The Absolute NERVE Of This Woman

[Oneluckymom]

PLEASE UPDATE US ON WHAT HAPPENS !! Yes, call the police if she doesn't pick up her phone!

[Willow]

Purely out of curiosity - can I ask if ethnicity or a language barrier is at play here?

Perhaps this parent has no idea how truly offensive and off the wall what she did was???

Reason I ask is a local potato farmer apparently pays to transport inexpensive labor from "south of the boarder" during his fall harvest. I learned of this because this past fall I had a vehicle full of women show up at my doorstep (during naptime) and pretty much try to just shove their infants in my arms and take off. Only one spoke broken English, she told me the name of the man they were working for and that they needed care right now because they had to get to work. I had no openings for infants, much less that many (there were like a half dozen!) and there is no way they could have completed the necessary paperwork. I tried explaining this and they still tried barging in and setting their babies right in my entryway!!!!!! I tried being nice initially and telling them sorry, commenting about how adorable their babies were but it didn't work. No joke, I about had to manhandle them to get them to keep their babies in hand and get them out the door. The whole thing completely threw me for a loop because it definitely wasn't run of the mill social/cultural behavior for anywhere I've ever seen.

[Patches]

Poor Kid

I agree with what everyone else is saying! I hope that she has either called you back by now or you are calling the police! Please keep us updated

[Blackcat31]

Purely out of curiosity - can I ask if ethnicity or a language barrier is at play here?

Perhaps this parent has no idea how truly offensive and off the wall what she did was???

Reason I ask is a local potato farmer apparently pays to transport inexpensive labor from "south of the boarder" during his fall harvest. I learned of this because this past fall I had a vehicle full of women show up at my doorstep (during naptime) and pretty much try to just shove their infants in my arms and take off. Only one spoke broken English, she told me the name of the man they were working for and that they needed care right now because they had to get to work. I had no openings for infants, much less that many (there were like a half dozen!) and there is no way they could have completed the necessary paperwork. I tried explaining this and they still tried barging in and setting their babies right in my entryway!!!!!! I tried being nice initially and telling them sorry, commenting about how adorable their babies were but it didn't work. No joke, I about had to manhandle them to get them to keep their babies in hand and get them out the door. The whole thing completely threw me for a loop because it definitely wasn't run of the mill social/cultural behavior for anywhere I've ever seen.

Haha! That is so true...

I had a woman call me once looking for child care and asked if I had space. I said I did and she said "Ok, I'm right outside. I'll be right in."

Turns out she was foreign and in her country they didn't even have child care so she had no idea how it worked. I did end up taking the family and they were GOLDEN....even though they started off on an odd foot.

But yes, after the intitial shock of OP's situation....I did wonder about cultural differenced as well.

[daycarediva]

I would call Mom and tell her that your next phone call will be to the police, if she doesn't call back IMMEDIATELY AND pickup within 20 minutes (or however long her drive time is)

I would call my licensar/registrar immediately and give her a heads up of the situation. I would tell her that the emergency contacts aren't answering and that you are going to call the police.

THEN I would call the police. I would absolutely have the child picked up and put a LARGE closed due to illness sign on your door with a letter of termination addressed to this DCM. All of dck's belongings would be on the porch and I would be D O N E with that family.

[Brooksie]

I would call Mom and tell her that your next phone call will be to the police, if she doesn't call back IMMEDIATELY AND pickup within 20 minutes (or however long her drive time is)

I would call my licensar/registrar immediately and give her a heads up of the situation. I would tell her that the emergency contacts aren't answering and that you are going to call the police.

THEN I would call the police. I would absolutely have the child picked up and put a LARGE closed due to illness sign on your door with a letter of termination addressed to this DCM. All of dck's belongings would be on the porch and I would be D O N E with that family.

This exactly. I cannot believe that! Insanity.

[butterfly]

Yep, I'd call CPS for child abandonment and then term! I would not put up with that garbage!!

[MamaBearCanada]

Wow - that someone would treat you with such disrespect and that they would put their own child at such risk for illness! TERM!

[MarinaVanessa]

She wont answer her phone. Neither will her sister.

