Saga Continues- Late DCM, I Wasn't Home..... :) She Wants To End Care...

[LaLa1923]

I went about my morning and everthing was going great. I noticed DCG wasn't here and no call from mom. Today we had to go get my nephew from my moms. ( unexpected, and unusual)
I get a text at 8:55 from DCM( contracted for 8), " we're here".
" I'm sorry, we aren't home. I had no idea DCG was going to be coming today".
" Yea, I was stuck in traffic, it was really backed up today. I guess I have to keep DCG home with me today."


I couldn't message her back since I was driving.

When I could text her back I said : "I'm sorry about not being there this morning, but I had to leave and waited as long as I could. I need her to come every morning at a consistent time, so we can avoid this," (this is a summary of what I said)

DCM responded with-" That's fine, we've actually decided to find alternate care for DCG based on this mornings incident and other issues. "


happyface

Now, do I stand firm with my contract and require she hand deliver her letter terminating care?

I also require 1 month notice and tuition.....
What would you do?

[sharlan]

Stand by your contract.

[MsLaura529]

First off, you did the right thing in just leaving. All she had to do was call and say "Hey, I'm stuck in traffic. It's really backed up" ... then you would've know she was on her way, easy peasy.

I would still stand firm with your contract. She signed it, she deals with it.

[youretooloud]

It's tough to tell, without more details. How long after she was expected did you leave? How far away were you?

I would feel one way if you always left at 8:30 to drop kids off at school, and she knew about it...but, if you are always there between 7:30 and 8:30, I could see how she'd be upset.

I would absolutely expect the 30 days notice though... technically she just gave you notice over text...but, i'd still expect her to bring her child for a month before starting care elsewhere.

[sharlan]

double post

[littlemissmuffet]

I went about my morning and everthing was going great. I noticed DCG wasn't here and no call from mom. Today we had to go get my nephew from my moms. ( unexpected, and unusual)
I get a text at 8:55 from DCM( contracted for 8), " we're here".
" I'm sorry, we aren't home. I had no idea DCG was going to be coming today".
" Yea, I was stuck in traffic, it was really backed up today. I guess I have to keep DCG home with me today."


I couldn't message her back since I was driving.

When I could text her back I said : "I'm sorry about not being there this morning, but I had to leave and waited as long as I could. I need her to come every morning at a consistent time, so we can avoid this," (this is a summary of what I said)

DCM responded with-" That's fine, we've actually decided to find alternate care for DCG based on this mornings incident and other issues. "


happyface

Now, do I stand firm with my contract and require she hand deliver her letter terminating care?

I also require 1 month notice and tuition.....
What would you do?

I would PHONE and say "That's fine that you have decided to end care with me, however, as per our signed contract - you are required to give the proper one month's notice. You are also required to pay for care as usual for the next month. Payment is due at (this date/time), otherwise, I will be taking legal action."

[youretooloud]

I would PHONE and say "That's fine that you have decided to end care with me, however, as per our signed contract - you are required to give the proper one month's notice. You are also required to pay for care as usual for the next month. Payment is due at (this date/time), otherwise, I will be taking legal action."

But let her know you would be happy to keep dcg for the month, as you really do like her and she's part of the group... bla bla bla..

[LaLa1923]

I told her before to let me know if she was going to be late. She often texts very late(9) and tells me dcg will not be coming. I left about 8:45, she showed up after.

[youretooloud]

I told her before to let me know if she was going to be late. She often texts very late(9) and tells me dcg will not be coming. I left about 8:45, she showed up after.

The bolded would make me angry. Parents need to communicate better. We never, ever, ever leave the house...ever. (except on foot) but, even my daycare parents text me before 7:00 to let me know if one of the kids is not coming.

I don't even take my phone to the bedroom side of the house with me because the parents will text me at the crack of dawn to tell me.

[rbmom]

She should have just called
To let you know she was running late. Stick to your contract as far as notice and paying tuition!

[originalkat]

It's tough to tell, without more details. How long after she was expected did you leave? How far away were you?

I would feel one way if you always left at 8:30 to drop kids off at school, and she knew about it...but, if you are always there between 7:30 and 8:30, I could see how she'd be upset.

I would absolutely expect the 30 days notice though... technically she just gave you notice over text...but, i'd still expect her to bring her child for a month before starting care elsewhere.

I tend to agree. But, I would still expect a written notice as well as the paid tuition. I would call her and let her know. If she does now answer I would send her a certified letter.

[Sunchimes]

Don't you just love the way things from the past, which weren't the least bit notable and were never mentioned, suddenly become "other issues" when things aren't going their way?

[Cradle2crayons]

I have my sibling group parent that is contracted for 700 am and I have to drive my daughter 200 yards down my driveway to get on the bus at EXACTLY 720am. I require ALL parents to text me prior to drop off and pick up so that I am sure my dogs aren't outside since all of my parents are indifferent schedules. Well, obviously if my car is at the end of the driveway, no other car can pull in. These parents were constantly late and causing a clog at the bus so I told parents either they drop off before 700 or after 800. They are on time now.

[LaLa1923]

Don't you just love the way things from the past, which weren't the least bit notable and were never mentioned, suddenly become "other issues" when things aren't going their way?

EXACtLY!!

I told her I'm not going to be able to accept any drop off after 9am. If she's going to be any later than 8 (contracted time), I need to know before 8am. Also, if she comes after 8:30, she will have to have eaten breakfast at home. I told her I really need her here at a consistent time.

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I asked her what issues......she said "other issues being the rate increase and how it came about. I know you settled lower but again, all of these issues and how they are coming about to me just seems like you don't want DCG in your care or maybe you just don't want to have to deal with myself or DCD."
"I just don't think it's that terrible that DCG arrive between 8 and 9. I know there have been a few occasions where she has been later than that but it has only been a few. I'm thinking it's best that she is placed in a daycare facility where timing isn't an issue as long as she's not in care for more than 10 hrs."

[Blackcat31]

I asked her what issues......she said "other issues being the rate increase and how it came about. I know you settled lower but again, all of these issues and how they are coming about to me just seems like you don't want DCG in your care or maybe you just don't want to have to deal with myself or DCD."
"I just don't think it's that terrible that DCG arrive between 8 and 9. I know there have been a few occasions where she has been later than that but it has only been a few. I'm thinking it's best that she is placed in a daycare facility where timing isn't an issue as long as she's not in care for more than 10 hrs."

This all translates into "I just don't understand why you can't just work on OUR schedule with OUR needs and what WE want." with ZERO regard to the fact that you have other families in care.

Sounds to me like this family simply needs a nanny or someone who at least considers themselves an employee of theirs.