I am almost at my wits end.
I've been doing HDC for 2 years, in the last 2 years I've moved, and gotten married.
I am planning on getting pregnant soon, and staying home with my kids is the reason i do HDC, so it seems silly to be thinking about quitting now, especially because i don't have any idea of what to do for money if i stop this.
But in the last year, I've come to see the massive list of cons for this line of income.
The biggest con is my husband... he doesn't like having a HDC in his house, he resents losing 1/3 of our living space to someone else's kids, he refuses, or fights hard against, anything that makes our house safer for kids (i have to take the kids to a park, not in the back yard because he wants it set up his way)
I work too many hours. 715-545 mon-fri. Everyone says just change your hours, but people aren't looking for part time, or 35 hours a week around here.
My 10+ hours a day don't even include shopping or cleaning, let alone setting up preschool activities (which i just don't do anymore, its too much work for such little interest by the kids.)
I have almost no adult contact all day, since husband works nights. I try to see my friends and family in the evenings, but that means the house stays dirty and the shopping doesn't get done.
I don't even know what I'm asking for here, i know i need to stop doing daycare, and i have no idea what to do now, when to stop, when to tell the parents i am stopping, i know I need to give them at least 4 weeks notice... more like 6-8 weeks, and by then i should be pregnant... so my new job will have to be in childcare, or i send my kid to be raised by someone else.
I hate all of this, i wish it would have worked, i wish i was more assertive, and my husband was more understanding and supportive.

I'm so done with not being independently wealthy.
I've been doing HDC for 2 years, in the last 2 years I've moved, and gotten married.
I am planning on getting pregnant soon, and staying home with my kids is the reason i do HDC, so it seems silly to be thinking about quitting now, especially because i don't have any idea of what to do for money if i stop this.
But in the last year, I've come to see the massive list of cons for this line of income.
The biggest con is my husband... he doesn't like having a HDC in his house, he resents losing 1/3 of our living space to someone else's kids, he refuses, or fights hard against, anything that makes our house safer for kids (i have to take the kids to a park, not in the back yard because he wants it set up his way)
I work too many hours. 715-545 mon-fri. Everyone says just change your hours, but people aren't looking for part time, or 35 hours a week around here.
My 10+ hours a day don't even include shopping or cleaning, let alone setting up preschool activities (which i just don't do anymore, its too much work for such little interest by the kids.)
I have almost no adult contact all day, since husband works nights. I try to see my friends and family in the evenings, but that means the house stays dirty and the shopping doesn't get done.
I don't even know what I'm asking for here, i know i need to stop doing daycare, and i have no idea what to do now, when to stop, when to tell the parents i am stopping, i know I need to give them at least 4 weeks notice... more like 6-8 weeks, and by then i should be pregnant... so my new job will have to be in childcare, or i send my kid to be raised by someone else.
I hate all of this, i wish it would have worked, i wish i was more assertive, and my husband was more understanding and supportive.


I'm so done with not being independently wealthy.
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