Article: Mistake Having Kids

[butterfly]

I would love to know what HER kids have to say on it. How do they feel having all this published? I feel the most for her kids.

[Mom&Provider]

I would love to know what HER kids have to say on it. How do they feel having all this published? I feel the most for her kids.

This is what I was thinking when I read the article!? How do her children feel about her comments and that she STILL says she wishes she never had them, even today.

I get that not everyone should be/wants to be a Mother and that some feel pressure to do so, but to write about it and make it sooo very public, complete with pictures, makes me wonder if the bad Mother she says she never was just came into play? :confused: If this were my Mother I'd be embarrassed and ashamed...just me? :confused::confused:

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

NOTHING wrong with having an "only child" on purpose.

My brother and his wife are the same. They chose to have one child.

They get ALOT of grief from others......especially people who are only children and had a bad experience because of it.

My brother and his wife are great parents and their DD knows she is loved, wanted and thoroughly enjoyed, spoiled and doted on!!

She isn't a brat though. My brother always makes sure he corrects others about the difference between being spoiled and being a spoiled brat. ::

I think in many ways, children who are onlies.... are just like kids who are the oldest, the youngest, the middle or one of many......there are good things and bad things about birth placement. Each being unique, different and special.

I agree!
My daughter will likely never remember her brother living here. He'll be moving out when she is 1-2 years old. So, while she isn't an only child and while he isn't an only child they kind of are.

I see a lot of parents who I think ended up with a child and did not wish to be a mother/father. It's really sad to witness the extreme detachment from parenting or even being affectionate.

[bunnyslippers]

I respect women who can admit that they aren't cut out for motherhood. It isn't for everyone!

I agree that this article makes me feel badly for this mother's children. I can't imagine reading that my mother wishes she had never had me! sad.

[Country Kids]

Many people are shocked that I have 3 kids, homeschool and have the daycare. I didn't want kids at all until I was 27. As a child, I didn't even like dolls. Now I really enjoy being around kids. Who knew? ::
I read this article yesterday. I have a cousin like that. She had 2 children, was a decent mom, but really was not happy as a mom. Now that they are grown, she is free to do what she wants and is much happier.

Same here!

I had people say they were shocked when we had our third (had another after that) because they thought I didn't like children. I had already done chidlcare for two years (awesome rep even then) homeschooled later on and been in this business for 17 years. Yea, can't stand children-

I always wonder if the ones that said this wished they had had more kids themselves because they had "limited" themselves to how many they had.
This is in no offense to those that only have 1 or 2 kids. I just saw the majority of these people seemed to have only one or two and have the same gender for both children. Then we had people tell us when we had a girl and boy (our first two children) that we needed to be down, we had one of each, enough.

For me, I always wanted alot of children as I was an onlie and always felt like something was missing. That was me though and maybe not for others though. It really hit me though when I lost my mom and it was just me doing everything. Then I realized it was just me doing this and no one to share the feeling with-siblings.

Remember this is for me personally and when people ask me (happens alot), I'm truthful for my story.

[CedarCreek]

Having children is HARD.

There is no way that I was prepared for the way mine came into the world. That was not ideal or the plan that everyone tells you about. I often question whether I made the right choices or if my youngest would have been better off adopted ( I was 17, broke, in high school and he was severely premature and fragile) but I'm now proud of the choices I made and the mother I have become.

I have a very good friend who is open about her choice to never have children. She adores mine but is perfectly happy with her boyfriend and her dog. She knows that she just isn't " motherly" I greatly admire her for that.

[youretooloud]

My dd is 25 and says she doesn't want children. She was raised in a daycare home, volunteered every summer during her high school years at the center I was working at the time. Plus she is now working at a daycare center and babysits for three different families on the weekends. She has he degree in child development. She loves kids but says she would rather work during the day with them and have her evenings free. She would make a perfect Mom. Go figure :confused:

I have two girls who are exactly the same way. They eventually want kids, but right now, they get their fill at work. One still lives here, and sometimes has to be here all day with these kids. And they are LOUD (hence my user name)

So, my girls don't really want kids now. It's probably been great birth control.

One day, my younger one kept one of my kids for the weekend so her parents could go to Florida. I took them both out for pizza. But, the child kept saying "R, will you cut my pizza?" R cut her pizza, still hadn't eaten a single bite of her own. Then before R could eat pizza, the child spilled her lemonaid. R had to clean that up. Then the child cried because the drink got her skirt wet. Then the child wanted to go poop.

That meal alone was her first realization that kids **** the life from you all day every day.