To The Mother In The Store Yesterday

**cheerfuldom** · 01-31-2013, 07:35 AM

yuck. i would be beyond livid if any of my kids spit at the grocery store, kicked or screamed and they are all under kindergarten age.

**countrymom** · 01-31-2013, 07:45 AM

I think it shocked my girls and they are 14, 12 and 8 (their brother who is 10 was at tutoring next door) but they just couldn't believe it. And then my girls also were wondering if they behave like this at a store imagine what they do at home.

**Springdaze** · 01-31-2013, 08:55 AM

Im just relieved someones kids are worst than mine in the store!

**Starburst** · 01-31-2013, 10:35 AM

The sad thing is I think if she was ignoring it or didn't even flinch at their very unusual behavior if it was because that was how they always acted, or worst- that was them on their best behavior!

**Meeko** · 01-31-2013, 11:48 AM

I went to the doctors office once and it was fairly deserted except for myself and a woman who was there with another female. She had a daughter about three years old who was running riot through the waiting room.

The child was completely ignored while the two women talked.

The child turned over a flower arrangement. The mother just looked up, said the child's name and went back to her conversation!! Never got up to fix the flowers.

I got up, replaced the flowers and sat down again.

The child then decided that MY PURSE would be a good thing to play with. She tried to open it. I smiled and said "No' as gently as I could, thinking she would give up. NOOOO! She grabbed the purse and tried to wrestle it out of my hands!

The mother didn't even look up!!! I had to loudly say "Excuse me?!" before she looked up.

She then walked over, glaring at me for interrupting her conversation and grabbed the child. Never said sorry, never said no to the child...nothing.

I was completely amazed at her indifference. But it is sadly becoming more and more common.

**EntropyControlSpecialist** · 01-31-2013, 11:55 AM

I see this kind of craziness at my ob/gyn's office every 2 weeks. I am ALWAYS shocked. Always.

**Starburst** · 01-31-2013, 12:07 PM

It's things like these situations that make you wish some people's reproductive organs were locked by a special code only their doctor has and can only be unlocked after they complete and pass a parenting class.

**nanglgrl** · 01-31-2013, 12:17 PM

Originally posted by Starburst

It's things like these situations that make you wish some people's reproductive organs were locked by a special code only their doctor has and can only be unlocked after they complete and pass a parenting class.

A doctor's keyless entry system for a woman's "hu-ha"...I googled it and no one has invented done yet. I will get on it immediately.

Sorry, I'm a goof. It's been a long week!

**daycare** · 01-31-2013, 12:22 PM

One time my son was throwing a major tantrum in the store. I corrected him and he kept going on. He was about 3 at the time. Since he kept the tantrum going, I turned my back and walked away. Now I did not walk so far away that I could not see him, but he could not see me.

Well sure enough some lady in the store goes off on me about how horrible my parenting is and that I should be turned in to CPS. I should be ashamed of myself. Blah blah blah.

As a parent, I feel like its a double edge sword. If we say something someone will see us as bad parents. If we say nothing, we are viewed as bad parents.

I would have just told the girls, I would really appreciate it if you did not spit on the food in the store. I like my food without germs.

**countrymom** · 01-31-2013, 12:35 PM

Originally posted by daycare

One time my son was throwing a major tantrum in the store. I corrected him and he kept going on. He was about 3 at the time. Since he kept the tantrum going, I turned my back and walked away. Now I did not walk so far away that I could not see him, but he could not see me.

Well sure enough some lady in the store goes off on me about how horrible my parenting is and that I should be turned in to CPS. I should be ashamed of myself. Blah blah blah.

As a parent, I feel like its a double edge sword. If we say something someone will see us as bad parents. If we say nothing, we are viewed as bad parents.

I would have just told the girls, I would really appreciate it if you did not spit on the food in the store. I like my food without germs.

acually I expect it at the age of 3, but at the age of 12, well I think its too old for this kind of behavior. My son also thru a tantrum once in walmart, I'll never forget it. He thru the loudest tantrum every. I picked him up and threw him in the shopping cart and walked out of the store. You should have see the looks on the faces of the people. but if he couldn't behave, why should the others have to listen to him. we went home, all awhile him screaming. He never did it again.

