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I have a (just turned) 2 yo DCB, who has been with us since he was 3 months old. The majority of the time, he is excited and happy to be coming in every morning. He is a total, Miss ******'s boy. He and I have a very special bond, and I adore him.
He has an 8 week old baby sister, who started daycare on Tuesday. He never had any major issues at drop offs while mom was on maternity leave. But starting this week (sister's first week of daycare), every morning he is having a meltdown of epic proportions. He screams, flails his arms and stomps - and not in a bratty kind of way - he is actually devastated. I have always been able to make a fit of his better by simply holding him, now he refuses to let me hold him. His mom and I cannot figure out why these fits would start this week. It would have made sense that they would have started when mom began staying home for maternity leave She is not making a big deal about leaving baby sister at daycare, so he isn't losing a ton of attention in the morning. DCM is good about leaving even when he throws a fit.
During these fits, I just wind up letting him work it out - since he won't allow me to hold or comfort him. I just remind him of his options (cry, or come play with his friends) and eventually he comes around. But these are not easily ignored fits, they are pretty monumental.
Is this just some adjustment to having a new sibling ? I just feel so bad for his mother having to leave him while he is so upset. I have thought about doing "bye bye outside" but DCM still needs to bring little sister in - so handing off at the door doesn't seem like it would work.
Ideas on why this is happening or what we could do to stop these meltdowns ?
He has an 8 week old baby sister, who started daycare on Tuesday. He never had any major issues at drop offs while mom was on maternity leave. But starting this week (sister's first week of daycare), every morning he is having a meltdown of epic proportions. He screams, flails his arms and stomps - and not in a bratty kind of way - he is actually devastated. I have always been able to make a fit of his better by simply holding him, now he refuses to let me hold him. His mom and I cannot figure out why these fits would start this week. It would have made sense that they would have started when mom began staying home for maternity leave She is not making a big deal about leaving baby sister at daycare, so he isn't losing a ton of attention in the morning. DCM is good about leaving even when he throws a fit.
During these fits, I just wind up letting him work it out - since he won't allow me to hold or comfort him. I just remind him of his options (cry, or come play with his friends) and eventually he comes around. But these are not easily ignored fits, they are pretty monumental.
Is this just some adjustment to having a new sibling ? I just feel so bad for his mother having to leave him while he is so upset. I have thought about doing "bye bye outside" but DCM still needs to bring little sister in - so handing off at the door doesn't seem like it would work.
Ideas on why this is happening or what we could do to stop these meltdowns ?
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