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Hi everyone. So I need some honest opinions about how to handle a situation like this. I am not a licensed provider yet but I am currently preparing to get licensed. I watch a friends child at her home occasionally until my center is licensed and ready for business. She would like for me to watch her child in my home once I am licensed......
Okay so heres the situation. The little girl I watch is 3. I also have 3 kids of my own (3, 6, and 10). I have been coming to her home to watch her since January. I provide preschool activities, crafts, field trips, prepare meals, do her hair, tidy the house, do laundry and prepare dinner. I arrive at 6:30 and the agreement was that she would be home by 6:00 in the evenings at the latest. I have my children with me in the morning and drop my oldest 2 off to school and also pick them up from school at the end of the day. She is walking distance from the school so sometimes we walk sometimes I drive. (just trying to paint a picture for you of my frustration). The mother has only made it home by 6 twice since I have been watching her. Otherwise she usually strolls through the door between 7:30-8:30 pm.. I have told her I would like for her to make an honest effort to be there by the agreed upon time because its not fair to all parties involved when she doesnt..
So her daughter is a bit mouthy, constantly talking back, throwing tantrums when redirected, refusing to listen, tells her mom what to do, hits and kicks her mom, and the list goes on and on. In her home I have established a time out space that we call the thinking corner. She knows the rules and for the most part it works. She does little things on purpose though like: will say shes thirsty and take her open cup and drop it on the floor when shes done rather than set it on the table, wipes her nose and throws the tissues on the floor, stand in the bathroom and demand you to pull her clothes up or down and if you insist on her doing it she will say "well I'm gonna pee my pants then since you wont" then she will yell "get over here and pull my pants down and put me on the potty right now!!! " I have spoken to her mom about it all and told her that if it continues I will not watch her and she will have to find other arrangements. Her response is "yep thats Susie, you have to pick your battles with her or you will be fussing with a 3 yr old " and then she laughs. But its not funny by far. I told her shes going to have to start coming home to get her because shes not correcting the behavior. So yesterday she tells her daughter shes going somewhere fun at work today ( shes a teacher). The little girl says no your not you are gonna be home with me or you better take me with you. Mom just laughs. This morning the little girl stood in the bathroom and urinated on herself. Then she tells me that she wants to go on the trip with her mom. I called her mom and told her what "susie" has done and shes like oh she will be fine just clean her up and send her to time out. I told her No, she needs to come home and deal with it and that if she thinks its fine she needs to start looking for other daycare arrangements. This was at 7:30 this morning. She said she would be home shortly, but did not show up until 12:50. Am I wrong for feeling like the mom doesnt respect me and that this family is not the right fit for me.. Please be honest with me and tell me if I am wrong or how I should handle this situation, because I feel like Im being petty to be upset that it took her this long to come home, but then i think if she was sick would she have come straight home, seriously doubt it.
Okay so heres the situation. The little girl I watch is 3. I also have 3 kids of my own (3, 6, and 10). I have been coming to her home to watch her since January. I provide preschool activities, crafts, field trips, prepare meals, do her hair, tidy the house, do laundry and prepare dinner. I arrive at 6:30 and the agreement was that she would be home by 6:00 in the evenings at the latest. I have my children with me in the morning and drop my oldest 2 off to school and also pick them up from school at the end of the day. She is walking distance from the school so sometimes we walk sometimes I drive. (just trying to paint a picture for you of my frustration). The mother has only made it home by 6 twice since I have been watching her. Otherwise she usually strolls through the door between 7:30-8:30 pm.. I have told her I would like for her to make an honest effort to be there by the agreed upon time because its not fair to all parties involved when she doesnt..
So her daughter is a bit mouthy, constantly talking back, throwing tantrums when redirected, refusing to listen, tells her mom what to do, hits and kicks her mom, and the list goes on and on. In her home I have established a time out space that we call the thinking corner. She knows the rules and for the most part it works. She does little things on purpose though like: will say shes thirsty and take her open cup and drop it on the floor when shes done rather than set it on the table, wipes her nose and throws the tissues on the floor, stand in the bathroom and demand you to pull her clothes up or down and if you insist on her doing it she will say "well I'm gonna pee my pants then since you wont" then she will yell "get over here and pull my pants down and put me on the potty right now!!! " I have spoken to her mom about it all and told her that if it continues I will not watch her and she will have to find other arrangements. Her response is "yep thats Susie, you have to pick your battles with her or you will be fussing with a 3 yr old " and then she laughs. But its not funny by far. I told her shes going to have to start coming home to get her because shes not correcting the behavior. So yesterday she tells her daughter shes going somewhere fun at work today ( shes a teacher). The little girl says no your not you are gonna be home with me or you better take me with you. Mom just laughs. This morning the little girl stood in the bathroom and urinated on herself. Then she tells me that she wants to go on the trip with her mom. I called her mom and told her what "susie" has done and shes like oh she will be fine just clean her up and send her to time out. I told her No, she needs to come home and deal with it and that if she thinks its fine she needs to start looking for other daycare arrangements. This was at 7:30 this morning. She said she would be home shortly, but did not show up until 12:50. Am I wrong for feeling like the mom doesnt respect me and that this family is not the right fit for me.. Please be honest with me and tell me if I am wrong or how I should handle this situation, because I feel like Im being petty to be upset that it took her this long to come home, but then i think if she was sick would she have come straight home, seriously doubt it.
I am so glad you will not be working in that situation anymore.
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