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We have a biting incident at school. A little boy has bite a girl (the dad says 5 times). We only have documentation of two times. The dad wants to meet with the family of the boy that bit the girl. Should I allow this meeting?
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I would not. I would sit down separately and discuss it with both parents. Discuss the biting protocol with both families. Let the bitee's family know how you are addressing it, and give them any documentation. Let the biter's family know what has occurred, how you are handling it, and how you will proceed to deal with the behavior.
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absolutley not! You cannot even acknowledge WHO bit the child, even if the biten child can tell the parents.
You can meet with dad, and you can tell him what the plan is to prevent this again (shadowing), and what the consequence will be if it cannot be curbed. So, share YOUR plan of action, but you cannot reveal who the other child is...even if everyone knows.
I would empathize with dad...it's very hard to see your child hurt, and biting is so...ugly. Assure him that you understand his frustration, here is your plan. Licensing regulations require confidentiality.Comment
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No. It's none of his business who bit.Comment
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ITA, it's not a good idea. Biting is a normal, if socially unacceptable, part of development. I tell the parents the root of biting is the same as hitting and pushing, but instead of hands they use their teeth.
But having had my own children be bother biters and the bitten, I know it's an emotionally-charged issue. Keep communicating with Dad and letting him know what you're doing to resolve the issue.
Good luck!Comment
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