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for a child's behavior that is more extreme or that requires more discussion?
I have a 2 1/2 yo dcg that was a great daycare kid. Wonderfully well behaved, a little clingy (was held all the time at home), which was easily remedied with "I can hug you but I can't hold you" consistently. No other real issues outside of typical 2 year old behaviors, sharing/taking turns.
Fast forward 6 months: dcm 'can't afford'* FT daycare since she lost dcg's child support (Dad quit his job). Dcg is now with a friend of the family Tuesday and a neighbor Thursday. She cannot handle the inconsistency of rules, and it is showing BIG TIME. I also am not sure what she is doing/watching those two days. She has become increasingly violent, she spits, hits, kicks, screams "I HATE YOU!" "SHUT UP STUPID!" ANY request I make is an immediate temper tantrum. She kicked me today, and I had to pick her up to move her away from the other kids... well she tried to BITE MY FACE! She refuses to follow any of our routines or participate in anything. She didn't eat her AT ALL last week because she refused to sit at the table. Today she did eat some, but then intentionally dumped her soup onto the table and started painting in it.
I have been talking with Mom about this for the last month, I suggested that she move her back to FT. That dcg is suffering. Maybe even finding different sitters, to no avail. Mom is also seeing the behaviors at home. This morning dcg broke her ceramic bank because Mom said she couldn't wear dress shoes to daycare and dcg kept smashing her hands into the broken bank and has a few cuts on her hands. At drop off she was screaming at the top of her lungs that she HATES MOMMY, HATES MISS ******, HATES ---every kid that comes here, etc.
I talked to Mom about it this morning (after Mom sat dcg off to the side until she calmed down) and she said she doesn't know what to do. I want to DOCUMENT the HECK out of this little girl, as dcm is VERY 'flighty' and often 'forgets' our conversations. I told Mom at drop off that if I didn't see an improvement in 4 weeks, I would be forced to term. I want that in writing. I want everything she does in writing. kwim?
* YES she actually can afford FT child care, she makes a decent salary as she tried to get me to help her to apply for daycare subsidy. As soon as I saw her paystubs I laughed..... She is chosing NOT to move her to FT again bc the sitters are cheaper.
I have a 2 1/2 yo dcg that was a great daycare kid. Wonderfully well behaved, a little clingy (was held all the time at home), which was easily remedied with "I can hug you but I can't hold you" consistently. No other real issues outside of typical 2 year old behaviors, sharing/taking turns.
Fast forward 6 months: dcm 'can't afford'* FT daycare since she lost dcg's child support (Dad quit his job). Dcg is now with a friend of the family Tuesday and a neighbor Thursday. She cannot handle the inconsistency of rules, and it is showing BIG TIME. I also am not sure what she is doing/watching those two days. She has become increasingly violent, she spits, hits, kicks, screams "I HATE YOU!" "SHUT UP STUPID!" ANY request I make is an immediate temper tantrum. She kicked me today, and I had to pick her up to move her away from the other kids... well she tried to BITE MY FACE! She refuses to follow any of our routines or participate in anything. She didn't eat her AT ALL last week because she refused to sit at the table. Today she did eat some, but then intentionally dumped her soup onto the table and started painting in it.
I have been talking with Mom about this for the last month, I suggested that she move her back to FT. That dcg is suffering. Maybe even finding different sitters, to no avail. Mom is also seeing the behaviors at home. This morning dcg broke her ceramic bank because Mom said she couldn't wear dress shoes to daycare and dcg kept smashing her hands into the broken bank and has a few cuts on her hands. At drop off she was screaming at the top of her lungs that she HATES MOMMY, HATES MISS ******, HATES ---every kid that comes here, etc.
I talked to Mom about it this morning (after Mom sat dcg off to the side until she calmed down) and she said she doesn't know what to do. I want to DOCUMENT the HECK out of this little girl, as dcm is VERY 'flighty' and often 'forgets' our conversations. I told Mom at drop off that if I didn't see an improvement in 4 weeks, I would be forced to term. I want that in writing. I want everything she does in writing. kwim?
* YES she actually can afford FT child care, she makes a decent salary as she tried to get me to help her to apply for daycare subsidy. As soon as I saw her paystubs I laughed..... She is chosing NOT to move her to FT again bc the sitters are cheaper.
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