Why Do Moms Work Up Children

[ABCDaycareMN]

At drop off? Dcg walks in completely fine. Mom says "I'm leaving" a million times. Tickling. Gives 3 hugs and 2 more when dcg is finally upset that mom is leaving. Now dcg does not want mom to leave. Block the door so mom can't open it.

I hate having to rip a child off the parents. Then I'm left with a screaming child for 20 minutes after mom finally leaves.

It's every Friday! The only day mom drops off.

Dcd walks in takes stuff off says buy and out the door he is. Why can't mom be like that also?

Ok vent over!

[jamiem]

I have a mom who does that too. Dcg will be just fine playing and will wave bye to mom. I think mom feels bad that she doesnt care that she is leaving so she keeps talking for a bit and says bye and asks for hug after hug until dcg gets upset that she is leaving. I feel bad too because sometimes at the end of the day dcg will cling to me and cry when her mom comes to pick her up. I think it is hard for the mom knowing that her little girl spends so much more time with me than her.

[crazydaycarelady]

I've seen this a few times too. It is some kid of twisted feel-good thing for the mom to have the kid in tears as she leaves because she is SO important! I've noticed it is usually the mom who are not very good moms who do this.

[LaLa1923]

This is why my policy (now in my phb) states drop off must be quick. Also, if the child gets upset they must take them home.

[Mom&Provider]

I have one DCM who isn't into all the playing around like yours does, BUT she won't leave until DCG says it's ok!? She will stand at the door, allowing her daughter to play little games, adjusting her coat, putting her boots away etc. and Mom just stands there and says "ok, now can I go?" Or if DCG starts crying and asks to be picked up, DCM will either do it or goes down to her level for hugs etc!? This then goes on until finally DCG says ok, you can go...ONLY then DCM leaves! Who is in control here?? ::

[CrackerJacks]

They do it because it makes THEM feel better.

[mom2many]

They do it because it makes THEM feel better.

They feel guilty about leaving their child and want their child to miss them!

[Evansmom]

The child isn't having a problem separating, the mom IS!

[EAP]

I have one DCM who isn't into all the playing around like yours does, BUT she won't leave until DCG says it's ok!? She will stand at the door, allowing her daughter to play little games, adjusting her coat, putting her boots away etc. and Mom just stands there and says "ok, now can I go?" Or if DCG starts crying and asks to be picked up, DCM will either do it or goes down to her level for hugs etc!? This then goes on until finally DCG says ok, you can go...ONLY then DCM leaves! Who is in control here?? ::

What!!! How do you not start laughing ?

[Mom&Provider]

What!!! How do you not start laughing ?

LOL!! I just stand there with a big smirk...she's never caught on, probably because she's too busy catering to her daughter at the time! I never say not. one. word. since I'm pretty sure even if I did, it wouldn't do much good anyway! It's rather odd to watch as this DCM gives all control over to DCG! ::

[AmyKidsCo]

I think it's because mom needs reassurance that child will miss her and we haven't replaced her.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Want to know who does this over here? The stay-at-home-moms. :confused: