Oh, That's Not MY Department, Ask Mommy

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Ok, I have officially heard EVERYTHING! I asked dcd about Dcg ears, green nose etc at drop off this am. I very specififally asked if he had given dcg meds this am. " Oh, thats not MY deptartment! you will have to call dcm. I do vet visits and I know the dog is fine.... Not sure about dcg thou...."

Married, dcm lives with him supposedly but they are planets apart obviously. How do you NOT know if your kid is sick, or on meds or what? And who says dumb crap like " not my department..." what a shmuck!

[Willow]

The only family I've terminated bounced multiple checks to me, three in total, two from her one from him....and both give me the run around about how they had no idea the other had done such a thing. They actually blamed each other and tried to tell me I shouldn't terminate the contract because neither had a clue.

Joint account. BOTH OF THEM.


I have no clue how that worked out, nor did I have any pity after learning the previous weekend they'd just picked up a pair of designer puppies....apparently they were able to find money for that together, but were completely incapable of paying their bills together??


It's ridiculous!!! In all honesty I probably would have laughed and then pretended to be embarrassed while asking dad "seriously???" Then turned them away until he could figure out whether his child was ill and medicated or not...

[itlw8]

dh did not know if I gave the kids cold meds he only knew if they were really sick. Times have changed Dads are more involved.

[providerandmomof4]

Seems to me, if you are dropping off, then you should be aware of these things. I would be tempted to call mom and ask her what the deal was. And tell her that dcd seemed clueless.

[mamac]

My guess is he probably knew exactly what was wrong with his kid but decided to "play dumb" to avoid having to keep her out for the day.

[Meeko]

my guess is he probably knew exactly what was wrong with his kid but decided to "play dumb" to avoid having to keep her out for the day.

Bingo!

[clep]

My guess is he probably knew exactly what was wrong with his kid but decided to "play dumb" to avoid having to keep her out for the day.

Exactly.

[MsLaura529]

That just seems outrageous to me. I know there had been one or two times when DH dropped our kids off to daycare, and (because he would be in the shower while I was getting the kids up and ready) needed to call and ask if DS finished his bottle that morning or not, or some little thing like that. But not knowing anything about your child being sick or having taken medicine ... I agree with PP that he was probably "playing dumb".

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

My guess is he probably knew exactly what was wrong with his kid but decided to "play dumb" to avoid having to keep her out for the day.

That's what I was thinking.

My worst clients have been parents who pretend to be clueless about what the other one does.

[TheGoodLife]

My guess is he probably knew exactly what was wrong with his kid but decided to "play dumb" to avoid having to keep her out for the day.

That;s the first thing I thought, too!

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Well, I called dcm and she said dcd is clueless and she left for work while kids were still asleep and dcd is in charge of all morning duties. Therefore he only person who could have given meds was dcd. There was nothing I would have excluded for and dcd knows that having used me as a provider for 3 yrs already. I wasnt looking for a way to get rid of her, I just wanted an update so I could start the day informed.

Dcd is the kind who forgets to pick up and spends zero time with kids. Like a 15 yr old in a 35 yr old body. I would atleast pretend I knew something but this dcd isnt smart enough to do that!

[Starburst]

Seems like DCD is stuck in the 1950s where mom is responsible for all things kid-related. Either that or mom just got tired of micromanaging him and knows how irresponsible he is so she told him "You can take care of the dog. I'm in charge of the kids." or like others said he is playing dumb.

It'd be funny if one day you tried to ask him something about the dog and he said "Oh, that's not my department anymore. I got transferred to house plants."

[bubbiesmama807]

I've been going through about the same thing with a parent, except in this case it's the mom who is being clueless, and the dad is the one handling pretty much everything to do with their child.

[Luna]

I have one dad who knows zero about anything to do with his kids. He asked me one day if they had left a sippy cup here as he was leaving. I said maybe, I could go check, does he need it now or do they have one at home? Oh he didn't know, he's just the dad. He didn't know anything about anything. As I got to know the family better i came to realize this guy wouldn't know enough to fart if his mother didnt tell him to. A grown man for crying out loud, fully controlled by his mother. He cannot think for himself without her, he can't even form an opinion until he talks to his mother about it.

[julie]

Oh, that would be so much fun. You know he's going to ask you about naps down the line and potty training, and everything else that irritates daycare providers. Every time, eyebrows raised "DCD, I don't think that's your department. Better check with Mom". Walk away. Oh, I wish I had such an easy answer to get me out of conversations like that! Just have fun with it. I have a feeling he was playing clueless to send his kid sick today. Now he can deal with the natural consequences of being "clueless".