Probem Mother

[Unregistered]

Man, I don't even know where to start. I've been an inhome provider for a long time and only a handful of times I've had parent/child issues.
I have had a new child start close to the New Year. Mom is pregnant, very hormonally challanged, and not good with drop offs.
The past month has been....interesting....difficult...not pleasant with her drop offs and pick ups. I dread seeing her but really enjoy the DCG. From the questions she asks and comments she makes she clearly does not trust me or believe what I say...even when I send text photos to back me up (just in case).
I had my termination letter ready to hand her on Monday but yay! She gave her notice...she let me know she told some "untruths" in the interview about lenght of care required but I didnt care and happily accepted the NOT letter.
Yesterday and today she's been awful to me... totally taking her insecurities out on me and being a total _itch.
Monday night she called to tell me she would not be dropping off until the afternoon. When I said I would be out on a walking trip to the park then, like every Tuesday afternoon, she got really snippy and rude with me. Trying to guilt me into staying home (NO) for her 5 hour late drop off.
Today she said her daughter would not be attending the last 7 days which means I only have 12 days left of one of the top 3 worst parents I have ever dealt with...might even be second worst.

[CedarCreek]

How long was that notice?

I'd term her immediately if she continued to act disrespectful. You don't deserve that and she is only doing it because after the notice is up, she doesn't have to see you again.

This is one of the reasons why I put "being rude or disrespectful" under my reasons for immediate termination.

[momofboys]

How long was that notice?

I'd term her immediately if she continued to act disrespectful. You don't deserve that and she is only doing it because after the notice is up, she doesn't have to see you again.

This is one of the reasons why I put "being rude or disrespectful" under my reasons for immediate termination.

ITA with Cedarcreek - there is no reason for you to put up with her rude attitude. I would outright tell her she needs to shape up or you will no longer provide care, in essence give your own notice.

[Unregistered]

How long was that notice?

I'd term her immediately if she continued to act disrespectful. You don't deserve that and she is only doing it because after the notice is up, she doesn't have to see you again.

This is one of the reasons why I put "being rude or disrespectful" under my reasons for immediate termination.

I'm going to have to change my policy for termination to cover this as well. Over the years there have been pushy parents, parents who want "special", parents who are just terrible parents but I've never had a rude parent before.


I have DCG's things in a bag in my storage area and a letter of immeadiate term if Mom acts like a donkey again today.

[Unregistered]

ITA with Cedarcreek - there is no reason for you to put up with her rude attitude. I would outright tell her she needs to shape up or you will no longer provide care, in essence give your own notice.

I totally agree...this has thrown me completely. New situation...new learning expereince. Belck.

[EAP]

That really stinks and is exactly why I changed my term policy from one month to two weeks - dealing with difficult situations like that - I had a parent slam a door and act *crazy* when I said I couldnt accommodate a request.

[TheGoodLife]

Is there a reason you can't terminate immediately? If not, I would do so! She admitted to being untruthful (which many do anyways!) and is being rude and distrusting.