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Ok so this long, sorry in advance! I'm not sure if I'm looking advice or just ranting 
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I have dcb (2 tomorrow) who started with me in Oct. He was great about coming here. He was supposed to be temporary but because he seemed to like it here, mom asked if he could be permanent. I had one FT spot I was looking to fill so I said sure.
Everything going pretty good, in December he started fussing a little when getting dropped off. Not surprising since he was here 7:30am-5:30 pm.
Christmas break he was off for 2 weeks(1 week was out of town without his parents), then another week in January. So needless to say I was expecting some miserable behaviour when he came back.
But it's been horrible! Mom stands at the door for 10-15 mins trying to get him to go off on his own. He'll start to, and as soon as she stands, he runs back screaming. Eventually it gets to the point where she has to go or she'll be late for work, so she hands him off to me. And he throws himself on the ground and will cry for 30 mins.
Well Monday I had enough. I remembered the Bye Bye Outside technique! I can't believe I hadn't thought of it before. So Monday night at pick up, told mom we would try it. Tuesday AM I kept the door locked (so she wouldn't walk in-just in case she forgot) I opened the door, asked her if she gave him his hugs and kisses, she said yes, I said thanks! Grabbed his bag and him (he made a grab for her but I caught him) and got him undressed. He cried half heartedly for 10 mins then went and played. Told her how well it went when she picked up. Mentioned how normally he cries and throws tantrums after she leaves (I'm not sure if I had told her this before) and this time was much better
She never showed up today! No call or text! I'm wondering if she regrets bringing him here, or its a coincidence and he's sick :confused: I know she doesn't like him crying at drop offs and thats one of the reasons she left previous provider.
!I have dcb (2 tomorrow) who started with me in Oct. He was great about coming here. He was supposed to be temporary but because he seemed to like it here, mom asked if he could be permanent. I had one FT spot I was looking to fill so I said sure.
Everything going pretty good, in December he started fussing a little when getting dropped off. Not surprising since he was here 7:30am-5:30 pm.
Christmas break he was off for 2 weeks(1 week was out of town without his parents), then another week in January. So needless to say I was expecting some miserable behaviour when he came back.
But it's been horrible! Mom stands at the door for 10-15 mins trying to get him to go off on his own. He'll start to, and as soon as she stands, he runs back screaming. Eventually it gets to the point where she has to go or she'll be late for work, so she hands him off to me. And he throws himself on the ground and will cry for 30 mins.
Well Monday I had enough. I remembered the Bye Bye Outside technique! I can't believe I hadn't thought of it before. So Monday night at pick up, told mom we would try it. Tuesday AM I kept the door locked (so she wouldn't walk in-just in case she forgot) I opened the door, asked her if she gave him his hugs and kisses, she said yes, I said thanks! Grabbed his bag and him (he made a grab for her but I caught him) and got him undressed. He cried half heartedly for 10 mins then went and played. Told her how well it went when she picked up. Mentioned how normally he cries and throws tantrums after she leaves (I'm not sure if I had told her this before) and this time was much better
She never showed up today! No call or text! I'm wondering if she regrets bringing him here, or its a coincidence and he's sick :confused: I know she doesn't like him crying at drop offs and thats one of the reasons she left previous provider.
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Good luck!
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