ONE Problem Family. Just One Family In Years And Years...

[youretooloud]

I'm not used to dealing with these kind's of people. I look forward to the school year ending.

I took this kid on a favor to another mom. The other mom sounded skeptical about this girl. But, being all optimistic, I was thinking "How bad can this be?"

She comes only two days a week.

1. The parents complain that she doesn't have enough crafts to take home.

2. They never remember to pay me. I ALWAYS have to get into it with them. They always try to blame the other parent. "Oh, he has the money. Did he forget to leave it here? Did you look for it? DId you ask him? You should remember to ask him next time". But, dad will tell me the same thing about mom.

3. Mom never brings her in clothes. Always PJs, and then wants me to keep the PJs til the next week when I see the mom again... if I don't have them ready for her, she gets annoyed. (well bring her dressed then! How hard is that?) She never gets here before 8:30 a.m anyway.. it's not like they come at 5:30 a.m

4. They NEVER, EVER participate in parties. They don't bring treats, cards, nothing. But, fully expect her to receive all of the above.

5. Her shoes never fit. They are well over two sizes too small. When I mentioned this, the dad said "Well, we save her good shoes for going out". (so, then, standing and walking in too small shoes is fine..is perfectly ok?)

6. She has a specific developmental delay that she could be getting help with right now. It's even free through the school district, AND the therapy is done AT the school both parents teach at, so they could juggle the driving, and take her to therapy...but, they don't want to be bothered.

7. They OFTEN bring in the 7 yr old to pick up with them, then they drive away leaving the 7 yr old here... they have to come back when they remember her. One time, the Mom drove to the school.. picked up the 7 yr old, came her to pick up the 3 yr old, and then FORGOT they had already picked up the 7 yr old, and drove back to the school again, and went in to pick her up. It scared the lady at the school so bad, she almost called 911 then one of the other kids in class said "You just picked her up". So they had to drive back here to get her, and yelled at HER for not speaking up.

[SilverSabre25]

That is seriously awful. 1-4 are kind of

but 5, 6, and 7 had me going,

[jokalima]

And I complain about one of my families???? I have nothing to complain about compared to this, wow, 2 much, just 2 much

[My3cents]

I'm not used to dealing with these kind's of people. I look forward to the school year ending.

I took this kid on a favor to another mom. The other mom sounded skeptical about this girl. But, being all optimistic, I was thinking "How bad can this be?"

She comes only two days a week.

1. The parents complain that she doesn't have enough crafts to take home. paper and crayons, maybe she loves to do crafts. Don't worry about this do what you want to do when you want to do it. Your not an art teacher your daycare. I love doing art stuff with the kids so if a parent said this to me they probably would be wishing they didn't.

2. They never remember to pay me. I ALWAYS have to get into it with them. They always try to blame the other parent. "Oh, he has the money. Did he forget to leave it here? Did you look for it? DId you ask him? You should remember to ask him next time". But, dad will tell me the same thing about mom. simple fix, ask to be paid in the morning instead of at pick up time. Explain to them that you don't want to have to hunt down your money, you work hard just as they do and that it is not fair or going to happen anymore. Please pay me on time in the morning or late fees will accrue-

3. Mom never brings her in clothes. Always PJs, and then wants me to keep the PJs til the next week when I see the mom again... if I don't have them ready for her, she gets annoyed. (well bring her dressed then! How hard is that?) She never gets here before 8:30 a.m anyway.. it's not like they come at 5:30 a.m Your fault- Tell her every child needs to come dressed and ready for the day. No more pj's unless we are having a pj day.

4. They NEVER, EVER participate in parties. They don't bring treats, cards, nothing. But, fully expect her to receive all of the above. I don't worry about this, people that want to do will do. I would not tolerate her expecting. Make sure that you rev it up for her and make sure she knows that you want participation. Note home, newsletter is a great way to handle this. If she doesn't do her part let this slide, but do not let her make you feel bad that her child is not getting enough-

5. Her shoes never fit. They are well over two sizes too small. When I mentioned this, the dad said "Well, we save her good shoes for going out". (so, then, standing and walking in too small shoes is fine..is perfectly ok?) MArge- These shoes are hurting little kiddo's feet, they don't fit her right. Please don't send these in again. Shoes have always been a big complaint doing daycare, parents just don't get that they are too small, too big or not appropriate for daycare.

6. She has a specific developmental delay that she could be getting help with right now. It's even free through the school district, AND the therapy is done AT the school both parents teach at, so they could juggle the driving, and take her to therapy...but, they don't want to be bothered. Spell it out to her that you want her to have this help, it would benefit your daughter to get this help now. I would like you Marge to look into this and figure a way out for her to get this help. If she chooses to not do that, nothing you can do about it.

