Just Fun: Words/Phrases You Don’t Like or Won’t Allow Anyone to Say at Your Daycare

[Starburst]

Someone did a post about a term or word that people might find offensive or wouldn't say infront of their daycare kids or wouldn't allow daycare kids to say. So abvoiusly there are some words you won't allow kids to say like swear words, inappropraite names for body parts/funtions, and slang words that are sexist/racist/ target any particular group of people. But are there any words that can have negative associations or that aren't nesicarrly "swear words".

List of words I would not allow kids (or parents for that matter) to say at daycare:
Stupid
Retard (as mentioned in the other post)
Dumb
Fat/Skinny
Hate
Ugly
Oh My God (since some families maybe offended by that as mentioned in the other post)
Gay (if calling someone or something that as an insult- people did that all the time in my hs and it really irritated me)
Weird (if trying to use it as a put down or judgement)
Poop (IDKY but I hate that word it sounds gross and kids like to say it at the worst times {like lunch}; not a fan of Doo-Doo or Doody either)
Bad (if used to discribe someone {not their behavior or choices but them})
Gangsta/Gangster/thug/Cholo/Chola (I cannot stand little gangster wannabes- and yet I like some rap music {some artists that are even considered gangster rappers})

[just_peachy]

I know I'm kind of strict with my words, so I let a lot of them slide but MY kids can't say:

butt
fart
stupid
dumb
hate
fat
oh my God
bored/boring
feet (as a joke, they all know I'm not a feet kind of person, hah!)

[MarinaVanessa]

Certain words used in certain contexts. If the child or person is using the word properly in context then I don't mind it so much:

Butt (I hurt my butt ... ok to say) (you're a butt/I'm going to kick your butt ... not ok)
Hate (I hate you ... not ok to say, if talking about history and one of the kids says that one group hated another group ... then it's ok for discussion)

Not ok ever:
Stupid
dumb
gay
Crap
Oh shoot, oh damn, oh crap
... anything used as a derogatory comment or made to insult someone or make them feel bad.

And weirdly enough I don't mind the word fart. It's a bodily function much like saying "I have to poop" or "I have to pee" .... "I have to fart" or "I farted" is ok with me as long as they say excuse me ::.

We have toilet words and bad words. Toilet words are the words that we shouldn't say to each other because they are hurtful but the words themselves aren't bad by themselves and bad words obviously words that look like this %$#& and are NEVER ok to say to ANYONE at ANY TIME.

[mrsnj]

I also don't allow 'Eww" or "Yucky" at my table. To ME it is rude. If they don't like something they only need to say something like "No thank you" but to call food "Ewww nasty" when others are clearly eating or (or your host is sitting right there who made it) is just rude.

[frgsonmysox]

We call them "negative" or "inappropriate" words here. We don't allow the standard curse words, of course. We also don't allow kids to say, "Oh my god" because we don't want to offend others. We are not Christians ourselves, but we are not trying to offend others so we can say, "OMG, Oh my goodness, Oh my gosh" instead.

We can't use mean words such as "stupid, dumb, gay, ugly, fat" ect. Any words that hurt someone else are not allowed in that context. Also, we don't use "inappropriate" words, like "poop, pee, penis, vagina ect" unless they are used in context. Sometimes the kids just like say the words over and over to be silly, and thats not allowed.

I also don't like "Can't" as in "I can't do it...". That phrase is not allowed. I have kids tell me they can't pick up the blocks. So I correct them, "You CAN do it, you are choosing not to". If they are having a hard time with something (like writing) and they say they can't do it, I correct them with, "Yes, you can. You are capable of doing anything you want, we just have to work harder". I tell my kids all the time they are smart.

I've recently banned, "I just wanna...." as it comes out of one of my kids mouths all day long, and it's not polite. I make her correct herself and use, "May I please..."

