Another Sleep Question About Co-sleepers

[TheirEmi]

I keep 2 infants ages 9 months and 5 months (who weighs 25 freaking
pounds!).

They cosleep at home....one out of AP(he nurses every 2 hours thru the night). ,and one (my niece's baby)out of laziness.

I've been bouncing them both to sleep in a bouncer and sitting with them as they sleep....

I put up the pnp's yesterday and plan to work on getting them to self soothe.

How do I do this? The 5mo is going to freak out!

I always tell them it is nap time and have a loud white noise going so they "know" the nap time cues.

[Heidi]

Unlike my pp about my 12-week old, I am very practiced with older infants...

Do what you're doing. Both should probably be on 2 naps now. An hour in the am, 2 or longer in the afternoon.

I usually use the sleep-training method. If upset, go in at intervals and pat gently, whisper "it's nap time", don't pick up. That works with most kiddos, but I've had a couple where going back in just pissed 'em off more, so they CIO'd.

Consistency is the key. Mine go down right after breakfast at 9, then again right after lunch at 12 ish. Same routine each time...eat, then talk about how now everyone is going nighty-night. Then, say good night to your friends, and I sing an innane song I made up..."nighty night"...on the way to bed. Kiss...blanket...walk away. When nap time is over...I get them up (only morning nap). Oh...good morning, it's time to PLAY! added: Afternoon nap, I never cut short, unless they are 3+ year olds.

[youretooloud]

Yep, go for consistency. I have a few kids who cosleep at home, but I got them young enough that they were fine sleeping alone in a room.

I have one kid who is almost three and co sleeps. When he first started, he flipped out...but, then I put his bed between two other beds, and had no problems again.

[Springdaze]

I had a little boy who was 7 mos when he started. he had to be rocked to sleep when he started and I had another the same age so that wasn't happening. I put him down and let him sleep on his own and eventually he did. they figure it out, you just have to not give in!

[frgsonmysox]

Make sure you tell the parents BEFORE you sleep train, especially the AP one. APers don' tend to sleep train and I would be livid if someone was doing that to my child. Give them a chance to leave your care first.

[Evansmom]

APer's differ tho in the way they interpret the philosophy so the APing family might be ok with some of what you're doing. Like if you are attentive in comforting the child but not pick them up it wouldn't be considered to some as sleep training. I look at it more as commiserating. You're affirming that the child is sad and it's ok to be sad. Patting the child and talking soothingly is comfort. So yeah, run it by the APing family but I don't think it's a for sure thing they would leave bc if it.

Just my 2 cents

[lovemykidstoo]

Okay, what is an AP?

[Evansmom]

Okay, what is an AP?

AP or Attachment Parenting is a parenting philosophy and style that focuses on and promotes the all important bond between parents and their children. If you google the term Attachment Parenting you can read about it more.

It's also for some reason a currently polarizing issue in our culture. Some view it as too extreme and those who practice it have very strong feelings about it as well.

I guess I should add that I'm am APer who was practicing it way back 20 years ago before I'd ever heard a name for it. It just came naturally to me

[lovemykidstoo]

AP or Attachment Parenting is a parenting philosophy and style that focuses on and promotes the all important bond between parents and their children. If you google the term Attachment Parenting you can read about it more.

It's also for some reason a currently polarizing issue in our culture. Some view it as too extreme and those who practice it have very strong feelings about it as well.

I guess I should add that I'm am APer who was practicing it way back 20 years ago before I'd ever heard a name for it. It just came naturally to me

ok thanks, I have heard of that, just didnt' realize what the ap stood for. so why would the parents be upset if the dcp put the baby in a pnp? what would be the other option in a daycare setting?

[MsLaura529]

attachment parenting

Oops, my page didn't refresh by the time I made it down to the question, haha.

[Evansmom]

ok thanks, I have heard of that, just didnt' realize what the ap stood for. so why would the parents be upset if the dcp put the baby in a pnp? what would be the other option in a daycare setting?

It's hard to say bc each parent who practices AP is different. But I think the previous posters were referring to letting the infant cry it out as being upsetting to the parents not the pnp itself.

[lovemykidstoo]

It's hard to say bc each parent who practices AP is different. But I think the previous posters were referring to letting the infant cry it out as being upsetting to the parents not the pnp itself.

Well what else could the provider do other than go in there and comfort the child. It's not like she can carry him/her around all day. I guess I haven't run into this yet, thankfully!

[Evansmom]

Well what else could the provider do other than go in there and comfort the child. It's not like she can carry him/her around all day. I guess I haven't run into this yet, thankfully!

It is a really tough situation. There are no hard and fast rules or answers. Caregivers and parents just need to work together and communicate so they can figure out what works best for everyone involved.

[littlemissmuffet]

Make sure you tell the parents BEFORE you sleep train, especially the AP one. APers don' tend to sleep train and I would be livid if someone was doing that to my child. Give them a chance to leave your care first.

This is something the parents should have discussed with the provider during the interview. I do not discuss changes in nap or routine with my parents ever. I don't even tell my parents when a kid graduates from a crib to a nap mat. Nobody's ever asked either.
I think if a parent wants their child "raised" a certain way in a daycare, they need to talk about this before they enroll their child and give the provider a chance to agree to it or pass them up!

[lovemykidstoo]

Well I saw that Frogsonmysox said she would be livid if it was her child, so I was just wonderng what she thought the provider should do.