7. They OFTEN bring in the 7 yr old to pick up with them, then they drive away leaving the 7 yr old here... they have to come back when they remember her. One time, the Mom drove to the school.. picked up the 7 yr old, came her to pick up the 3 yr old, and then FORGOT they had already picked up the 7 yr old, and drove back to the school again, and went in to pick her up. It scared the lady at the school so bad, she almost called 911 then one of the other kids in class said "You just picked her up". So they had to drive back here to get her, and yelled at HER for not speaking up.

The 7 year old is not part of the daycare program so she needs to stay by moms side and leave when mom leaves. Don't invite her in to play and tell her no when she does it anyway. Sorry the daycare is for the kids that stay here all day. Be blunt with mom if it continues.

I responded above in red. I think a lot of these issues are because your lacking backbone with this parent for whatever reason. Maybe she intimidates you, your afraid to loose her as a client, money, might tick off the friend that recommended her, 2nd guessing yourself. Maybe have a sit down and go over these issues with her. Being paid on time would be a great way to start. This reminds me of the parent that gives your money to the child to give to you and then you have to play chase getting it from the child. I just want to be paid. I wonder how a parent would feel if they had to get the money they earned from the boss's child. It's not cute and not a game I like to play. I work hard.

Grow a boner and start there, that is my best advice for you. Best-

[butterfly]

7. They OFTEN bring in the 7 yr old to pick up with them, then they drive away leaving the 7 yr old here... they have to come back when they remember her. One time, the Mom drove to the school.. picked up the 7 yr old, came her to pick up the 3 yr old, and then FORGOT they had already picked up the 7 yr old, and drove back to the school again, and went in to pick her up. It scared the lady at the school so bad, she almost called 911 then one of the other kids in class said "You just picked her up". So they had to drive back here to get her, and yelled at HER for not speaking up.

What the ..... How can this happen?!! I was thinking you must have had a family I finally got rid of in December until I read this. They atleast remembered where their kids were at.

[wdmmom]

I'm not used to dealing with these kind's of people. I look forward to the school year ending.

I took this kid on a favor to another mom. The other mom sounded skeptical about this girl. But, being all optimistic, I was thinking "How bad can this be?"

She comes only two days a week.

1. The parents complain that she doesn't have enough crafts to take home.

Daycare isn't just about crafts. It's about learning and sharing. We do 1 craft per week. With her only being part time, I would tell dcm that you do craft one day per week and since your daughter isn't in attendance full time, there is no guarantee she will get to do arts and crafts each week.

2. They never remember to pay me. I ALWAYS have to get into it with them. They always try to blame the other parent. "Oh, he has the money. Did he forget to leave it here? Did you look for it? DId you ask him? You should remember to ask him next time". But, dad will tell me the same thing about mom.

Cash in hand at the time of drop off or no daycare. NO EXCEPTIONS. No playing "Who has the checkbook today". Show me the money or I'll show you the door!

3. Mom never brings her in clothes. Always PJs, and then wants me to keep the PJs til the next week when I see the mom again... if I don't have them ready for her, she gets annoyed. (well bring her dressed then! How hard is that?) She never gets here before 8:30 a.m anyway.. it's not like they come at 5:30 a.m

DCG must come in dressed and READY for the day. No pj's. No sending anything back and forth. Make sure she has what she needs at your house everyday she attends.

4. They NEVER, EVER participate in parties. They don't bring treats, cards, nothing. But, fully expect her to receive all of the above.

No participation in parties = no goodies for their child. That's how I do it anyway.

5. Her shoes never fit. They are well over two sizes too small. When I mentioned this, the dad said "Well, we save her good shoes for going out". (so, then, standing and walking in too small shoes is fine..is perfectly ok?)

I would tell BOTH parents that "Sally" needs NEW, comfortable and shoes THAT FIT. We do a lot of walking and standing and she's constantly complaining. OR...go to Wal-Mart and buy a $10 pair of shoes to keep at your house. It's a tax deduction and when you are done with them, donate them to the Goodwill.

6. She has a specific developmental delay that she could be getting help with right now. It's even free through the school district, AND the therapy is done AT the school both parents teach at, so they could juggle the driving, and take her to therapy...but, they don't want to be bothered.

What one parent chooses to do may not be a first choice for someone else. When it comes to additional services, I've learned just to bow out.

7. They OFTEN bring in the 7 yr old to pick up with them, then they drive away leaving the 7 yr old here... they have to come back when they remember her. One time, the Mom drove to the school.. picked up the 7 yr old, came her to pick up the 3 yr old, and then FORGOT they had already picked up the 7 yr old, and drove back to the school again, and went in to pick her up. It scared the lady at the school so bad, she almost called 911 then one of the other kids in class said "You just picked her up". So they had to drive back here to get her, and yelled at HER for not speaking up.

7 year old MUST stay in the car. There is no need for her to get out of the car, come into your home, play, be left there or anything else. Arrivals and Departures shouldn't take more than 2 minutes. She can WAIT!

[youretooloud]

What the ..... How can this happen?!! I was thinking you must have had a family I finally got rid of in December until I read this. They atleast remembered where their kids were at.

