*Warning Trigger* Pls Help ! How To Explain When Child*Almost* Gets Seriously Hurt?

[Country Kids]

This is what I do with cords. I have a metal clip at the top left and right of each window and double no tie breakaway cords. When I pull up the shades I hang the cord over the clip which puts the level of the cords about six foot off the ground.

I have something like that over my windows. Sad thing is I have lived here 17 years and guess what I never knew what it was for!

Thanks for letting me know Nannyde!

[My3cents]

to the bolded.....WHAT???? what are you talking about? it is completely fine in every way, shape and form for this provider to do cut back on daycare. she said she already knew this child was not a good fit for her home. she did the right and responsible thing by giving notice. unfortunately he got hurt on his last day. but that is no reason to imply that she then needs help from other providers and needs education. she already said she was shutting down her daycare. i am sorry but you have gone beyond rude in this comment. its not helpful and its just plain hurtful. I am sorry you feel this way, it is the last thing I ever try to do is be rude to someone else, or hurtful. I was giving my opinion and it is ok if you don't agree- It is ok if the OP doesn't agree. I agree with you that it is the responsible thing to do with the child that got hurt. It was not working out, two weeks notice. That is done. I don't agree with letting another family that is counting on her care and has had no issues go but keep a part timer. I feel make up your mind if you want to do daycare or not. I responded to this more in another reply post. I personally dislike it when providers are not consistent. That being said we all have to do what is best for ourselves.

to the OP, i would not call the mom for immediate pickup. i would take a picture of the blinds AND the injury for my records. I would then type out a little note of what happened. explain to mom. have her sign the paper that you did tell her so that you have that for your own records as well. clear proof that you told her what happened and how you handled it. at this point, the best you can do is be honest and let the chips fall where they may.

I responded above-

[My3cents]

Here is my two cents:

@ OP~ Just be honest. Tell the mother exactly what happened. Document everything and move on. You are obviously taking care of the safety hazard so that part is a moot point now.

@ Everyone else ~ I am floored that you all came down so hard on My3cents. She is a long standing member here and perhaps she is reading while feeding a baby or trying to prepare snack...who knows, we are all multi tasking so it is understandable as to how she most definitely mis-read what was written.

Like Candiancare said, the original post was/is long and rambling and difficult to follow. I DID go in and edit as it was all jumbled together and very badly spelled....so I assume OP posted using her phone.

However, since we are a forum that is suppose to SUPPORT one another, why not just say "Hey, My3cents...I think you read that a little wrong. Maybe re-read it again as I think some of the details are being misunderstood."

THAT would have been helpful. It is one thing when ONE person brings it up or gets down on her but why the necessity of the others? There really was no need for anyone other than the first person who noticed to reprimand her and scold her for her words.

I KNOW I read the original post more than once before FULLY understanding. I was emotional the first time I read it. It is HARD to read things like that without being upset so typing while thinking with your heart is tough sometimes. A gentle nudge to re-read would have been more appropriate. IMHO.Thanks BC, and I did read it more then once but I admit fast because as always I am multitasking. I do stand on what I said, but if I was harsh I am sorry and I do apologize. I am not a cruel, mean, hurtful, rude person. Opinionated yes- very. Right all the time-far from it. Experienced - yes.

@Cheer~ This (the above) is NOT directed at you or anyone else who made a comment on the terming FT kids for more time with family comment. That particular comment was something My3cents gave as an opinion so I feel that is fair game for others to respond to. I agree if a client is not working out you should let them go. I don't agree with being wishy washy- probably because I have worked so hard to get where I am at. Everyone should do what is best for them. I personally don't like it when a provider opens and closes, opens and closes or favors sets of clients over others.

Bottom line though is it isn't necessary to jump down someone's throat immediately. A little "head's up...that was kinda harsh" (wink wink) type of reply would have done just as well and would have avoided the now awkward tone of this thread.

I just don't feel it was necessary for others to then jump aboard and continue lecturing her (My3cents).

Again thank you BC and I am all good on my end. No hard feelings towards anyone. I stand on what I said, but have gone back and addressed a little of this here and there, to give more of an understanding of where I was coming from and trying not to take away from the OP. Just as it was said I was harsh, I admitted I was harsh. That was where I was at in the moment of how I took what I read and how I responded.

Happy Friday everyone. I wish you all a wonderful weekend!!!:hug:

[My3cents]

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I dont think what a moderator thinks has anything to do with my point.

