be potty trained at 2.5. 29 months is the youngest we have ever had a child potty train at the daycare.

IME when they are ready they will potty train. I am definitely not of the mindset that you can train them before they are ready. I will say that for most of my DC kids the "the 3 day potty training" methods are by far the most successful way I have seen.

[dave4him]

Yeah its kind of frustrating. Since being the dad I am the one in charge of doing the majority of the training work on my own kids. And the other kids here are trained including the one a month younger then them. Of course hes an only child and I think his aunt kind of pushed him into it or else.

[pandamom]

soudns like they're not ready yet. My twins just turned 3 this week and aren't potty trained yet. We started introducing potty at 1.5 years old and revisited every few months- but never pushed it. They just moved into the preschool room at daycare and they are really getting interested in potty now. I'm not pushing them because I know my guys will rebel if I do.

[Cradle2crayons]

I have a 2.5 dcb and he isn't potty trained. When they signed up, of course they told me he was potty trained. He was completely the opposite. They compared him to his older sister and assumed he was potty trained because sometimes he would follow them into the bathroom and pee. However, I soon learned that they were spanking him at home when he pooped his pull up and when he did it here, he would have a nervous breakdown, start crying, freaking out. I quickly to,d mom that I would not discipline for potty accidents and after three weeks informed her that he was to go back into diapers at daycare until he could verbalized his pottying. All she could say is that it worked for her daughter etc etc... He would pee in his pull up, then poop and it would mix and make a mess in his pull-up and go everywhere. I told her for sanitary reasons, diaper only and to quit comparing him to his sister. I truly don't think he's connected the signals yet. Oh, and peeing on command isn't potty training either

S it took TWO weeks for me to make him understand that at daycare he wouldn't be punished and he quit hiding and having a nervous breakdown. I assumed mom listened and quit punishing him.

For some reason, parents think there is a time limit set in stone and its just not like that. It's perfectly ok IMHO to talk and help them connect the signals. What I do, is that when we have one potty training, we all announce we have to go potty very obviously, and then go. That's what helped on a lot of kids.

But honestly, when they get it, they'll get it. The more pressure, the worse it can go.

[dave4him]

Sounds like that is probably what happened with the little boy I watch. His aunt decided he was ready so he was instantly in underwear and would cry if I tried to take him to the potty and he wasn't needing to go. A pretty clear sign that he was getting a spanking when having an accident.

[Cradle2crayons]

Sounds like that is probably what happened with the little boy I watch. His aunt decided he was ready so he was instantly in underwear and would cry if I tried to take him to the potty and he wasn't needing to go. A pretty clear sign that he was getting a spanking when having an accident.

Yes and I hate hate that!!! While I do believe in spankings to a degree... And as a last resort... And never discipline if you are angry... Etc....moot tying is not the time to use it. Once they start freaking out because they pottied.... Is sure to end bad..it took me some time to convince his mom that he wasn't abnormal or delayed just because he isn't potty trained yet.

He'll be three in July and he knows HOW to pee in a toilet on command, his body has yet to get to the point of telling him he has to go.... I hate it when parents compare siblings. Then she proceeded to tell me how she potty trained his sister the same way. She's almost four now. I just firmly explained that they are two different kids and should be treated that way.

[MamaBearCanada]

I am going through the same thing with my almost 3yr old DD. She will go when prompted but not tell me she needs to go. Her cousins were all late training and it became a huge battle with one who then was almost 4 before he was trained.

I am encouraging her and trying to get her used to going on a schedule but if it seems like we are getting too pushy she backs off and is less willing to try. She is very strong willed so I dont want to make this a battle.

We just saw our pediatrician over an allergy issue. He had an intern who came in before the Dr. did who made me feel this big :: (imagine very small) for not having her trained yet. "she should be out of diapers, you have to work on this" etc.

We are working on it and she is doing much better but for us it's taking time.