What To Do, What To Do...

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

When they bring her in those clothes/pajamas and a pile of clean clothes .... just don't change her. If you require the children to be ready for the day, then THAT is what her Dad considers ready for the day.

Like you said, you ain't got no time for that.

[bunnyslippers]

Exactly, my daughter was in the hospital twice before she was 12 months old. Once for what they thought was meningitis and they had to do a spinal tap. Which they forced me to leave the room for and I nearly went hysterical. That was the most agonizing 15 minutes I have ever had. She was in for like 4 days.

The second time she had tubes in and her adenoids taken out and they only kept her overnight because she was so young and had both done at once.

Both times, I didn't leave her side for longer than a bathroom visit the entire time and even then I kept the bathroom door open. I can't even FATHOM leaving the room with one that young let alone going to work! Even if my husband was there... I wouldn't leave the room.

My baby was in the hospital when he was 8 months old, for dehydration from the flu. My mom was with my older son at my house, and my husband was out of town. I didn't EAT for 4 days, because I wouldn't go to the cafeteria and order something. I truly don't get it.

OP, I am so sorry you are dealing with this. I hope you can find a replacement family as soon as possible! It will turn in your favor soon...think positively!

[MarinaVanessa]

It's because of situations like this one that I have the following policy following my illness and symptoms for exclusion policy:

Re-admittance after Exclusion

In certain situations, a medical form must be filled out and returned before your child can be re-admitted into care. These forms require a written diagnosis from the child's physician (not a nurse) and must state the following information:

• The child’s name.
• The diagnosis
• The treatment
• Length of recommended exclusion
• Clearance which states that the child can return to daycare without the risk of infection to others.

It is at the discretion of the childcare provider to determine whether a child can be Re-admitted to daycare. Please do not assume the doctor can give permission for re-admittance.

If the childcare provider deems that the child is not well enough to attend the child is to remain at home.

There are times when a child may be excluded due to the required amount of care he/she needs when experiencing a common cold or illness. For example, a cough that is disruptive to normal daily activities, when a child is unable to cover his/her mouth while coughing or when the amount of nasal discharge or fluid becomes unmanageable for the provider to continue maintaining a sanitary environment. This will occur at the discretion of the childcare provider and will be handled on a case-by-case basis.

[Chatter Box]

So guess who showed up today.....

This parent/provider relationship is over. While I am somewhat relieved I have a pit in my stomach still. I am so broken hearted for this poor little girl. I am probably the ONLY person in her life that really gives a crap about her.

[Chatter Box]

It's because of situations like this one that I have the following policy following my illness and symptoms for exclusion policy:

Re-admittance after Exclusion

In certain situations, a medical form must be filled out and returned before your child can be re-admitted into care. These forms require a written diagnosis from the child's physician (not a nurse) and must state the following information:

• The child’s name.
• The diagnosis
• The treatment
• Length of recommended exclusion
• Clearance which states that the child can return to daycare without the risk of infection to others.

It is at the discretion of the childcare provider to determine whether a child can be Re-admitted to daycare. Please do not assume the doctor can give permission for re-admittance.

If the childcare provider deems that the child is not well enough to attend the child is to remain at home.

There are times when a child may be excluded due to the required amount of care he/she needs when experiencing a common cold or illness. For example, a cough that is disruptive to normal daily activities, when a child is unable to cover his/her mouth while coughing or when the amount of nasal discharge or fluid becomes unmanageable for the provider to continue maintaining a sanitary environment. This will occur at the discretion of the childcare provider and will be handled on a case-by-case basis.

Thank you, I will be adding this in.

[snbauser]

So guess who showed up today.....

This parent/provider relationship is over. While I am somewhat relieved I have a pit in my stomach still. I am so broken hearted for this poor little girl. I am probably the ONLY person in her life that really gives a crap about her.

Whether you are terminating or not, please, please, please document everything that has occured. Make sure to especially document the inconsistencies in the stories you were given so that if something happens you are not having to rely on your memory.

[Chatter Box]

Whether you are terminating or not, please, please, please document everything that has occured. Make sure to especially document the inconsistencies in the stories you were given so that if something happens you are not having to rely on your memory.

Definitely

[NeedaVaca]

So guess who showed up today.....

This parent/provider relationship is over. While I am somewhat relieved I have a pit in my stomach still. I am so broken hearted for this poor little girl. I am probably the ONLY person in her life that really gives a crap about her.

