New DCB Tried To Leave

[providerandmomof4]

Lets just say that my new dcb has been trying cries loufly throughout rest time.... and having a real hard time adjusting to structure. Tries to help himself to the fridge...tries to go outside. Ive started locking the doors...i am at a loss:confused: today after arriving 3 hours late, i think because dcm was trying to apease him and talk him into going to dc.. after she finally left dcb tried to rush out the door. He did it several times yelling and crying wow! I advised him to go to the quiet spot til he could calm down and finally did. He sttarted last week but dcm has kept him out 4days already. Any advise?
Sorry for the typos...on my phone

[Blackcat31]

How old is he?

I am sure the inconsistent schedule and absent days are not helping him adjust at all.

[providerandmomof4]

He is 4. And a big four...he was flailing all around and i thought...i a.m getting too old for this

[daycare]

consistency is key....I would tell mom that she needs to come up with a consistent schedule from drop off and pick ups and stick to it.

i work on contracted hours and it works wonderful for the kids. Kids don't like things happening out of their control, they fear the unknown. When they have a set consistent routine, they learn what happens next and feel comfortable and confident.

I have kids that have been here for years that will have the slightest change in their morning drop off only to burst out in tears because they are slightly confused with the change.

The more mom trys to negotiate, the more she is teaching him to manipulate her. NO.... not good.

Tell mom this and tell her when it's time for daycare to follow through with the set times. Don't stop and try to negotiate. unless she has the option to not go to work, then going to daycare is not an option........

[countrymom]

consistency is key....I would tell mom that she needs to come up with a consistent schedule from drop off and pick ups and stick to it.

i work on contracted hours and it works wonderful for the kids. Kids don't like things happening out of their control, they fear the unknown. When they have a set consistent routine, they learn what happens next and feel comfortable and confident.

I have kids that have been here for years that will have the slightest change in their morning drop off only to burst out in tears because they are slightly confused with the change.

The more mom trys to negotiate, the more she is teaching him to manipulate her. NO.... not good.

Tell mom this and tell her when it's time for daycare to follow through with the set times. Don't stop and try to negotiate. unless she has the option to not go to work, then going to daycare is not an option........

I have to agree. This is why I do contract hours. Its so important for a kid to have a routine. Thats why I also think my kids are so good. Next week I have one out for 2 days, I already know its going to be hard when they come back. Heck, he's 4 I think a little old for behavior like this. If mom is bribing him at this age, image what she is going to be doing when he turns 10 and doesn't want to go to school.

[Play Care]

Consistency would be key *if* mom will get on board. I had to let a family go this past fall because the children (three boys) all behaved the same way. Parents kind of fed in to it so I knew it wasn't going to work.

[daycare]

I could never work with a family that could not get on board with my program.

I would just tell them that they are not a good fit for my program and that they should look else where to find a place that has the flexibility that they need to drop off whenever they want.

But I run a preschool and kinder ready program, so my set times are strict....Just like they will be when they go to school......