Dad can keep it together more than mom. Dad leaves her in the car, grabs the 3 yr old and leaves, no drama. But, Mom has to make a big exasperated production out of everything. She's always loud, out of breath, and seems like she's just been let out for the first time in months.

[Blackcat31]

This is a PAST client right?!

Please do not tell me this is a current family and you actually put up with that B.S?!


...and Wow! I am having a really hard time with that last comment. Who "forgets" their child in just a few minutes time?

[youretooloud]

This is a PAST client right?!

Please do not tell me this is a current family and you actually put up with that B.S?!


...and Wow! I am having a really hard time with that last comment. Who "forgets" their child in just a few minutes time?

Nope..she's new, and current. The ONLY reason I keep putting up with it. (especially two days a week) Is for the other girl I have. The other girl is moving away soon, and won't be able to see her after she moves. They might visit, but soon, they won't remember each other.

(the mom's grew up together, and the normal mom is awesome)

[Blackcat31]

Nope..she's new, and current. The ONLY reason I keep putting up with it. (especially two days a week) Is for the other girl I have. The other girl is moving away soon, and won't be able to see her after she moves. They might visit, but soon, they won't remember each other.

(the mom's grew up together, and the normal mom is awesome)

Well, you definitely have a heart of gold. lovethis

Love the normal mom comment too! ::

[Msdunny]

The 7 year old is not part of the daycare program so she needs to stay by moms side and leave when mom leaves. Don't invite her in to play and tell her no when she does it anyway. Sorry the daycare is for the kids that stay here all day. Be blunt with mom if it continues.

Grow a boner and start there, that is my best advice for you. Best-

I'm thinking we want this dcp to grow a backbone, right? I think the above might be impossible! (Made me laugh, though!)

[nanglgrl]

The 7 year old is not part of the daycare program so she needs to stay by moms side and leave when mom leaves. Don't invite her in to play and tell her no when she does it anyway. Sorry the daycare is for the kids that stay here all day. Be blunt with mom if it continues.

I responded above in red. I think a lot of these issues are because your lacking backbone with this parent for whatever reason. Maybe she intimidates you, your afraid to loose her as a client, money, might tick off the friend that recommended her, 2nd guessing yourself. Maybe have a sit down and go over these issues with her. Being paid on time would be a great way to start. This reminds me of the parent that gives your money to the child to give to you and then you have to play chase getting it from the child. I ujust want to be paid. I wonder how a parent would feel if they had to get the money they earned from the boss's child. It's not cute and not a game I like to play. I work hard.

Grow a ::boner ::and start there, that is my best advice for you. Best-

Or grow a backbone instead. Omg I'm laughing so hard.

[youretooloud]

Or grow a backbone instead. Omg I'm laughing so hard.

LMBO!!!!! I would so be telling everybody about the boner.

[Bookworm]

Nope..she's new, and current. The ONLY reason I keep putting up with it. (especially two days a week) Is for the other girl I have. The other girl is moving away soon, and won't be able to see her after she moves. They might visit, but soon, they won't remember each other.

(the mom's grew up together, and the normal mom is awesome)

As far as the DCGs won't be seeing each other after one leaves, that shouldn't be your problem. If the Moms were friend growing up, then it falls on them to maintain the relationship.

[Starburst]

7 year old MUST stay in the car. There is no need for her to get out of the car, come into your home, play, be left there or anything else. Arrivals and Departures shouldn't take more than 2 minutes. She can WAIT!

In some states it is illegal to leave a child under the age of 13 unattened and alone in the car. But the 7 year old could still stay by the door or stay by the mom. But the mom must honestly be clueless to frequently leave a 7 year old behind either that or she is seriously trying to get attention. And why doesn't the 7 year old try to stay with her mother (its like when kids complain they are getting hit but another kid or something don't think to just move )? Who knows maybe the 7 year old wants an excuse to stay to get away from the mom. You should probibly look into adopting Nannydes "Buh-Bye Outside" program: you have DCG ready to go by a certain time and just hand her off and send the family on their way. And also insist that Payment is at drop-off and look into adopting a "no pay; no play" policy (just give them the heads up first for fair warning).

The "normal mom" might just either not realize how ditzy this mom is or is just blinded because they have been friends for so long and thinks her quirks are funny. It's funny how she "sounded skeptical" about the girl but not the mom. Thats kinda ironic. The stuff about the shoes not fitting and not giving her the help she needs for her delays sound like neglect to me- I would tell them "These shoes are too small and could cause issues with her physical development/growth- I am a mandated reporter and I have shared my concern and given you a warning if I see her with ill-fitting shoes again I will report you for neglect" and same goes for the special needs help (yeah probably easier said than done- maybe in a parallel universe where I also "Grow a boner" or a pair). As teachers they should know better, getting help sooner will prevent problems in school later- and it's free! That is why people who teach in the K-12 systems should also be required to take some ECE classes so they understand the importance of early education/expieriences as much as seconday education.