Missing Out On Special Moments...

[Former Teacher]

I voted no. I have no children. However had I been blessed with them then no I wouldn't.

OT: Once there was a parent at my former center who had 3 children. 2 girls and a boy. The girls were older and school aged while the boy was a baby. His 1st bday was coming up and I know I was excited happyface.

So I asked the mom what kind of party were they having for the boy. She looked at me like I was crazy...I had to repeat the question. She said "oh Heavens no, we aren't having a party" I was shocked! His FIRST birthday. The ONLY boy. My mouth spoke before my brain thought and I said "what? it's his first " She said "oh I know but it's not like he will remember "

I immediately thought....no he won't remember but YOU will.

[SquirrellyMama]

So I asked the mom what kind of party were they having for the boy. She looked at me like I was crazy...I had to repeat the question. She said "oh Heavens no, we aren't having a party" I was shocked! His FIRST birthday. The ONLY boy. My mouth spoke before my brain thought and I said "what? it's his first " She said "oh I know but it's not like he will remember "

I immediately thought....no he won't remember but YOU will.

You really don't need to feel sad for the boy or the parent. We didn't have birthday parties for our kids' first birthdays. Not our first, our boy or our youngest. We made cake but didn't have a big celebration.

My kids don't care and I'm not feeling regret.

K

[Former Teacher]

You really don't need to feel sad for the boy or the parent. We didn't have birthday parties for our kids' first birthdays. Not our first, our boy or our youngest. We made cake but didn't have a big celebration.

My kids don't care and I'm not feeling regret.

K

While I TOTALLY respect your opinion etc I still feel sad. I am one of those women who would sell their soul to have a child-birth or adopted. If given the chance I would take advantage of every milestone that I could.

[Live and Learn]

i would never send my kids to daycare so no, they would never be there on their birthdays either. Thats just me.....i am not saying that i judge others for making different choices but i personally would rather do almost anything then send my kid to someone elses house for 10 hours (or more) a day.

exactly!

[mama0609]

When I worked outside the home I took my kids' bdays as vacation days. I could never stomach sending my kid to daycare on their birthday. We always took them out for lunch and got to pick out a special toy and spent time with them. That is so important to me. As a provider I've had dcp send their kids here on their birthday and it breaks my heart. They have no problem taking random days off but can't take a day off for their kid's bday.

[SquirrellyMama]

While I TOTALLY respect your opinion etc I still feel sad. I am one of those women who would sell their soul to have a child-birth or adopted. If given the chance I would take advantage of every milestone that I could.

And I completely understand how your experience colors your view also. I just found this thread to be very judgmental at times. I'm not saying I thought you were horribly judgmental, just the tone of the entire thread. I took your "sad" feeling to say that the mom should be sad also.

We are all different and that is ok.

Kelly

[cheerfuldom]

I just want to point out that if your daycare is open and you are working it and your kid is there on their birthday then that's almost the same thing as sending your kid to daycare IMO

its not even almost the same thing. not here anyway. i have a very small group. i keep it as small as i can afford so that i am available for my own kids.

if my home was the same thing as any old daycare, i certainly wouldnt be making the sacrifice to keep my kids here. its a million times better than any daycare! my kids have mom to hold and hug and kiss when they need me. i dont miss milestones, funny stories, walks to the park, trips to the library.

i go all out for my own kids birthday and no i dont do that for the daycare kids. the daycare kids are at daycare. my kids are at home. yes mom is busy at times and we have other people here during the day but its still home.

[cheerfuldom]

Quick question... I understand the question as "Would you send your kid to DAYCARE on their birthday if you were off work"

IMHO Daycare and School are not the same thing in any way, shape or form. No matter what preschool curriculum you use during circle time.... Daycare is not School.

Preschoolers are not School Agers.

The topic got confusing... :confused:

i agree.

but also add that my oldest does go to school three days a week as a preK. on her birthday, i went to school and brought treats for everyone, we sang for her and brought her a balloon and a toy. i dont want to keep her away from her schooling but its still a special day. and yes, her preK is school. it is a private school with multiple grades per class. she sits down and participates in the school day....its not daycare. she is already writing cursive. anyway.....

[nanglgrl]

I replied wrong, I thought it just said would you send your child on their birthday, I missed the part that said if you were home, so I answered Yes, but that would definitely be a NO if I was home, If I were working yes I would.

Same here. I answered wrong because I didn't see the entire question and answered "other". If I was at home I would not take my child to daycare on their birthday.

[nanglgrl]

I voted no. I have no children. However had I been blessed with them then no I wouldn't.

OT: Once there was a parent at my former center who had 3 children. 2 girls and a boy. The girls were older and school aged while the boy was a baby. His 1st bday was coming up and I know I was excited happyface.

So I asked the mom what kind of party were they having for the boy. She looked at me like I was crazy...I had to repeat the question. She said "oh Heavens no, we aren't having a party" I was shocked! His FIRST birthday. The ONLY boy. My mouth spoke before my brain thought and I said "what? it's his first " She said "oh I know but it's not like he will remember "

I immediately thought....no he won't remember but YOU will.

I have 4 children. The eldest is 20 and the youngest is 2. We had huge birthdays every year for the first child, the second child had big birthdays at first but then they dwindled when the third child came I realized exactly what this mom did with her first child, the child doesn't care or remember. I don't really remember my 20 year old's first birthday, what I do remember clearly is the stress of putting everything together.

[renodeb]

Ok I put yes on the poll but if I was home, no I wouldnt.
Debbie

[Country Kids]

I do have a little one coming today on her birthday-mom is home. The child wants to come here though and celebrate with her friends for just a couple hours and then mom is picking up and they are having a blast of a day for the afternoon. Also, this is not a child I have everyday-maybe a couple times a month if mom gets called into work.

These parents are very hands on and this is a child that I wish all children could be like. Polite to the hilt, never cries, everyones friend, loves our family to death. The skies are grey today but when this child walks in it will a sunshiney day!