Although I am closing I'm still open for now! What do you do when you have two children who are not getting along? I have one who is 10 months older then another and they constantly fight. Hit and fight over toys! I have made the parents of the one who is starting it aware but it continues regardless of my efforts to redirect and stop it. I have had lots of problems with the same child similar... Pulling hair and pushing. I am giving my notice on Friday so I'm not sure how to address this as well in the mean time?
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Although I am closing I'm still open for now! What do you do when you have two children who are not getting along? I have one who is 10 months older then another and they constantly fight. Hit and fight over toys! I have made the parents of the one who is starting it aware but it continues regardless of my efforts to redirect and stop it. I have had lots of problems with the same child similar... Pulling hair and pushing. I am giving my notice on Friday so I'm not sure how to address this as well in the mean time?I am honest with parents that this is a LAST RESORT intervention and that if there is not significant improvement despite this, the child will have to go elsewhere.
At the same time, I also try to be VERY honest with myself. This is a time to take a hard look at what I am offering. Are there enough toys - and duplicates of popular items? Do the children seem bored? Am I giving the kids a good mix of free and provider led play? Many times when I notice children behaving aggressively there have been warning signs - rising volume, increase in whining or tattling, etc. and honestly, I wasn't paying attention- it happens. Some times simple changes make a huge improvement in the tone of the day.
All that said, I am not willing to risk losing "good" kids because of one aggressive one. And not every child care is right for every child and I am okay if my dc is not the right place for a particular child. If I were you the next few weeks this child would be by my side - if only to save your sanity. If you can make some changes to your routine to make things easier on you and the kids, then do it. Good luck in your last few weeks!- Flag
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Most in this forum will not agree with me but in my opinion I would not address behavior problems with the parents at this point. We all know that working with parents to correct/improve child's difficult behavior takes a long time and a lot of “back and forward” between parents and provider, and at this point you have not enough time for that. Why add more stress to an already stressful situation to everyone involved (closing the daycare/parents looking for a new arrangement)? In my very personal opinion, I think the important thing now is to end up things in a good note for everyone. Share with families the happy moments and take safety precautions for the bad moments (separate kids in groups/think ahead of time of an activity that will have a positive effect in the children's moral when fights begin, like dancing or tumbling on mats...). When moments are happy take pictures to share... when moments are bad, take it as a reassuring sign that you made the right decision to close... enjoy your decision and move onThat is what I'm doing and I will close my daycare in less than 3 weeks.
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