[Lucy]

Can I just ask one thing here? What's wrong with "Oh shoot"? I have a little 3 yr old who tells me "don't say that! It's a bad word" if I ever say oh shoot. And she's not thinking that I'm saying s*h*i*t... she knows it's shoot. I was puzzled. What exactly is wrong with shoot? :confused:

[Starburst]

Can I just ask one thing here? What's wrong with "Oh shoot"? I have a little 3 yr old who tells me "don't say that! It's a bad word" if I ever say oh shoot. And she's not thinking that I'm saying s*h*i*t... she knows it's shoot. I was puzzled. What exactly is wrong with shoot? :confused:

It could be that if her parents don't let her play with guns at home or even if they do she is not allowed to say shoot or say that she is going to shoot at someone. Or it could be because that word just implies to harm or target someone and her parents told her that is not a nice word to use or that the word means something bad so she reasons 'not nice word = bad word'. 3 year olds can pick up words but not necessarly the context of how it is used or that some words can have double meanings like chute= tunnle/slide/drop. Some people also consider the saying "just shoot me" as a rude or even a swear phrase like 'eat/ bite me'.

But that is good to keep in mind to because I plan on having a star themed program and was going to give the kids in my program group names (based on age) and I was planning on calling the toddler group "the shooting stars"- so maybe I should rethink that (I also don't want them to think it is okay to shoot at me [since my name is Star] )

[Evansmom]

I don't allow the kids to say shut up, stupid, gay, retard, or any of the regular offensive "bad" words obviously nor do I allow them to use descriptive words negatively or in a hurtful manner. Calling some one any name that they don't like is not allowed either.

Know what kids really really like? Rhyming words! If a kid here says something we don't allow we try to replace it with a silly made up rhyming word. Everyone cracks up, the lesson sticks and we have fun!

Besides its much much funnier to day "oh bing bing noodle" than "oh sh!t" anyway!!

[CedarCreek]

I cringe when the kids say "poop" out of context. I tell then unless you need to go, don't say it.

Basically any offensive words, dumb, stupid, gay, retarded

I don't allow the boys to tease the others about "acting like a girl" this happens a lot here in Texas.

I also don't like "can't". I need a reason.

Or kill. When we go outside, we always end up playing "monster" and of course one of the boys usually will start to try to play fight and "kill" the monster. I always redirect at that point.

[GoodKarma]

I don't like anything negative, derogatory, rude or mean, so every one else has already mentioned most of them. One that I didn't see yet is " shut up".

[Springdaze]

I dont have any money today. can i pay you......?

[CedarCreek]

I dont have any money today. can i pay you......?

:::::: That cracked me up!

I dont allow that either!

[Luna]

I dont have any money today. can i pay you......?

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[just_peachy]

I don't allow the boys to tease the others about "acting like a girl" this happens a lot here in Texas.

OOH, that's a really good one! I agree! Any sex separation comments aren't allowed. "That's a girl color" or "No boys allowed..." nope, none of that stuff flies here. In fact, a lot of the girls started wearing princess dresses during our music time to dance. The boys thought it looked fun (and it is! Spinning around in floofy dresses,) so they wanted to join. Now I'll have my group of 5, 3 girls and 2 boys all wearing dresses and dancing and no one bats an eye. lovethis

I sent parents a pic to gauge their reaction and they all thought it was adorable. happyface

[Evansmom]

I don't like anything negative, derogatory, rude or mean, so every one else has already mentioned most of them. One that I didn't see yet is " shut up".

I listed shut up and I agree I think it's said far too often, it may just be how I was brought up not to say it but it really raises the hairs on my neck to hear kids saying this. If you need someone to stop talking a simple "please be quiet" or even less polite just "be quiet" is much better IMO.

CedarCreek I agree! I also will not allow anyone to say ".... Like a girl" as in "scream like a girl" or "throw like a girl". I take great offense at that as a feminist. And both my boys know this well! Then again the poor guys are often subjected to my "women are not to be objectified!" rants. Lol!

Also I don't allow the word gay to be used derogatorily. Descriptively yes. But not negatively. We call it "the G word".