MY point was since My3cents is a long standing member of this board and is usually supportive and helpful when posting that other members should have taken that into consideration and said to her "Hey, I don't know if you meant to come across so harsh but you might want to go back and re-read what was written in the original post" BFORE jumping all over her.

THAT was MY point. What a moderator classifies as harsh or not harsh has nothing to do with what I was saying.

Your comment (in quote) makes it sound like you post according to what moderators may or may not think. Why not just post what YOU think?

I read it as the OP knew the blinds were a problem but just kept putting them off for everyone else to handle.
I don't need a moderator to tell me I was harsh I was harsh. I admitted that. I am ok with that, because I can think for myself and often I do.

With the above being said, we all make mistakes and that is how we learn from them. All the criticism over what I said was taken in thought by me. I refuse to be a cookie cutter of everyone else. Why do you think I do childcare???lovethis:: I hope that the OP took into thought all of the advise given to her and formed her own opinion and thoughts on her issues. OP- please update on the parents reaction and how you ended up handling it. IF I were you, I would just be honest and tell her what happened, log it just in case and I wish you luck and happiness with whatever you decide to do with your daycare career and personal life- Best-

[My3cents]

This is what I do with cords. I have a metal clip at the top left and right of each window and double no tie breakaway cords. When I pull up the shades I hang the cord over the clip which puts the level of the cords about six foot off the ground.

I do the same thing. I have a little hook- its actually a picture frame hook and I wind the cord up there. Touching the blinds is a big NO here. Reaching them is not even an issue. My blinds are up and down all day, or open and shut all day- actually both, depending on the window. Anyhow this is all I am saying on this issue........ at least until next week

[nannyde]

I responded to some of this above-

My3

I can't tell you the number of clients I have had in my two decades who have wanted to cut back the hours or days of daycare down because they found a better money or care gig for their family. A provider cutting back on clients because it is a better deal for their own family isn't any different than a family cutting down or out because it is better for theirs. As long as everyone gives contracted notice what difference does it make? The parents aren't obligated to secure our future and we aren't obligated to secure theirs. It's good business to know what works best for your own family and be able to make it happen. I don't think there are too many amoung us who wouldnt love to cut back a full timer in exchange for a part timer. I would.

[canadiancare]

If I win the lottery I am cutting down to no timers.

[SquirrellyMama]

If I win the lottery I am cutting down to no timers.

[Heidi]

If I win the lottery I am cutting down to no timers.

I just checked 10 minutes ago, and I DID NOT win 90 million dollars.

[canadiancare]

I just checked 10 minutes ago, and I DID NOT win 90 million dollars.

Well doesn't that ****?


I don't actually buy tickets so I won't be winning anytime soon.

[Blackcat31]

I don't actually buy tickets so I won't be winning anytime soon.

Oh, well that explains why I haven't won anything yet either!?


I was thinking about jumping on the bandwagon with the 9 hair stylist who went in together and bought a lottery ticket.

They won 7 million dollars, but the stylist who actually purchased the ticket is claiming the prize money all to herself.

The other gals are suing her for their share.

I considered saying I was in on it too.

[canadiancare]

Oh, well that explains why I haven't won anything yet either!?


I was thinking about jumping on the bandwagon with the 9 hair stylist who went in together and bought a lottery ticket.

They won 7 million dollars, but the stylist who actually purchased the ticket is claiming the prize money all to herself.

The other gals are suing her for their share.

I considered saying I was in on it too.

Don't you remember that time I gave you a really good tip and said to put my name on a lottery ticket?

[mamac]

I have no advice on the original post but I wanted to share my solution to the dangling cords. I cut all mine so that they are only a few inches long. If you need to raise the entire blind, even all the way, the cord doesn't go low enough to pose a choking/strangulation hazard for small children. I think it also looks much neater than having the cord tied up somewhere.

[cheerfuldom]

My3

I can't tell you the number of clients I have had in my two decades who have wanted to cut back the hours or days of daycare down because they found a better money or care gig for their family. A provider cutting back on clients because it is a better deal for their own family isn't any different than a family cutting down or out because it is better for theirs. As long as everyone gives contracted notice what difference does it make? The parents aren't obligated to secure our future and we aren't obligated to secure theirs. It's good business to know what works best for your own family and be able to make it happen. I don't think there are too many amoung us who wouldnt love to cut back a full timer in exchange for a part timer. I would.

agree.

changing your policies to fit the changing needs of your family does not make you "wishy washy". have different priorities than your daycare families does not make you "wishy washy".

