The DCP Was VERY Aggressive With My Kid In Front Of My Eyes

[youretooloud]

I wouldn't call that abuse, but it certainly is wrong to grab her face like that.

I get that she was frustrated. 30 min late is a very long time. (if she was closed) I would be very upset too. I would be SUPER upset that she opened the door by herself. I've had kids do that too, and I will actually yell at the child.

But, there is no reason, ever that i'd grab a child's face. I can't even picture a time i'd do that unless maybe the child had something in his or her mouth.

[snbauser]

30 min late is a very long time. (if she was closed) I would be very upset too.

Although there is NEVER a reason to harm a child, you also need to understand that if you are continually late you will lose providers more often than you can imagine. I am very flexible with all of my families as far as drop off times but I am firm on pick up times. When I close it is time for my family. I get very irritated very quickly when parents are habitually late. Keep that in mind when you are looking for a new provider.

[Blackcat31]

NO, my daughter is no longer there, I didn't send her today and I will not send her again.
I know that opening the door is not allowed, but the door is locked and I know that the door will never be opened if my daughter tried because simply she is too short.. My daughter run to the door when she saw me, and she did as If she is opening the door for me to let me in quickly ( It is normal ! she is a child and is happy seeing me at pick up).

What happened exactly is pressing firmly over my daughters hands, then firmly squeezing the cheeks between her index and thumb.. No it is not just a gentle turn of the head.

Thanks for your reply!

Is this the same provider that you suspected was spanking your DD in regards to bathroom use?

[Crystal]

This whole thing sound hokey to me.

[MissAnn]

This whole thing sound hokey to me.

Exactly what I've been thinking. Seems to be more about the money. Seems like the cheek hold/pinch is exaggerated.

[snbauser]

This whole thing sound hokey to me.

I wondered as well but since the OP said she was new to the USA I figure it might just be a language barrier as well.

[Crystal]

Refer to Blackcat's post above. I personally think it is someone who is trying to start controversy

[MissAnn]

Refer to Blackcat's post above. I personally think it is someone who is trying to start controversy

We'll have to see if OP vanishes.

Not cool.

Hate when the "stories" make providers look awful.

I apologize if I'm wrong.

[Unregistered]

We'll have to see if OP vanishes.

Not cool.

Hate when the "stories" make providers look awful.

I apologize if I'm wrong.

When I posted here I thought I would find an advice from people who know more than me in this field.. But I am really sorry to see that some of you are presuming. I have never told one word which is not true in this story.
You don't know me.. If I am a trouble maker or exaggeration things, so you wouldn't see me here asking for advice..
I have never thought of making the provider awful..

Please try to help and advice people and don't presume.
Thanks!

[Crystal]

My response comes from your many different stories about this provider, and that you post under the username fairymama and as unregistered, as well as have been given some VERY good advice about this provider when she SPANKED your child and then you continued to take her there. IMO, a legitimite poster/parent would have taken that advice and NOT have taken her child back to the provider who you say HITS your child.

So, if I was wrong and you are INDEED being genuine, then I have to question WHY ON EARTH have you continued to take your child to a provider you claim ABUSES your child? I also have to question WHY would you be late, on a regular basis? That is BEYOND rude and as a provider I would have terminated services A LONG time ago.

[DaisyMamma]

I'm confused.

How does anyone know she has posted as fairymama? Or that she thought her daughter had been spanked for bathroom issues?

Did I miss something?

[Hunni Bee]

I'm confused.

How does anyone know she has posted as fairymama? Or that she thought her daughter had been spanked for bathroom issues?

Did I miss something?

I had the same question.

I could be wrong, but I don't think this is the same person.

[Blackcat31]

I'm confused.

How does anyone know she has posted as fairymama? Or that she thought her daughter had been spanked for bathroom issues?

Did I miss something?

I had the same question.

I could be wrong, but I don't think this is the same person.

I posted a veiled comment questioning the OP about the provider being the same provider who spanked her DD. I may have wrongly (?) tied the OP to another member but never actually named them.

My reasoning was based on OP's "tone" and speech patterns as well as OP's focus on being habitually late for pick up and her mention of paying her provider during her time away traveling.

Several commonalities between the two.

[MissAnn]

I noticed that the OP and Fairymama have the same habit of putting a space after the first parenthesis, ( like this)

So, can we now stop with the......my child's provider is abusive and what should I do stories?

[mamac]

I noticed that the OP and Fairymama have the same habit of putting a space after the first parenthesis, ( like this)

So, can we now stop with the......my child's provider is abusive and what should I do stories?

Nice observation.