I'm confused, how did this happen? I thought you said you didn't even want her to come until after Monday assuming she was feeling better. How is she doing today and what kind of note did they bring?

[CedarCreek]

What??? Did you take her?

[Chatter Box]

She had the NERVE to talk to me about how she was losing all her vacation days! And that since it was only March she can't go the whole year over one occurrence with no vacation left!

Ok....

1. I called you AT WORK to take a HALF DAY Monday
2. Tuesday you brought her for a SCHEDULED half day WENT TO WORK and took her to her "wellness" visit you had scheduled weeks ago
3. Wednesday you admitted her to the hospital (Your where abouts are unknown since dad emailed me and I had no conversation with you)
4. Thursday, you emailed me FROM WORK

At what point am I out of line here MOM and how much work are you really missing? Ever heard of FMLA!?

On top of it said that she felt like there was something underlying going on. She asked me if I was questioning her parenting and that she apologized for missing the illness and bringing her. I responded that to be honest with you I can't understand how you possibly could have missed this illness and let it go. She responded that was why she scheduled the doctors visit Tuesday (which we both knew was crap because she scheduled it weeks ago). She was trying to GET her through the illness to get to the prescheduled appointment.

Oh my gosh... I am so fuming right now....I got the kids done with lunch and put them down but now I am crying. I just feel so bad for this little girl.

CLEARLY she missed this illness and misjudged the severity of it. All she cares about is work and everything else. She's not plugged in enough to notice.

[Chatter Box]

I'm confused, how did this happen? I thought you said you didn't even want her to come until after Monday assuming she was feeling better. How is she doing today and what kind of note did they bring?

She showed up with the doctors note and was trying to convince me to take her today and said that she needed "dependable" daycare and that if I could not provide it today then she had to find it somewhere else. That she only get's 10 days of vacation all year and she can't blow it all in March.

She also said that all she has are ear infections and the doctor released her into care and she's "not sick" and I have watched her before with ear infections. She brought the medical release. It was from the hospital and it did state that she could come back to daycare today but she was visibly not well still and was screaming even while she was here holding her ears. I told her I was not going to watch her today and it all blew up. She began asking me about whether I was questioning her parenting abilities ect and it all just kept unraveling. I'm just done. She's crackers. She doesn't care about her child and she cares more about having vacation days than she does about taking care of her child.

[CedarCreek]

Well i'm proud of you for telling her NO.

GOOD CALL.

She is obviously bananas. Write her term letter and dust off your shoulders.

[bunnyslippers]

First of all, I am sorry for this little girl, and for you. That being said, I am giong to be brutally honest, and please know it is coming from a well-meaning place. You need to stop letting this woman dictate who you care for, when you care for them, and what is allowed in your daycare. She clearly is running the show, and you need to put a stop to it. If you don't, this behavior is only going to continue and get worse.

Try to take your emotion out of it. What would you tell a friend who was being treated as you are now? Would you tell them to keep taking it, or put a stop to it?

Take control back, for both your sake and this poor kid. I think she has left you no choice but to terminate immediately. She is not respecting you, her child, or your business. You are worth more than this!

[NeedaVaca]

Well i'm proud of you for telling her NO.

GOOD CALL.

She is obviously bananas. Write her term letter and dust off your shoulders.

poor little girl...

[bunnyslippers]

She showed up with the doctors note and was trying to convince me to take her today and said that she needed "dependable" daycare and that if I could not provide it today then she had to find it somewhere else. That she only get's 10 days of vacation all year and she can't blow it all in March.

She also said that all she has are ear infections and the doctor released her into care and she's "not sick" and I have watched her before with ear infections. She brought the medical release. It was from the hospital and it did state that she could come back to daycare today but she was visibly not well still and was screaming even while she was here holding her ears. I told her I was not going to watch her today and it all blew up. She began asking me about whether I was questioning her parenting abilities ect and it all just kept unraveling. I'm just done. She's crackers. She doesn't care about her child and she cares more about having vacation days than she does about taking care of her child.

Sorry, we must have been double posting! I am proud of you ~ you stood up for that poor little girl and yourself! Do NOT let her inappropriate and horrible behavior and parenting skills upset you. She is not worth your time or tears!

Please terminate her today, and be done with her forever. What a terrible week you have had. Hang in there. :hug: