Facebook... Grrrr

[DaycareMom]

I took a picture of all the kids today (including my own 2 children) and sent it to the moms of the kids.

One of the moms texted me and asked if she could put it on Facebook.

I am glad she asked but do not want my kids on facebook. How do I say this in a way without offending her?

Thank you in advance!

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Either tell her directly that you don't like photos of your children posted on Facebook or tell her that since she doesn't have the consent of all of the other parents you would appreciate her not doing so.

[momofsix]

Just tell her that you don't have permission from all the other parents for their child's picture to go up on her page.

[DaycareMom]

Problem with that is she is friends with the other moms and they all post photos of their kids all the time so I am sure she could get their permission.

I feel like saying "I do not want my children on Facebook" makes it sound like I am being judgey of her choice to do so... you know what I mean?

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Just say you're uncomfortable with your children's photo being placed on Facebook. That's not judgey at all.

[daycarediva]

I don't think it sounds judgy. It's the SOLE reason I don't have a personal facebook page and we TELL our family (dh has a page that has NO personal photos on) to remove their pictures.

His MORONIC sister took a picture of DS getting off the bus (with bus number) for kindergarten in front of his school (with the school name) AND then replied to someone and told him who his teacher was, it was bad enough his name tag was visible!The icing on the cake....her facebook is PUBLIC. Maybe nothing would come of it, but HOLY CRAP!

[EchoMom]

This is why I only send parents pictures of their child. I had a mom that I knew put every photo I sent on FB and so I was always really careful to make sure everything looked good in the background too before I sent it.

[Starburst]

Is there anyway she could crop out the picture of your children? are they on the edge of the picture? Could she in anyway sensor your children's faces?

If you are still afraid she may be offended, maybe you can tell her that your kids' dad (or grandmother/grandfather... whatever) doesn't like the idea of someone out of the immediate famliy posting pictures of you kids online? Or depending on the age of the kids you can say that they don't want their picture on facebook.

In the future you might want to put in your contract that daycare parents are not allowed to post pictures of or information about you or your family (or children/families in your daycare) without permission - part of a confidentiality agreement failure to follow could be grounds for termination. Just something like "_______ daycare respects the privacy of the children enrolled, as well as the families of children in ______ daycare. I would greatly appriciate it if my daycare families respect the privacy of my family, my employees, other families enrolled, and myself by not posting any personal information or pictures of any of the mentioned parties on public websites such as facebook- unless given both verbal and written permision in advanced. Failure to do so may result in termination"

[DaycareMom]

I replied "I do not want pictures of my children on Facebook. Thank you for asking!" She replied "OK".

Lesson learned ... only sending pics of their own kids from now on.

Thanks everyone!

[TheGoodLife]

I replied "I do not want pictures of my children on Facebook. Thank you for asking!" She replied "OK".

Lesson learned ... only sending pics of their own kids from now on.

Thanks everyone!

If she asked ahead of time. that is very considerate and it is not rude to politely say no. Glad you did! happyface

[jokalima]

I think she would not get offended if you say what you just said here. You don't want your kids on fbk and there is nothing wrong with that, I think she would perfectly understand.

[NeedaVaca]

I feel that Facebook is getting pretty scary...way too much information out there, most people don't have a clue about all the many things you have to do to be private and even with all precautions you are not really private. Facial Recognition?? NO! It is also now commonplace for jobs/businesses/banks you name it, to check your profile before hiring/giving loans etc...Scary!

[jokalima]

I feel that Facebook is getting pretty scary...way too much information out there, most people don't have a clue about all the many things you have to do to be private and even with all precautions you are not really private. Facial Recognition?? NO! It is also now commonplace for jobs/businesses/banks you name it, to check your profile before hiring/giving loans etc...Scary!

Have you seen the video about the "psychic" social experiment? Where he tells people many things from their lives and he gets the info. from social websites That is very scary.

[Kaddidle Care]

This is why I only send parents pictures of their child. I had a mom that I knew put every photo I sent on FB and so I was always really careful to make sure everything looked good in the background too before I sent it.

Yep, yep - use the crop and only send the parents photos of their own child.

[NeedaVaca]

Have you seen the video about the "psychic" social experiment? Where he tells people many things from their lives and he gets the info. from social websites That is very scary.

No, I haven't seen that but will check it out I do have a facebook page...I use it very very little and find it to be a nice way to stay in touch with people BUT I am very close to removing it...It is just scary that they have so much info on millions of people. A good friend of mine took his off and he's in the IT field. There are so many steps to removing yourself & even then they still have your data. He then asked for a hard disc with his data from Facebook, I don't know if he ever got that.