Accident

[Unregistered]

Did you tell them this in your email?


I personally don't think them going off the rails in this circumstance is verbal abuse. I likely would have done the same myself depending on the age of the child hurt. If she was under the age of 5 or 6 not gonna lie, I'd have had a bird......

Yes, I have told them I would pay for their medical bills and parking fees. I also told them I didn't cash their check for the week and to let me know what I owe them for food expenses (also offered to bring meals and such). I have not written what they have said to me. It is indeed, without a doubt, verbal abuse. It is one thing to yell and be mad, but they went and continue (via text messages and voicemails) to go beyond that.

[Unregistered]

I'm sorry, the whole situation ****s, I also can not ever imagine getting so mad at someone, My own son needed staples in his head after he was going down one of those cozy coupe cars at daycare, on her driveway which was a hill, he was not even 2, really she should have been right next to him in that car, but I never blamed her for that, I came picked him up and took him to the ER, She felt awful I knew she didn't intentionally mean for my kid to be hurt, but he was okay, nothing a few staples didn't fix. I never would have even thought about giving her the bills, my only concern was he was okay. I can't believe they are being quite so mean, sounds like a litle over reaction especially if you said you would pay for everything, and you have been sincere in your apologies, my goodness its not like you reached up and pulled her down on her head.

Hugs! I am sure that was very scary for everyone involved. Glad your LO was okay.

[MissAnn]

I had a boy push another boy and that boy ended up getting 3 stitches close to his eye. The 2 moms work together and it was a pretty hard time between all of us. The boy who pushed had other instances of aggression soon after and I termed him. The mom of the boy who was hurt was very understanding. I was a mess! I am very cautious but you can't prevent everything. I would have never allowed a child to get on a bunk bed though. Lesson learned the hard way. I do appreciate your sharing and honesty. Good luck to you.

[just_peachy]

I keep looking, has the age of the child been disclosed?

I take my kids to the park sometimes. Is this something I shouldn't be doing?

[Unregistered]

I had a boy push another boy and that boy ended up getting 3 stitches close to his eye. The 2 moms work together and it was a pretty hard time between all of us. The boy who pushed had other instances of aggression soon after and I termed him. The mom of the boy who was hurt was very understanding. I was a mess! I am very cautious but you can't prevent everything. I would have never allowed a child to get on a bunk bed though. Lesson learned the hard way. I do appreciate your sharing and honesty. Good luck to you.

Thanks. It really was a stupid mistake. Something I have never allowed the other children to do before.. it was dumb to let her and I know that... definitely lesson learned.

[Unregistered]

I keep looking, has the age of the child been disclosed?

I take my kids to the park sometimes. Is this something I shouldn't be doing?

Three.

[MissAnn]

You made a serious mistake allowing that kid access to that high of a fall zone. You can't compare her to your child because HE can get hurt in your home and unless it is extremely gross negligence NOTHING will happen to you. You can take the risk with your own child. You can't with other people's kids.

You should be completely responsible for the entire medical bill and any damages the parents have for this. This is really serious and you will most likely have some serious consequences.

You need to take some courses and gain some experience caring for children under direct supervision by an experienced person if you want to continue in this business. You need to learn that "in that FAST moment she leaned herself over" so you don't take any fall risks with other peoples kids.

You made two mistakes: Allowing a young child access to a fall zone without having your hands directly on the child to spot and carry their weight the entire time. The second was not understanding the risk with OTHER peoples kids. The fall zone lesson will most likely sway your mind next time... but until you GET that you can't allow OTHER people's children to get hurt you will have these things happen over and over.

There are very precious few accidents that happen when a child is in child care that can't be blamed on direct supervision at all time. Things like kids tripping over their own feet or running head first into a wall... may be deemed as "couldn't be avoided". A fall of that height will NEVER be deemed "accidents will happen" if it happens to a toddler or preschooler in a home setting.

I know you didn't make the mistake intentionally but it was a big mistake nonetheless. You must pay for the mistake and learn.

Thanks. It really was a stupid mistake. Something I have never allowed the other children to do before.. it was dumb to let her and I know that... definitely lesson learned.

We all make mistakes. Sometimes we are lucky and nothing happens. Sometimes we are not so lucky. Maybe you should take a picture of the beds taken down. Who knows, you might benefit from proving you we're proactive in finding a solution.

[Solandia]

Ideally, you would want everything on paper, and mailed return-receipt for proof. After you have a lawyer look at it, so that you dont put yourself into a bigger financial situtation. Just let the parents know all further communication will be via mail, and ignore the rest.

Do you have daycare insurance? Unfortunately, the likelihood of your insurance paying on a bunk bed fall is very low. Most/Many insurance will not pay out on preventable injuries like this of a known hazard. Like if a child gets lead poisioning b/c you have recalled toys, like an injury due to setting baby in a bumbo on the table, or a if child strangles due to the cords in window blinds.

A bunk bed is the same thing...it is a well known, preventable hazard, and there was absolutely no reason in the world that would be acceptable as to why a child was injured in one at daycare. As a parent, I would NOT consider this a freak accident...there should have never even been an opportunity for an accident. A freak accident would be a kid running into the wall, bouncing off, and getting concussion.

[jokalima]

Wow! I am so sorry this happen. I do think it was a mistake, but we all make mistakes, we care for so many kids at a time and we can't be next to all of them at the exact same time. Your mistake was allowing the child to get up there, Ok so you learn and move on. I don't believe that you are a bad caregiver, obviously you care for this child and are very concerned, give the family some time, pray about it, there is absolutely no need for verbal abuse, I am a mom my self and can't see me reacting like that in a situation where I know there was no harm intended. Give them time, IDK maybe send them one last e-mail where you say how you feel plus your intentions of paying their bills and end it telling them to contact you when they feel is the best moment for them and wait. Maybe call your licencor and ask her/him what would be your best move.

Hang in there :hug:

[Play Care]

I keep looking, has the age of the child been disclosed?

I take my kids to the park sometimes. Is this something I shouldn't be doing?

Pay attention to the ages the equipment is rated for. Our playground just put in new equipment so the ratings are right on the side. When I take the kids we stay on the equipment rated for ages 2 (and up) It's lower to the ground so they can climb independently. I still watch/spot but if they fall it's not as if they are falling from something they *shouldn't* be on.
If the older kids complain of boredom or having to stay on "baby" equipment, I just tell them they can use the other things when they go with their parents

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Okay, maybe I'm just laid back but....

I'm a parent, and I cannot see EVER getting that angry at someone just because my child got hurt in their care. Well maybe not "ever", if the person had been truly negligent (truly, not just "out of the room" or "looking the other way") or abusive, then maybe. But for most normal accidents under someone's care, I cannot imagine getting that angry, calling names, saying rude and hurtful things, and for the love of sanity I can't imagine suing just because my child got hurt.

I am so sorry that they are acting like that, and I hope, dearly hope, that someday our culture returns to a place of calm and understanding about child behavior and the knowledge that, hey, kids get hurt...and then they get better. It's usually not anyone's fault and anger and legal action are not usually necessary.

I absolutely agree.
:hug: