Ridiculous Questions/Expectations...

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I am a Christian woman and my business is Christian operated (it even has CHRISTIAN in the name!).

I had a woman interview here who asked, "Do you cram Christianity down their throats?" verbatim. I was so shocked that all I could do was blink for a couple of seconds. I eventually answered that I am a Christian who teaches the children from a Christian viewpoint, we do read the Bible daily, we memorize Bible verses, we memorize the 10 Commandments, we do sing Christian songs, we do pray at every meal, etc. She didn't like that.

[Evansmom]

I had some one call yesterday and tell me their current babysitter would watch all three of their children for $30 PER DAY for ALL THREE!!!! and wasn't that GREAT???!!!! And wouldn't I accommodate the same price?

HUH?? Uh. No.

[Starburst]

I was also told to spank a child when they were bad. I couldn't believe it. But looking back... Those were some naughty kids. Lol

Heck, at my school's CD center the director (one of my teachers and a former FCC provider) said she terminated a parent on the spot when she saw them spank their child at the center (I think it was out of the classroom but was still in the center). She teacher that in class says that according to the law, parents have the right to spank their kids in their own homes but not leave marks. But the mom did it on daycare grounds where there was other daycare kids present and at daycare (Title 22) children have a right to not be physically punished and other kids in the daycare have a right not to witness or be exposed to another child being physically punished. The director also made a report when she saw a mark on a girl's lower back that the mom apperntly made spanking her before daycare (the girl was wearing thin PJs and I guess she buises easily) but the direct still had to report it because it was a mark left as a result of hitting.

I was think about adding a clause like that in my contract that spanking is not allowed on daycare grounds (or my property including the house, the yard, and the drive way) and being caught can lead to termination. In CA it is technically illegal to spank a child under the age of 3; if your child is over three and you do it at home and do not leave a mark even if the child says they got a spanking I technically have no right to tell you how to punish your child (but if they have marks or are injured that is another story) BUT when you are on MY property and I or another daycare child/family witnesses it and licensing doesn't allow physical punishment of children on daycare property- Than I have the right to say that is not allowed at my house and I can possibly report it. I personally don't believe in spanking and don't want it on my daycare/home property because I don't want the other kids who may or may not be spanked to be exposed to it. Also that is a form of humiliation for the child if other parents/kids see it- which is also considered unethical punishment in daycare.

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Sorry for Hijacking the thread that just really seems disterbing that parents are willing to let someone they just met spank their child. I haven't started my daycare yet so I don't have any weird requests. But I was watching this show called "Parental Descretion" once (its like a late night mommy talk show) and they did this candid camera bit where a fake expecting mom was doing interveiws for a nanny and she asked weird questions like "I plan on working alot and don't want my baby to forget me. I plan on getting a mask made of my face, will you be willing to wear this mask when your with the baby?" (they all must have been desperate for a job because they all said 'yes' : she also told them she was a 'Tiger Mom' and wanted the potential nannies to pretty much yell at the baby to calm them down when they are too fussy (and she had them show her how they would do it using a doll).

[bunnyslippers]

I was once told that little Susie was potty trained, completely independent in the bathroom. The only neccessary action on the provider's part was:

1. Pulling down her pants
2. Lifting her and putting her on the toilet
3. Singing her songs the entire time she sits there
4. Holding a tissue over her nose because SHE DOESN'T LIKE THE SMELL OF HER OWN PEE!
5. Wiping her while still holding the tissue over her nose
6. Pulling up her pants
7. Flushing AFTER she leaves the bathroom.


Ummmm, huh?!??! Next, please.

[blandino]

I was once told that little Susie was potty trained, completely independent in the bathroom. The only neccessary action on the provider's part was:

1. Pulling down her pants
2. Lifting her and putting her on the toilet
3. Singing her songs the entire time she sits there
4. Holding a tissue over her nose because SHE DOESN'T LIKE THE SMELL OF HER OWN PEE!
5. Wiping her while still holding the tissue over her nose
6. Pulling up her pants
7. Flushing AFTER she leaves the bathroom.


Ummmm, huh?!??! Next, please.

Ha ! I am pretty sure I have had this kid.

[Starburst]

I was once told that little Susie was potty trained, completely independent in the bathroom. The only neccessary action on the provider's part was:

1. Pulling down her pants
2. Lifting her and putting her on the toilet
3. Singing her songs the entire time she sits there
4. Holding a tissue over her nose because SHE DOESN'T LIKE THE SMELL OF HER OWN PEE!
5. Wiping her while still holding the tissue over her nose
6. Pulling up her pants
7. Flushing AFTER she leaves the bathroom.

That seems like more work than if she was still in diapers (only 4 steps (or less)- 5 max if there is a rash). I never heard of holding a tissue to someone because they cannot stand their own pee smell, what is up with that? Is she diabetic (that can cause a funky pee smell from what I hear- and that is understandable)? Does the mom feed her asparagus every day?

But yea I would NOT call that potty trained until she can at least undress herself with very little help (help wiping can be understandable due to little arms).

[mrsp'slilpeeps]

Can you help my 7 yr old wipe his bum???

Um nope!!! And they still ask me every once in a while. Can you make sure jonny has a clean bum when he is done?

Still nope!!!

[bunnyslippers]

That seems like more work than if she was still in diapers (only 4 steps (or less)- 5 max if there is a rash). I never heard of holding a tissue to someone because they cannot stand their own pee smell, what is up with that? Is she diabetic (that can cause a funky pee smell from what I hear- and that is understandable)? Does the mom feed her asparagus every day?

But yea I would NOT call that potty trained until she can at least undress herself with very little help (help wiping can be understandable due to little arms).

Nope, just a case of a little princess! I didn't take the child

[CedarCreek]

Can you help my 7 yr old wipe his bum???

Um nope!!! And they still ask me every once in a while. Can you make sure jonny has a clean bum when he is done?

Still nope!!!

NO! That's way too old imo to even be in the bathroom with then while they are going. Ugh.

[mrsp'slilpeeps]

NO! That's way too old imo to even be in the bathroom with then while they are going. Ugh.

Thats what I tell his parents. I dont even go in the bathroom when my own son is in there and he is 7 too!

[Starburst]

Can you help my 7 yr old wipe his bum???

Um nope!!! And they still ask me every once in a while. Can you make sure jonny has a clean bum when he is done?

Still nope!!!

If the child was special needs (mentally delayed or missing an arm) then I would understand but it seems like this is a child that is perfectly capable of doing it himself. I think at that age he would thank you for allowing him some privacy and would be embarrassed if the other kids found out his mommy still wipes his bu++.

[MarinaVanessa]

1. Wanted me to not use the word NO, and to keep the other kids from saying NO (wanted me to use uh-uh-uh)... I told her NO ::.
2. Asked if it was ok with me to feed their son homemade organic food ... sure no problem ... oh wait, she wanted ME to MAKE homemade organic food for her kid. NO.
3. Wanted me to hold her child when she slept. NO.
4. Asked if I would take their child at 4:30 am (I opened at 6 am). NO.
5. Asked that I not nap a 9 month old. NO.
6. Vehemently argued with me about how she was sure that the USDA program REQUIRED me to supply breast milk.
7. Asked that I not breastfeed my infant in front of her 4 month old because it would "make him jealous" .
8. Asked me what I did with the DCK's when I had to go to the bathroom, I answered with "What do YOU do with your kids when you have to go to the bathroom?" ... she moved on to the next question.

[Meeko]

A first time mother of a baby asked me several times during interview if I was SURE I knew how to measure formula........I had already told her I had been doing daycare longer than she had been alive and have 4 kids of my own......

When she wanted me to to prove I knew how by making a bottle right in front of her, I showed her the door.

[laceylmm]

1. Wanted me to not use the word NO, and to keep the other kids from saying NO (wanted me to use uh-uh-uh)... I told her NO ::.
2. Asked if it was ok with me to feed their son homemade organic food ... sure no problem ... oh wait, she wanted ME to MAKE homemade organic food for her kid. NO.
3. Wanted me to hold her child when she slept. NO.
4. Asked if I would take their child at 4:30 am (I opened at 6 am). NO.
5. Asked that I not nap a 9 month old. NO.
6. Vehemently argued with me about how she was sure that the USDA program REQUIRED me to supply breast milk.
7. Asked that I not breastfeed my infant in front of her 4 month old because it would "make him jealous" .
8. Asked me what I did with the DCK's when I had to go to the bathroom, I answered with "What do YOU do with your kids when you have to go to the bathroom?" ... she moved on to the next question.

All great, but I especially love the don't make my 4 month old jealous one!

[crazydaycarelady]

Same crazy dcmom:
~ asked that I only have the baby nap in his car seat.
~ carry sleeping baby in his car seat from room to room as I go from room to room (was told he'll sleep if he is tired)
~ was directed to only feed the baby at 10:30 and 2:30, no more than 10 minutes early or late and to just keep the bottle in his mouth until he ate 7 oz.

I was young and dumb and inexperienced and actually took the child. No surprise that it didn't last long!