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Do you allow parents to go in nap room or cubbie room freely? That room for me is in the back of the house and I recieve all supplies in the morning. Yet I have a DCM that every once in a while takes a stroll through my house and into that room in the afternoon at pick up. I have nothing to hide but it seems intrusive. There is no reason for her to wander into that room. I have asked each time if she needed anything and she just mummbles and walks away. I have had issue after issue with this mom, all dealing with her trust in me. I am so tired of having "talks" and then having her move on to yet another issue to deal with.
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Nope. Mine all stay at the door unless there is a reason to come further. -
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I had a daycare mom tell me she needed to check her daughters diaper bin to see if she needed more. At the time I had another parent there as well for pick up so I let her go. I hear the 'diaper' mom opening doors and shutting them while I was talking with the other parent. Later I confronted the mother and she tells me that she wanted to make sure the rest of my house was "ok" (like she was expecting a tied up child or a dancer pole?)and that, as a paying parent, she had the right to go wherever she wanted if her child was in my house. I term'd her at the end of the convo. We defiantly had different views on personal space and trust.Comment
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Nope parents don't wander my house. I let them know with 48 hours notice if they are short on supplies.Comment
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No my parents don't wander around. Usually I meet them at the door/baby gate.
But sometimes I invite them in, send them to the playroom, etc. I do this when I know the house is looking particularly clean or I know that the kids are all being angelic and look cute at the moment and I want them to catch a "candid" moment.
I don't want anyone to ever feel like they're forbidden or I'm hiding anything, so when I know it's a good time to come in I try to make sure they do. That way when I DON'T want them in it doesn't seem weird like, Oh she never let's us come in, I wonder why?!"
I think of it like if I were the parent, I would CERTAINLY want the right to see any space my child was in. I woudln't think I'd have the right to be in any personal spaces, but I do think I would have the right to see my child's diaper supplies, playroom, nap area, etc.Comment
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All my parents come in. BUT as soon as you open my front door...BAM! you're in the daycare. There's no entryway or anything. So they just come in. I have the hooks and sign in sheet right there when you walk in though so most of them tend to stay in that area but some will walk on through and I don't mind. Almost my whole first floor is the daycare room. My bedroom is right off of the daycare room and the door is always closed but I know I would have a HUGE problem with a parent going in there.Comment
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I find it bizarre that you don't allow your parents in to see where their kids are! I wouldn't ever place my child in the care of someone that I couldn't see the area they are in!
My parents are free to walk into my home without knocking, in fact I prefer it. They are welcome to check in, any time, without notice. They are more than welcome to walk around the main floor of my home, where my daycare is located, and look at whatever they want.
I foster a very open and trusting relationship with my parents. One of my dads even hangs out for 30-60 minutes every day when he picks his daughter up. All of my parents trust me and know that they can check up anytime, which furthers our trust.Comment
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Maybe I didn't explain well enough.my daycare/playroom area is immediately when you walk in. This is where we hang out all day. My second floor has the kitchen and many times when parents come we will also be in there getting drinks or snacks. The supply room where I keep all diapers n back up clothes is in the back of my house. We do motto play in there. I fill the funniest not the parents. One child sleeps in that room in a pack n play. Her mother is the one that wanders back there. Now if she said to me "lil jane needs a diaper change before we leave" or "I'm going to take a few extra diapers with me, I forgot to pack my own bag" then I would this.k nothing of it. She has seen the room many times. So the only reason she walks through my whole home out of the play area is to be looking for something. And when i ask what she is looking for she ignores me n mummbles. I am not hiding anything. Parents here are free to walk around but for good reason.Comment
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I have occasional overnighters. The mom goes upstairs to the nursery, gets them dressed and brings them back down.
Parents come in with a quick knock, and drop off or pick up. Sometimes they will pop up just outside the laundry room, because the kiddos were in there with me doing laundry, or on the back stair quiet area reading a story.
It doesn't bother me. This is a big house. I would rather they just come find us.Comment
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Sounds like there is more to this than wanting to keep an eye on the areas her child is in. You do kinda have to wonder what she is looking for. And opening and closing cupboards would be a little weird for me. Like looking in my fridge...nothing to hide, but that is a little weird.Comment
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Not usually but we have an open floor plan so you can see pretty much the entire downstairs when you walk in and we don't use the upstairs for daycare at all. Most don't come past the cubbies but some will occassionally wander further in if we are talking while we are waiting for their child to finish cleaning up or something. Doesn't bother me. Now going through cupboards and stuff would bother me.Comment
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I have always welcomed parents in but both times I have offered ch. care. The first time i did child care parents came to the back door. I had added an addition on the back of my house. I didn't want parents walking through my house! This was my families personal space the day care kids never used.
Now we have bought a house just for ch. care. Of course they come right in. I would never meet parents at the door and expect them to not venture in.
For me it's a happy medium. If kids are at the rice table and a parent comes I love for them to come in and see what we are doing. On the other hand, no it would be weird for them to go to the back do the house and wander around. If they started opening doors and cupboards I'd freak out! It would feel really weird!
Boundaries are important, especially so if your ch. care area is in the main part of your house.Comment
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I don't let them go to the family part of the house. But, they can come in and see the daycare part of the house any time they want...sometimes the kids want them to see what they have, or can do, or made. Sometimes we are out back, and the parents have to come all the way through.Comment
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