Have you tried calling her work? If not I would call and first ask for the address then I would ask for the DCM. If she didn't answer or told me she wouldn't come to pick up her son I would begrudgingly but determinedly put on a quick outfit, bundle up my sick child, load up the DCK and all of his belongings up in my car and drive my sick @$$ to her work. Once I got there I would kindly ask them to go get her (be nice to them, it's not their fault) and hopefully my DS would puke a few times while he was there, heck I would even try to vomit a few times. When she came into eyes view I would plunk down the carseat with the baby in it and all of the child's belongings AND AN IMMEDIATE TERMINATION NOTICE TUCKED IN THE CARSEAT and simply walk away and go home. I would not care for a two week notice, I would not care about their payment for the last 2 weeks of care ... I would just want them out of my daycare.

This DCM is only thinking about HER needs HER child's needs and the needs of HER family. She is not taking into account that it doesn't matter if HER child gets sick or not ... what matters is that YOU don't feel well, YOU need rest and YOU need to take care of YOUR sick son. YOU need to think about YOUR needs, YOUR families needs and YOUR child's needs.

If she refused to come out to meet me (like if someone cam out and said that she was busy, unreachable or indisposed etc) I would calmly explain to them that you understand and that they should notify her that the child in the carseat was her child who I was unable to care for and that because I would not be taking the child back with me or caring for the child any longer that I would then be calling the police authorities and turning the child over to them. I bet they go back again and DCM comes out then .

[Brooksie]

Have you tried calling her work? If not I would call and first ask for the address then I would ask for the DCM. If she didn't answer or told me she wouldn't come to pick up her son I would begrudgingly but determinedly put on a quick outfit, bundle up my sick child, load up the DCK and all of his belongings up in my car and drive my sick @$$ to her work. Once I got there I would kindly ask them to go get her (be nice to them, it's not their fault) and when she came into eyes view I would plunk down the carseat with the kid in it AND AN IMMEDIATE TERMINATION NOTICE TUCKED IN THE CARSEAT and simply walk away and go home.

This DCM is only thinking about HER needs HER child's needs and the needs of HER family. She is not taking into account that it doesn't matter if HER child gets sick or not ... what matters is that YOU don't feel well, YOU need rest and YOU need to take care of YOUR sick son. YOU need to think about YOUR needs, YOUR families needs and YOUR child's needs.

If she refused to come out to meet me (like if someone cam out and said that she was busy, unreachable or indisposed etc) I would calmly explain to them that you understand and that they should notify her that the child in the carseat was her child who I was unable to care for and that because I would not be taking the child back with me or caring for the child any longer that I would then be calling the police authorities and turning the child over to them. I bet they go back again and DCM comes out then .

[Oneluckymom]

Have you tried calling her work? If not I would call and first ask for the address then I would ask for the DCM. If she didn't answer or told me she wouldn't come to pick up her son I would begrudgingly but determinedly put on a quick outfit, bundle up my sick child, load up the DCK and all of his belongings up in my car and drive my sick @$$ to her work. Once I got there I would kindly ask them to go get her (be nice to them, it's not their fault) and when she came into eyes view I would plunk down the carseat with the kid in it AND AN IMMEDIATE TERMINATION NOTICE TUCKED IN THE CARSEAT and simply walk away and go homehappyfacehappyface EXACTLY

[mom2many]

I cannot believe this! I agree with pps that you need to call her work and insist she come pick up. This is beyond horrible!

I once had a dcm that tried a stunt like this and it resulted in me terming them. It got a little ugly, because she felt "entitled" to do whatever she wanted and refused to follow my contract. I was not about to put my family second and be treated like this.

I hope you and your son feel better soon! :hug:

[SilverSabre25]

Oh wow, I am so sorry!!! What a rude little b****! seriously uncool. Please update us....

[littlemissmuffet]

What a cow. This is abandonment. Call CPS and the police. She abandoned her child.

Then term.

[itlw8]

You call everyone on her list and if they do not answer you leave the message that you will be calling CPS and report the child abandoned And call her work and leave the same message.

You say dcm left child even though she knew you were closed due to strep throat and vomiting. You say you have terminated care because of this and will be calling CPS in 10 minutes unless someone is here to pick up the child.THEN do it. Hot line her now.

Do you have dads # if they are not together Let him know CPS may be calling him for emergency placement.

You have a car seat? Do you have someone that can deliver him to her work?