we are small business owners here. we can change things as we see fit. i have taken a kid here and there only to find out that that one extra addition is not working and having to term for my own personal reasons....nothing wrong with the family. i have changed hours, rates, full timers, part timers, ages, pretty much every part of daycare for the past 6 years as my families needs have changed (one move, four kids, a husband that has also changed jobs). none of this warrants others viewing me as indecisive or unreliable. I am decisive and reliable.....for my family first! just because it doesnt mesh with the daycare families sometimes does not make me a bad provider. nor does the OP need to apologize for changing things up on her end.

i know we can agree to disagree and that is fine. but i absolutely feel frustrated for the OP that she has come here for advice and her post was picked apart, misread, judge on in such a negative light, and decisions she already made were put down. wow. wouldnt be surprised if she doesnt come back here.

[Unregistered]

Sorry, I have been SO busy ! And I am sorry for the first post being confusing,or written so poorly. I was using wifi, on my phone.

Update on dcb who got caught in the blind's cord . My hands were shaking, I was so nervous. DCM didn't act angry, or anything like that. So if she was upset, I couldn't tell. She stated that she will hang onto my number and will be giving me a call some time , for occasional care. (A week ago, I had told her that I would still do occasional, drop in care or saturday care if she needed, and if I was available.)
It will be nice when the curtains and curtain rods are all installed&put up for four different sets of windows, all around the house.

agree.

changing your policies to fit the changing needs of your family does not make you "wishy washy". have different priorities than your daycare families does not make you "wishy washy".

we are small business owners here. we can change things as we see fit. i have taken a kid here and there only to find out that that one extra addition is not working and having to term for my own personal reasons....nothing wrong with the family. i have changed hours, rates, full timers, part timers, ages, pretty much every part of daycare for the past 6 years as my families needs have changed (one move, four kids, a husband that has also changed jobs). none of this warrants others viewing me as indecisive or unreliable. I am decisive and reliable.....for my family first! just because it doesnt mesh with the daycare families sometimes does not make me a bad provider. nor does the OP need to apologize for changing things up on her end.

i know we can agree to disagree and that is fine. but i absolutely feel frustrated for the OP that she has come here for advice and her post was picked apart, misread, judge on in such a negative light, and decisions she already made were put down. wow. wouldnt be surprised if she doesnt come back here.

** insert thumbs up,thumbs up ***

I agree to the above.

I am going on 4 years doing this. I know it's not that long. But this is the first&only baby(and now 1 yr old) I've ever had of my own, while doing daycare at the same time. I have more children,but they are much older so the spacing between him and my last beore him, are many years. when i started dongi childcare out of my home, it was not the same because all my kids were only older kids. I had no problems getting up at 5am for a 6am arrival and still having time for my family.

When he was a little infant ,it was less complicated having other infants at the same time. Becuase I wasn't trying to teach him that many things. So he was just like as if he was another daycare baby in the "group" . I had them all on the same schedule and it was really nice !
As he gets older,the dck's are getting more difficult because all the while they are getting older, I am trying to teach him more things . And because of parenting differences, the other babies/toddlers can't learn or do the same things . So I realized I can't teach them all the same things at the same time. Especially if one or more has issues from the parent NOT tecahing them things they either should already know,or if it's a bad habit that is affecting me,in my home (like starting to fight nap,behavior issues,etc..) .

One of the other reasons I needed to terminate care with that one dcb, to better meet the needs of my family, is because of a scheduling conflict. The schedule was turning out to be different than what she said it would be, and then I also didn't realize how long a day it made having an early arrival with one child, and a later pick up with another, even though both children were under 9-10 hours each, it ended up being two overlapping sets of contracted hours making an 11 hour day , NOT counting the 1-2 hours it takes me to get ready because I have other stuff I have to do ,before opening my door.

How am I supposed to know that when he got to be this age , that the other little ones would become too difficult ? I've had all different age ranges, before. But all that was before I had a baby of my own. for those of you that can do it,more power to you ;-)


I realize I just can't do 12 months-2 years while my own son is within that age range because of too different of parenting styles between my clients and myself. I thought I could do it, as he got older and now I know I can't. It was a learning experience,or mistake. Whatever you want to call it. I never have really agreed with how people do things with 12-24 month olds. but it didn't really make that big of difference until my own little one became in that age range. Because I am trying to do things with him that conflict with how I would have to do things with some one else's child. This is why I decided sticking to 0-12 months would be best , OR kids already potty trained who's parent's have more simliar parenting styles.