**Heidi** · 01-31-2013, 12:52 PM

My son (now 20) tried that act in a store once when he was 4. I cracked him on the hiney. I am not a huge fan of spanking, but because I used it so rarely, it was rather affective. He stopped in shock, I think and that was that!

I did get a rather dirty look from another parent who'd witnessed it. Well, lady, if you want to carry your 4 year old around Menards for 45 minutes (which she had, I noticed we'd walked in at the same time), then fine by me! Attachment parenting, perhaps?

I thought maybe SHE needed one of those baby carriers.

JK

**Patches** · 01-31-2013, 12:53 PM

Originally posted by countrymom

acually I expect it at the age of 3, but at the age of 12, well I think its too old for this kind of behavior. My son also thru a tantrum once in walmart, I'll never forget it. He thru the loudest tantrum every. I picked him up and threw him in the shopping cart and walked out of the store. You should have see the looks on the faces of the people. but if he couldn't behave, why should the others have to listen to him. we went home, all awhile him screaming. He never did it again.

I did the exact same thing when my son threw a huge fit in walmart, but as I was walking out I passed a man who looked at me and said, "Whoop that boys a$$" Yes, my son is throwing a huge fit but really you have no right to tell me how deal with it. I felt really embarrassed and judged. Although I do agree 12 is WAY too old for that. 8 is even way too old for that

**Heidi** · 01-31-2013, 01:04 PM

Originally posted by countrymom

acually I expect it at the age of 3, but at the age of 12, well I think its too old for this kind of behavior. My son also thru a tantrum once in walmart, I'll never forget it. He thru the loudest tantrum every. I picked him up and threw him in the shopping cart and walked out of the store. You should have see the looks on the faces of the people. but if he couldn't behave, why should the others have to listen to him. we went home, all awhile him screaming. He never did it again.

See, now that is what the experts suggest, but then in my mind, they "win". If I need groceries and have my cart half full, I am not leaving the store because JR is bored. I need the dang groceries!

My pet peeve is the great negotiation: A toddler or preschooler that is in and out of the cart 50 times in the course of a shopping trip. Either they're in, and stay in, or they're old enough to walk and listen.

**Kaddidle Care** · 01-31-2013, 01:06 PM

Originally posted by countrymom

Dear Clueless Mother

Yesterday I went grocery shopping with my 3 girls. As we rounded the corner we were shocked at what we saw. As you were cluelessly looking at the food on the shelf your 12 yr old daughter was laying on the floor and your 8 yr old daughter was screaming and kicking her. We were all shocked. Eventually you told your oldest to get up.

As you went around the other aisle we happened to be behind you, and we couldn't believe what we saw. Your girls where spitting on each other, and you stupid clueless mom just kept on walking pretending you didn't see them or whatever. you didn't do anything till my daughter, who is the same age as your oldest loudly stated how gross that was, that they were spitting all over each other and the food.

You went over several aisles and all we heard was your girls screaming at each other and the shopping cart being crashed into things.

Really mom, grow some balls and take charge. Your girls are way too old to behave like this especially since i had 3 of my girls with me and they were the ones to make comments. I don't want to hear that you had a bad day, or the girls where having fun or whatever stupid excuse you want to use, when your girls decided to spit on the food that showed lack of respect and really poor parenting on your part, because at 12 yrs old they shouldnn't be spitting on food in a grocery store.

Maybe next time go shopping by yourself.

signed totally disgusted shopper

Maybe the Clueless Mother was a clueless Aunt.. or Babysitter. hehe!

This ladies.. is the reason I left the child care business. I'm still amused by this site and can relate.. Many things posted are BTDT!

If you see them again you might alert the Manager. If the manager does nothing about it, find another place to shop and let him/her know!

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