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I need to talk to a family about a child hitting ect. Ive never had to do this and i have made myself a cheat sheet. Can you all read it and let me know what you think? Im going to read it to them.
The behavior that we are seeing, are hitting , pushing and choking, and any behavior, like this, that interferes with learning and safety of all children is not allowed in this center. We have also seen a increase in not following directions when asked to go to another are or sit in thinking time. His response is “NO”, “you cant do that” and “Its not fair”.
The situations I have been witness to are more of a hitting situation. One instance he was in the house keeping area and a friend was playing with a kitchen item that he wanted and he hit the child in the back.
Overall he’s very rough with his friends. Trys play fighting with other children( their parents have been notified of this too) If the children are not paying attention to him he tends to grab them and when they walk away this is when he is more prone to hit, push and choke friends
The behavior that we are seeing, are hitting , pushing and choking, and any behavior, like this, that interferes with learning and safety of all children is not allowed in this center. We have also seen a increase in not following directions when asked to go to another are or sit in thinking time. His response is “NO”, “you cant do that” and “Its not fair”.
The situations I have been witness to are more of a hitting situation. One instance he was in the house keeping area and a friend was playing with a kitchen item that he wanted and he hit the child in the back.
Overall he’s very rough with his friends. Trys play fighting with other children( their parents have been notified of this too) If the children are not paying attention to him he tends to grab them and when they walk away this is when he is more prone to hit, push and choke friends
But if the child is older than 2 1/2 I would have much less patience for it. I have NEVER had a child choke another one and that would have been an immediate conversation with the parents, not hours/days/weeks after the fact. Make sure you are documenting every instance of the aggression - the what, the when, they why (if you know) the child's reaction, etc. In addition a child in my care who was hurting their friends would have to stay within arms length of ME. So if I'm cooking lunch, they are at the table with an activity, if I'm using the bathroom, depending on age they are outside the door (which I will keep open a crack just to keep my eye on the child) at the table, etc. All the parents are well aware of my policy for physically aggressive kids. They also are well aware per the contract (and I remind them) that this is a last resort intervention and they are probably going to be looking for new dc soon.
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