Blowing Raspberries?

[daycarediva]

I had a dcb (2) start yesterday. ALL DAY LONG he is blowing raspberries, to the point there is constant spit on his chin, which he wipes with his hands. His chin is even getting red/chapped. Mom LOATHES this behavior, and even mentioned it in interview, it was picked up from another child at his former center (child spit/dck can't do that thankfully) so she is on board with ending it. At home he gets 2 warnings, then a TO for it. Which I think is giving him attention=more raspberries. I have (in a day and a half) just discouraged it, saying "Oh yucky!" and wiping his hands and face EVERY.SINGLE.TIME. Today at lunch he did it, got up, grabbed a wipe and said "Oh yucky, I spitted germs on me!" and wipes his own face and hands. He is VERY VERY verbal, just being taken off a 24/7 pacifier addiction, and just starting here.

[SilverSabre25]

That's going to be a hard one to discourage. Maybe start calmly telling him "Tongue in your mouth dcb," whenever you hear him doing it. Stopping him every time and wiping him off (or having him do it) is a good one too.

TO makes no sense to him; it's neither a natural nor a logical consequence and has no effect whatsoever on the undesirable behavior. It's not going to do anything but frustrate everyone.

[Willow]

That's going to be a hard one to discourage. Maybe start calmly telling him "Tongue in your mouth dcb," whenever you hear him doing it. Stopping him every time and wiping him off (or having him do it) is a good one too.

TO makes no sense to him; it's neither a natural nor a logical consequence and has no effect whatsoever on the undesirable behavior. It's not going to do anything but frustrate everyone.

I agree with the bolded especially.

I would be inclined to apply chin and lips with vaseline. It's non-toxic and should to alter the sensation he's creating if not make it impossible - an immediate reminder the second he tries it should be far more effective than an after the fact consequence.

I tried it once after a derm doc suggested it to me for a little lip chewer I had. She used to just bite her lower lip raw and mom using flavored chapsticks to try to alleviate the cracks and heal the sores just made her do it more.

Could he be teething? Or sensory seeking?

[Starburst]

Well the thing with raspberries is kids see it as a funny sound and eventually it can even just become a force of habit but adults see it as a sign of rudeness and disrepsect (like sticking your tongue out when someone makes you mad).

Depending on his cognitive ability you can try with just telling him 'I don't like that, please don't do that ' for now and continue saying it is 'yucky' or 'gross' and see how he reacts. if he keeps doing this to push buttons ignore it for a while. If it keeps up try giving the other kids positive praise for doing as you ask 'I like how bobby is being polite and isn't sticking his tongue out at anyone' or give the other children attention and ignore him when he is doing this and when he stops you start giving him more attention

[Lorna]

Yeah my little guys were doing that too. Different sound. I just said no spitting and they stopped. Still do it once and while but not as often.

[SuperNinjaMommy]

That's a hard one to break, I guess just reminding him that it's not polite and it's gross. Maybe taking away some play privilege for doing it?

[daycarediva]

I was told by Mom it is brand new behavior, and he is verbal enough to say to me "Luke did it at daytare, I wike it. My do it too!" *raspberries*


I might try super fun things for going without doing it, like blowing bubbles.

I did tell Mom that I would NOT be putting him in TO for it. TO here is used pretty much for hurting others only.