Urrrg No Show!!

[ABCDaycareMN]

Today I had only my ex-neighbor scheduled to drop in today with her 2 boys. Set up last night... They were supposed to be here at 7:45 and I get a text at 7:50 that they are not coming today.

Super annoyed as I wouldn't have gotten up so early and gotten ready for them to come. I have yet to reply to her. I don't know what to say... She is someone who only thinks about herself.

For the last week she has been asking me if I would watch her boys if she gets money. I always say yes as I have openings. But will not unless I get paid that same day. She has tried to not pay... Nope! She argues my rates. Under paying me and I have to ask for more money. Asked if I'll watch them for a different amount then what I quoted her for.

What type of response should I give her. This is what I have so far. Not sure if it is appropriate or not.
********, this really needs to stop. I have been trying to accommodate you by modifying my schedule to help you out, but I cannot seem to count on you to follow through with what we have agreed on. While I do enjoy having the boys on occasion, please try to follow through the next time you think you might need me to watch them.

Other suggestions as to what to say?

[momofboys]

I personally would say payment is needed when you schedule (when she sets it up) or I will be unable to watch, I also would say since she called off at last min she still needs to pay for today.

[Unregistered]

Say nothing! Don't care for her kids anymore.She' s already proved she's no reliable.
It' s not worth the hassle for drop in.Sorry people are so inconsiderate!

[ABCDaycareMN]

From now on I will be asking for payment when she schedules with me. And if that's not convenient for her...no care!

[blessed mom]

Yep, have her pay ahead of time and then tell her it is non refundable but you will reschedule a day when it works with both your schedules if she needs to cancel for whatever reason.

[Meyou]

If she books a day she pays regardless of attendance OR stop working with someone who doesn't respect your policies.

[Blackcat31]

If someone treats you with so little disrespect why would you even consider caring for her kids ever again?!

If you relent, even with new rules/boundaries, she still wins.

If it were me, I would NOT ever be available for her again. ever.

[ABCDaycareMN]

Yes Blackcat, that's what I think I'm going to do. I'm so po'd at her. Maybe it's hormones as I just found out I'm expecting... But still I could have really used that sleep today. I guess early nap for me and my little one.

I still haven't replied....

[melilley]

Wow, I would be peeved too! I can't believe how she disrespected you! Some people just don't think of others and how their actions affect people. And I am all for texting, but I can't stand when people don't have the nerve to actually call and tell you things like that. I have a family that is starting in March and they said their current provider has texted them when they were on their way over to tell them that she has closed for the day. No offense if any of you do that, but in my opinion for things along the lines of that, deserve at least a personal phone call.

On the other side of things, I see that you just found out that you are expecting! CONGRATULATIONS!!!!happyfacehappyfacehappyface
And yes, you two could have used that extra sleep!

[kitykids3]

I wouldn't bother trying to watch her kids anymore. That was rude to ask you last night then change it last minute. If she only thinks about herself, she can see if she can find someone else to watch them when she's so wishy washy.
If you do want to watch them/need the money, then make her pay you in advance, when she schedules, and if she calls off, no money back to her, as you had set aside your time for her.

[butterfly]

If someone treats you with so little disrespect why would you even consider caring for her kids ever again?!

If you relent, even with new rules/boundaries, she still wins.

If it were me, I would NOT ever be available for her again. ever.

Me too. I would probably just say "ok, thanks for letting me know" but the next time she asks for care. I'd tell them no.

Congrats on the baby!! happyface

[daycarediva]

Congratulations!


There are a couple of options:

Do you have a drop in contract? If not, get one. All payments are due when the drop in is scheduled, price is non-negotiable, non-refundable and non-transferrable to another day.

Never be available again.

[rmc20021]

I agree with everyone else. Payment must be made at the time they reserve that space for their child.

It's so not fair to you to have you expecting this child and then not show up, especially considering you didn't have any other kids today and could have used that time how you want.

[Angelsj]

"I am sorry, I have no openings..." Rinse and repeat