In almost 8 years, I have never had to do this before. There have been kids that I KNEW weren't going to work out and let go, and many more that I thought were acclimating well and kept on.
I have a dcb who started Monday. He has some pretty bad habits, some of which I knew going in. I have talked to Mom daily about the things I am seeing. Today he was so unmanageable I had my daughter(almost 14 and off of school) shadow him.
I run a 2+ prek program. Dcb is 2 1/2.
I expect my 2's to sit at the table for the duration of meals (20 or so minutes). I cannot have them up and down. Running back and forth to toys with sticky hands. They get one warning, and then the food goes in the trash and they are sent to wash hands. I have been giving dck 3 warnings, but he is up every minute (no joke). He got up 3x and each time I gave him a gentle reminder and then the last time I asked him if he was all done or if he was going to keep eating. He said he was all done. Then he LOST it when I took his plate away. It's like this at EVERY meal/snack. All food has to be kept at the table, dcb carries food, drinks. Today he threw his (plastic) fork so hard it broke. He grabs food from the other kids, dumps milk on his tray, etc. My day care parents were like
at breakfast drop offs.
He pushes and hits. I think that's self explanatory. Monday-nothing, but he didn't move far from me. Tuesday-hit x 1 over a toy he wanted, Wednesday-shoving x1 but I was watching him like a hawk. It is the main reason he was removed from his former childcare situation. Mom said he picked it up there, and was hit daily. Today he was hit, but my dcg (who has NEVER hit anyone here) hit him back seconds before I grabbed him, as he was repeatedly hitting her in the head with a block as she was trying to move (I was helping another boy with buttoning pants after potty). This was right after breakfast and I immediately asked my daughter to shadow him. She stopped him from pushing 3 times, and hitting once between 8-11:30.
Spitting/raspberries, which I posted about before, after two days of saying "Yucky, that's gross!" and having him clean himself up, this behavior is almost gone.
He doesn't know how to pick up, he screams when even asked to help. My kids all love picking up, as they only take out one bin at a time, then they race to see who can pick theirs up fastest. They all get hand stamps at the end of each race. Dcb refused to pick up. I didn't give him a stamp. Commence screaming. (see next paragraph)
EVERY SINGLE TIME I say no, or remove him from something he throws a massive screaming fit. I just walk him to the cry corner and tell him he can come join us when he calms down. He will stop crying almost immediately and come out and play nicely again.
NOW---in between bouts of this behavior, he is a great kid! So smart, loves loves loves circle time, crafts, free art, outside. He has our routine down pat "After circle time we goin outside to play!" He gets excited about coming here, has learned words to some of our songs, etc.
There is a week left in his 2 week trial. I would like to extend his trial to 4 weeks, note the behaviors and if there is improvement, keep him on. Has anyone extended a trial before? How would you word this to dcp's?
I think he will work out, just needs more time. When corrected he seems surprised (previous child care never addressed any of this) and will say sorry, hug the other child. Today when he broke the fork he said "Oh so sorry!" ran to clean it up and then gave me a hug with ANOTHER apology "I sowwy I brake you fork!"
I have a dcb who started Monday. He has some pretty bad habits, some of which I knew going in. I have talked to Mom daily about the things I am seeing. Today he was so unmanageable I had my daughter(almost 14 and off of school) shadow him.
I run a 2+ prek program. Dcb is 2 1/2.
I expect my 2's to sit at the table for the duration of meals (20 or so minutes). I cannot have them up and down. Running back and forth to toys with sticky hands. They get one warning, and then the food goes in the trash and they are sent to wash hands. I have been giving dck 3 warnings, but he is up every minute (no joke). He got up 3x and each time I gave him a gentle reminder and then the last time I asked him if he was all done or if he was going to keep eating. He said he was all done. Then he LOST it when I took his plate away. It's like this at EVERY meal/snack. All food has to be kept at the table, dcb carries food, drinks. Today he threw his (plastic) fork so hard it broke. He grabs food from the other kids, dumps milk on his tray, etc. My day care parents were like

He pushes and hits. I think that's self explanatory. Monday-nothing, but he didn't move far from me. Tuesday-hit x 1 over a toy he wanted, Wednesday-shoving x1 but I was watching him like a hawk. It is the main reason he was removed from his former childcare situation. Mom said he picked it up there, and was hit daily. Today he was hit, but my dcg (who has NEVER hit anyone here) hit him back seconds before I grabbed him, as he was repeatedly hitting her in the head with a block as she was trying to move (I was helping another boy with buttoning pants after potty). This was right after breakfast and I immediately asked my daughter to shadow him. She stopped him from pushing 3 times, and hitting once between 8-11:30.
Spitting/raspberries, which I posted about before, after two days of saying "Yucky, that's gross!" and having him clean himself up, this behavior is almost gone.
He doesn't know how to pick up, he screams when even asked to help. My kids all love picking up, as they only take out one bin at a time, then they race to see who can pick theirs up fastest. They all get hand stamps at the end of each race. Dcb refused to pick up. I didn't give him a stamp. Commence screaming. (see next paragraph)
EVERY SINGLE TIME I say no, or remove him from something he throws a massive screaming fit. I just walk him to the cry corner and tell him he can come join us when he calms down. He will stop crying almost immediately and come out and play nicely again.
NOW---in between bouts of this behavior, he is a great kid! So smart, loves loves loves circle time, crafts, free art, outside. He has our routine down pat "After circle time we goin outside to play!" He gets excited about coming here, has learned words to some of our songs, etc.
There is a week left in his 2 week trial. I would like to extend his trial to 4 weeks, note the behaviors and if there is improvement, keep him on. Has anyone extended a trial before? How would you word this to dcp's?
I think he will work out, just needs more time. When corrected he seems surprised (previous child care never addressed any of this) and will say sorry, hug the other child. Today when he broke the fork he said "Oh so sorry!" ran to clean it up and then gave me a hug with ANOTHER apology "I sowwy I brake you fork!"
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