Serious Help! Need Advice...

[Little Star75]

I had it! I decided I'm going to term this family. I just need advice on how to tell the parents. This dcb is always sick this is the same one with Asthma and in need of the nebulizer. He started mid January and had always been sick. Dcb is complaining about ear ache now (btw he has tubes) I text the mom and she says "do u have Tylenol" ummm no I don't. This baby is so delicate and honestly don't want to be liable. I rather term and not risk it. I feel that this child needs more like a nanny someone that can give the full attention he needs. I obviously can't as I do have other ones in my care. He also has a sibling who is SA and lately has given me trouble like, not doing his homework not listening to me period!
So please if you have advice on how to tell this parent please let me know.

Thanks in advance

[CedarCreek]

Say just that.

Dcm, this will serve as two Weeks notice of termination of our contract. I feel as though dck would benefit more from a stay at home nanny and unfortunately I cannot provide a service like that at this time.

[Blackcat31]

Dear DCM

This is written notice of my intent to discontinue our agreement for child care services.

I feel at this time that Billy requires far more care and attention that I am able to provide.

I have included the number to the local Child Care Resource & Referral to aid you in your search for new care arrangements.

The last day I am able to provide care for Billy is Friday April, xx, 2013

Sincerely

Provider.

Short and simple.

[Little Star75]

Thank you both, I'm so ready to term right away.

[Blackcat31]

Thank you both, I'm so ready to term right away.

That is also an option. Not always a professional one but I will admit there have been times when professionalism is the last thing on my mind....especially when it comes to a high maintenance kid and not wanting to deal with it any more.

If you want to take that route, you most certainly can do so, I would just change the date in the above letter to "effective immediately".

Be prepared however, for a visit from licensing if you go that route.

....and probably a lot of badmouthing on the parent's part about you as well...but sometimes you just have to do what you have to do in order to maintain your sanity.

Sanity definitely trumps professionalism though.

[Little Star75]

That is also an option. Not always a professional one but I will admit there have been times when professionalism is the last thing on my mind....especially when it comes to a high maintenance kid and not wanting to deal with it any more.

If you want to take that route, you most certainly can do so, I would just change the date in the above letter to "effective immediately".

Be prepared however, for a visit from licensing if you go that route.

....and probably a lot of badmouthing on the parent's part about you as well...but sometimes you just have to do what you have to do in order to maintain your sanity.

Sanity definitely trumps professionalism though.

I'm going to keep him for the next two weeks. Now I need some advice on how to figure out the deposit. I agree that every month dcb doesn't attend daycare with no pay. (This isn't in the contract btw) so next week dc happens to be out and the following I will have to use her deposit (1 week worth)
Should I still charge her for that week or use her deposit. I verbally agreed with the dcb being out with no pay but I don't want to be without any pay at all for the next 2 weeks. YKWIM? Should I change it and say next week he can either come or go with grandma but I will use the deposit towards next week and his last week will have to be out of pocket. Do I make sense???

[Blackcat31]

I'm going to keep him for the next two weeks. Now I need some advice on how to figure out the deposit. I agree that every month dcb doesn't attend daycare with no pay. (This isn't in the contract btw) so next week dc happens to be out and the following I will have to use her deposit (1 week worth)
Should I still charge her for that week or use her deposit. I verbally agreed with the dcb being out with no pay but I don't want to be without any pay at all for the next 2 weeks. YKWIM? Should I change it and say next week he can either come or go with grandma but I will use the deposit towards next week and his last week will have to be out of pocket. Do I make sense???

Sorta.... so you have a full two weeks deposit of hers?

...and you agreed somewhere along the lines to allow her to have a week off without payment?

Is that right?

[Little Star75]

Sorta.... so you have a full two weeks deposit of hers?

...and you agreed somewhere along the lines to allow her to have a week off without payment?

Is that right?

I only have one week deposit. That was a verbally agreement only not on contract. I also told her that as soon as I had to turn service away to a FT child I would then make her pay at least half the rate as a courtesy. She is trying to save money by not paying and sending her child to auntie. Just yesterday I interviewed a parent who is very interested in starting but because I'm already at my limit I can't accept dcg. This dcb who I'm terming is consider an infant (17 months) so yes I had to turn service because of this dcb. It all happen at together! Ugh!!! I'm so stressed out right now. I just now put him to nap because he kept complaining about his ear and mom refuses to pick him up. She offered to drop off medicine but I ignored the text.

