Rude Grandparent?

[SuperNinjaMommy]

I would have called him on it, "John, you realize this is a non-drop-off time? I will not be able to accept your child for 15 min". I think they don't obey b/c u allow them to get away with it. The grandma thing is nuts, i had a situation like that, it was like having to please 3 parents, ughhh -

I would have had another parent not been there. It would have seemed hypocritical for me to enforce it for him and not her but in reality she had permission a week in advance and he does it daily without permission. I agree though, I totally take responsibility for letting them get away with it. I'm more concerned about the grandma part because she clearly has no problem slandering.

[SuperNinjaMommy]

I would type up the term letter and hand it to them at pick up. They have to know this is coming...I'm sitting here shaking my head,I can't believe the very next day they would do this, obviously they don't think rules apply to them. Are you doing immediate termination or giving 2 weeks? I would have a hard time with 2 weeks if they plan on breaking rules every day!

I'm not sure yet, I hate uncomfortable situations. I'm like sweating ::

[Blackcat31]

If you don't want to call or speak directly to them, why not just send them both a quick text asking if they received and read the letter you sent home yesterday?

Depending on how they respond, you'll know what to do.

Honestly, it sounds as though you are simply done with this family whether they received the notice or not.

If that is the case, just do yourself a favor and term them.

Something short and sweet.

Dear DCF

Due to continuous disregard of my rules and policies, I feel it is best to term our agreement for child care services.

This termination is effective immediately.

Sincerely

Provider.

Hand the child's belongings to whomever picks up and the written letter of termination.

Done.

Breathe a sigh of relief and don't look back. Doesn't really matter what Grandma has to say to anyone. This family will make it's own reputation no maTter where they attend for care.

[SuperNinjaMommy]

Ok so I sent a text to the mom (obviously boss) she works nights so I never actually see her exceptt on rare occassions. I just asked if she received the note I sent home and that I had concerns about those rules that I love being their provider but it's important that the rules are followed. She hadn't seen the sheet yet so she asked what it said so I explained. First she had no idea he brought him yesterday and she had no idea that there were issues with his drop off times. She said she took care of it and he would not be there in between those times ever again. Also that she was going to make sure that all schedule changes were communicated by her personally from now on. She seemed very understanding to me and over and over said how sorry she was and that she did NOT want to lose me as a provider. Made me feel a ton better. I didn't deal with the grandma issue because I think I can subside that by keeping communication low. I do feel better about everything though. What i've learned is not to tell this dad anything because he clearly doesn't get it.

[Blackcat31]

Ok so I sent a text to the mom (obviously boss) she works nights so I never actually see her exceptt on rare occassions. I just asked if she received the note I sent home and that I had concerns about those rules that I love being their provider but it's important that the rules are followed. She hadn't seen the sheet yet so she asked what it said so I explained. First she had no idea he brought him yesterday and she had no idea that there were issues with his drop off times. She said she took care of it and he would not be there in between those times ever again. Also that she was going to make sure that all schedule changes were communicated by her personally from now on. She seemed very understanding to me and over and over said how sorry she was and that she did NOT want to lose me as a provider. Made me feel a ton better. I didn't deal with the grandma issue because I think I can subside that by keeping communication low. I do feel better about everything though. What i've learned is not to tell this dad anything because he clearly doesn't get it.

Good for you! 99.9% or issues we have with parents are due to lack of, poor or no communication.

I am glad you decided to contact the mother. She sounds like the more logical and understanding parent.

Now, just make sure you enforce any policies they may break or bend in the future.

[SuperNinjaMommy]

I will, thanks ladies for the advice and for letting me vent!