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  • kitkat
    Senior Member
    • Jun 2009
    • 618

    How to handle surprise pick up

    DCG (5) is getting picked up early by her aunt today as a surprise. I'm sure this will sound awful, but I really don't want to deal with it. Our schedule is a bit messed up today b/c of preschool pick up and early dismissal from elementary school, so she'll be getting picked up either in the middle of lunch or shortly after, which is when we get ready for nap. I would prefer to watch for her aunt, when I see her pull in, then I'd quickly get dcg's stuff on and hopefully meet aunt at the door to usher dcg out. Do you think that would be rude? It would still be a surprise and her aunt would still see the surprise look on her face when dcg sees her. Or is there a more tactful way handle it?
  • LaLa1923
    mommyof5-and going crazy
    • Oct 2012
    • 1103

    #2
    Originally posted by kitkat
    DCG (5) is getting picked up early by her aunt today as a surprise. I'm sure this will sound awful, but I really don't want to deal with it. Our schedule is a bit messed up today b/c of preschool pick up and early dismissal from elementary school, so she'll be getting picked up either in the middle of lunch or shortly after, which is when we get ready for nap. I would prefer to watch for her aunt, when I see her pull in, then I'd quickly get dcg's stuff on and hopefully meet aunt at the door to usher dcg out. Do you think that would be rude? It would still be a surprise and her aunt would still see the surprise look on her face when dcg sees her. Or is there a more tactful way handle it?
    I think this is the way to go, she'll still be excited to see her aunt. Do what's best for the group!

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    • Loveyoustinkyface
      New Daycare.com Member
      • Aug 2012
      • 115

      #3
      I think that sound good, considering you don't want all the kids to be surprised (and geared-up) so close to naptime.

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      • kitkat
        Senior Member
        • Jun 2009
        • 618

        #4
        Thanks guys! I feel better knowing that others don't think I'm being rude by having dcg get ready and meet aunt at the door!

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        • slpender
          Daycare.com Member
          • Jul 2012
          • 198

          #5
          Originally posted by kitkat
          DCG (5) is getting picked up early by her aunt today as a surprise. I'm sure this will sound awful, but I really don't want to deal with it. Our schedule is a bit messed up today b/c of preschool pick up and early dismissal from elementary school, so she'll be getting picked up either in the middle of lunch or shortly after, which is when we get ready for nap. I would prefer to watch for her aunt, when I see her pull in, then I'd quickly get dcg's stuff on and hopefully meet aunt at the door to usher dcg out. Do you think that would be rude? It would still be a surprise and her aunt would still see the surprise look on her face when dcg sees her. Or is there a more tactful way handle it?
          I do not think that is rude you have other children who will still be there for a full day and need their naps. I always put the chilren down and have who ever is pick up early text or call from the driveway and walk the child out so it dose not wake the other children.

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          • littlemissmuffet
            Advanced Daycare.com Member
            • Jan 2011
            • 2194

            #6
            For future, I suggest having specific times of day where pick ups cannot occur. I don't allow pick ups between noon and 3pm because that's lunch and nap times.

            I personally don't see how this pick up would be disruptive, but I only have 6 kiddos.

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            • My3cents
              Daycare.com Member
              • Jan 2012
              • 3387

              #7
              Originally posted by littlemissmuffet
              For future, I suggest having specific times of day where pick ups cannot occur. I don't allow pick ups between noon and 3pm because that's lunch and nap times.

              I personally don't see how this pick up would be disruptive, but I only have 6 kiddos.
              This I think it is more the anxiety of it. I know it would be for me. I would have the child ready and then tactfully ask that next time could the pick up be before lunch or after nap if possible. I wouldn't think twice about meeting the Aunt at the door with the child. If anything were to be said, just explain yourself- trying to settle everyone down and someone new coming in gets everyone riled up.

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              • My3cents
                Daycare.com Member
                • Jan 2012
                • 3387

                #8
                Originally posted by My3cents
                This I think it is more the anxiety of it. I know it would be for me. I would have the child ready and then tactfully ask that next time could the pick up be before lunch or after nap if possible. I wouldn't think twice about meeting the Aunt at the door with the child. If anything were to be said, just explain yourself- trying to settle everyone down and someone new coming in gets everyone riled up.
                wanted to say one more thing, sometimes these type of pick ups are just unavoidable. Even if you have it in your contract parents are going to do what they want and what is best for them on this subject. You can't always get the appointment you want. Special people want to spend time with the child, you have to be a little accommodating. You don't have to put up with a grand tour of your place or a big conversation, just a quick scoot and a see ya tomorrow.

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                • kitkat
                  Senior Member
                  • Jun 2009
                  • 618

                  #9
                  The pick up time didn't bother me because it is a special aunt that use to care for dcg on her day off and isn't this year due to schedule changes and she was coming straight from work. The issue was more of wanting to avoid the excitement of "Guess where I'm taking you!" and all that jazz. I was worried that having dcg meet her at the door all ready to go with a quick "She's all ready for you" might seem rude.

                  I watched for aunt to come and told dcg to quick get her stuff on b/c someone was here to pick her up. I got her ready super quick, took her to the door, handed her off, and closed the door as the "Guess where I'm taking you!" started. If this type of situation ever comes up again, I will inform the parent that it's a quick pick up and any surprises need to be discussed in the car.

                  Thanks everyone!

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