[Blackcat31]

I only have one week deposit. That was a verbally agreement only not on contract. I also told her that as soon as I had to turn service away to a FT child I would then make her pay at least half the rate as a courtesy. She is trying to save money by not paying and sending her child to auntie. Just yesterday I interviewed a parent who is very interested in starting but because I'm already at my limit I can't accept dcg. This dcb who I'm terming is consider an infant (17 months) so yes I had to turn service because of this dcb. It all happen at together! Ugh!!! I'm so stressed out right now. I just now put him to nap because he kept complaining about his ear and mom refuses to pick him up. She offered to drop off medicine but I ignored the text.

You know honestly if you only have a one week deposit from her, I would just terminate immediately and return the deposit if you can afford it as sometimes it is just best to be done with a tough situation.

Or, you could allow her to come for one final week and keep her deposit. I would tell her the "free" week you were going to give her no longer applies since she is not going to be a continuing family with you...

Or, give her the two week notice but count the FIRST week of the final two weeks as being covered by the deposit and the second week of the final two weeks is the week you will allow her to go to her Aunt's without charging her.

That way, you only have to deal with her for one week but are still abiding by your contract and giving her the two week notice.

What ever you do.....I would NOT give her a free week (except as the last week of her final two weeks).

Apply the deposit FIRST.

Does that make sense?

[Little Star75]

You know honestly if you only have a one week deposit from her, I would just terminate immediately and return the deposit if you can afford it as sometimes it is just best to be done with a tough situation.

Or, you could allow her to come for one final week and keep her deposit. I would tell her the "free" week you were going to give her no longer applies since she is not going to be a continuing family with you...

Or, give her the two week notice but count the FIRST week of the final two weeks as being covered by the deposit and the second week of the final two weeks is the week you will allow her to go to her Aunt's without charging her.

That way, you only have to deal with her for one week but are still abiding by your contract and giving her the two week notice.

What ever you do.....I would NOT give her a free week (except as the last week of her final two weeks).

Apply the deposit FIRST.

Does that make sense?

Yes it does and it's a great idea! Thank you so much blkcat for all your advice you have been a great help. happyface

[AmyKidsCo]

Tom Copeland says you don't have to give a reason for terminating. This is my termination letter:
Dear (PARENT) (DATE)

This note is to inform you that effective (DATE), child care provided by (CENTER) will be terminated. The last day of care for your child, (NAME), will be (DATE).

I will continue to provide care through the end of this date. According to our contract you are (required to pay tuition for your child through this date whether or not your child is brought to care. EDIT TO FIT YOUR POLICIES)

I have appreciated the opportunity to care for your child.

(SIGNED)

[Little Star75]

You know honestly if you only have a one week deposit from her, I would just terminate immediately and return the deposit if you can afford it as sometimes it is just best to be done with a tough situation.

Or, you could allow her to come for one final week and keep her deposit. I would tell her the "free" week you were going to give her no longer applies since she is not going to be a continuing family with you...

Or, give her the two week notice but count the FIRST week of the final two weeks as being covered by the deposit and the second week of the final two weeks is the week you will allow her to go to her Aunt's without charging her.

That way, you only have to deal with her for one week but are still abiding by your contract and giving her the two week notice.

What ever you do.....I would NOT give her a free week (except as the last week of her final two weeks).

Apply the deposit FIRST.

Does that make sense?

I just remembered that she can't use the second week to,go to auntie because auntie has something scheduled. So anyhow dcb will be here next two week, so do I still have her pay for the second week since I'm using the deposit for her first week which is next week.?

[Patches]

I just remembered that she can't use the second week to,go to auntie because auntie has something scheduled. So anyhow dcb will be here next two week, so do I still have her pay for the second week since I'm using the deposit for her first week which is next week.?

Charge her for one week, keep the deposit for the second week

[Little Star75]

Charge her for one week, keep the deposit for the second week

[Blackcat31]

Charge her for one week, keep the deposit for the second week

I agree, charge her for one week and apply the deposit to the second week.

If she doesn't pay for the first week, then apply the deposit and do NOT allow her to return. At least that way, you won't be out any money for services rendered.