Asking Mom to Wake Child Up

[countrymom]

I also agree with drop off time. And I would stress that in the afternoon is nap time for the children.

[blessed mom]

The only problem with cut off times is that this child is here a lot...as in many hours each week. Already I reminded mom that there is an extra charge for over 45 hours a week so mom is trying to cut back hours on that one day she drops off late. I actually want to encourage her to spend time with her child...ideally that time would be more awake time then sleeping time though.

The other thing is I'm waiting for the other parents to start complaining because their child didn't get a nap...or didn't get to go outside because they fell asleep in the late afternoon, etc.

Sigh....

[Lorna]

I had one mom who was doing that. I just told her that she can't drop off the child later than 9 am. Because of snack, going out for a walk, etc.

[AnneCordelia]

So tell her that...tell her that her child is disruptive on the days he sleeps in and the other children arent' getting a nap because of it. Tell her that you had a complaint about those specific days from a parent, and they are concerned that their child's quality of life on those days is lessened because of a lack of nap.

Her choice can be:

1. Drop off early and pay extra.
2. Get child up early and drop off late, thus child sleeps at naptime.
3. Find another care provider.

This is the most you can do, IMO.

[Blackcat31]

So tell her that...tell her that her child is disruptive on the days he sleeps in and the other children arent' getting a nap because of it. Tell her that you had a complaint about those specific days from a parent, and they are concerned that their child's quality of life on those days is lessened because of a lack of nap.

Her choice can be:

1. Drop off early and pay extra.
2. Get child up early and drop off late, thus child sleeps at naptime.
3. Find another care provider.

This is the most you can do, IMO.

+1

[MarinaVanessa]

So tell her that...tell her that her child is disruptive on the days he sleeps in and the other children arent' getting a nap because of it. Tell her that you had a complaint about those specific days from a parent, and they are concerned that their child's quality of life on those days is lessened because of a lack of nap.

Her choice can be:

1. Drop off early and pay extra.
2. Get child up early and drop off late, thus child sleeps at naptime.
3. Find another care provider.

This is the most you can do, IMO.

This ... or you can add ....

4. Tell DCM that on the days that he doesn't nap and is disruptive you will have to call her to have her pick him up.

It won't become a serious issue to her until you make it one.

[blessed mom]

So tell her that...tell her that her child is disruptive on the days he sleeps in and the other children arent' getting a nap because of it. Tell her that you had a complaint about those specific days from a parent, and they are concerned that their child's quality of life on those days is lessened because of a lack of nap.

Her choice can be:

1. Drop off early and pay extra.
2. Get child up early and drop off late, thus child sleeps at naptime.
3. Find another care provider.

This is the most you can do, IMO.

This is it in a nutshell! Just wasn't sure if I should or shouldn't make the suggestion since she isn't in my care in the morning. After discussing I think it's a good plan. Fair for all kids involved.

[AnneCordelia]

This is it in a nutshell! Just wasn't sure if I should or shouldn't make the suggestion since she isn't in my care in the morning. After discussing I think it's a good plan. Fair for all kids involved.

Absolutely you should! Your focus is on the needs of the group, not the needs of the one. I have done this with a part timer I had and it worked out great for me. The toddler started napping well on all the days he was here because his parents were on board. It also helped them realize that I am in charge of my business, and provide a wonderful service that they want to be part of. It helped them realize that when I stick up for the needs of the other kids, it also benefits their child.

Good luck! I hope it goes well for you!

[Jewels]

I do think it's inappropriate to try to suggest the way parents spend the time they have with their children. Maybe it's just me but, what they do on their own time is their business. I wouldn't want that to be suggested with my kids when they were in someone else's care. Creating a max drop off time is a good idea to curb this problem though!

yeah I would never tell a parent what they should be doing on their time, really its not their responsibility to worry about how other children are sleeping, they only need to worry about their own child. couldn't you put some books or quiet toys in the crib, I have a 2 yr old that has a hard time, so I give her some books and she plays with those for a while then sleeps, I understand though the disruptiveness, but I think that's something you need to figure out, not the parents, or maybe he doesn't work for your program.

[blessed mom]

yeah I would never tell a parent what they should be doing on their time, really its not their responsibility to worry about how other children are sleeping, they only need to worry about their own child. couldn't you put some books or quiet toys in the crib, I have a 2 yr old that has a hard time, so I give her some books and she plays with those for a while then sleeps, I understand though the disruptiveness, but I think that's something you need to figure out, not the parents, or maybe he doesn't work for your program.

I have tried giving her books but this particular child screams on purpose to wake everyone up. He then knows everyone gets up and plays together which is what he wants.

I think I am going to make the suggestion anyway. I am going to meet her in the middle and just ask that she not let her sleep in more then an hour past her regular wake up time. If she has issues, we can discuss. I doubt she will just up and leave because I made the suggestion, and I'm pretty sure mom will understand that on other days she wants her child to nap and if he doesn't then it's a big problem. Often they pass out on the way home and then don't go to sleep until really late that night.

[Blackcat31]

yeah I would never tell a parent what they should be doing on their time, really its not their responsibility to worry about how other children are sleeping, they only need to worry about their own child. couldn't you put some books or quiet toys in the crib, I have a 2 yr old that has a hard time, so I give her some books and she plays with those for a while then sleeps, I understand though the disruptiveness, but I think that's something you need to figure out, not the parents, or maybe he doesn't work for your program.

While I too would never dictate to a parent what they do with their child on their time, I absolutely disagree that it isn't the parents repsonsibility to worry about how other kids sleep at child care.

When they are dropping their child off late thus causing a disruption to the other daycare kids' napping schedule it IS their responsibility to care.

Being a part of group care has a certain set of responsibilities that has everything to do with your child's routine and how your child's behavior affects others.

I do NOT allow children to participate in an alternate activity during group rest time. Parents know this when they enroll so I never have to have this discussion later.