A Lot Of "Chaos" But I Have To Announce

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  • EntropyControlSpecialist
    Embracing the chaos.
    • Mar 2012
    • 7466

    A Lot Of "Chaos" But I Have To Announce

    There has been a lot of "chaos" here since my assistant was my husband and I had to kick him out and file for divorce. I say chaos because it changed things and I try to keep things are consistent as possible for my clients and their children.

    Shortly after that, I had to change my early drop off to be every other day instead of every single day (7:00-8:00am).

    Last week, I had to change my business hours to just 8:00-5:00 and exclude early drop off and late pick up. I had 1 family give me their 2 weeks notice and their last day will be on Wednesday of next week. I understood. They need care for 11 hours each day and I'm just unable to do so. I am still able to pay all of the bills that I was paying with 2 adults in the household and my son has been helpful with doing little things here and there to keep my stress levels down.

    I need to announce my pregnancy. I am starting to look fat in just the front of my stomach area despite wearing loose shirts. I know that no parent is going to comment on it, but I don't want them to wonder or feel like I'm hiding something. I'm worried that having this many "announcements" so close together (in 1.5 months time) will concern some parents. It shouldn't, but I'm worried it might. The situation I'm in now was not planned. This pregnancy was planned, but the timing became interesting when I learned I was pregnant 10 days after I HAD to kick my husband out. I am saying HAD to as a conservative Christian woman who doesn't believe that divorce is an option. So, please believe me when I say I had to. My pregnancy is considered high risk and I go to the OB every 2 weeks. My Mom has been coming in as my assistant each time I have an appointment and no parents have had any concerns or questions about why she comes. I know their children tell them, "Ms. ___ came today!" I have very outspoken kiddos here. ::
    I plan to hire an assistant halfway through the summer, I will fully close for 1 week (unpaid) when I go into labor, and the assistant will run the business for 1-2 weeks after that 1 week maternity leave so I can continue to recover with some supervision from me. After that, the assistant will go back to being part-time. I can DO this. I can. When I started up this business last year I miscarried during the work day (delivered the baby at night, and the placenta while working) and none of my clients knew.

    I'm unsure as to how I should word a letter announcing my pregnancy since I always send a letter home after I make verbal announcements to each parent. Please, please help. I have been nervous about this since I learned that I was pregnant.
  • Heidi
    Daycare.com Member
    • Sep 2011
    • 7121

    #2
    Wow! I don't know what else to say...just hang in there! You are a strong woman!

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    • EntropyControlSpecialist
      Embracing the chaos.
      • Mar 2012
      • 7466

      #3
      Originally posted by Heidi
      Wow! I don't know what else to say...just hang in there! You are a strong woman!
      The Lord has provided for my 1.5 children and I beyond what I could have ever dreamed.
      This is my 4th pregnancy and I have made it farther than I have in any of the previous 3 (funny timing but praise the Lord!!), so I have faith that this baby will carry to term. That might explain why I feel like I need to say something now.

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      • MamaBearCanada
        Blessed
        • Jun 2012
        • 704

        #4
        I agree with the previous poster - you are a very strong woman.

        What about something like:

        Dear Parents,

        Thank you for your support in the transition regarding the termination of my previous assistant. Mrs X has been an excellent interim assistant and I am beginning the process of hiring a new permanent assistant. The quality of care provided for your children is of great importance to me and I strive to offer the best level of care with as little change in routine for the children as possible.

        I am also delighted to announce that my own family is being blessed with a new arrival in (date month). Yes - I'm pregnant! My assistant(s) will cover any time off for appointments as well as my 2 week maternity leave. The only time you should need to seek alternate care is for one week following the day of the baby's birth. This one week of closure will of course be unpaid. I will continue to keep in open communication and invite you to do the same.

        Yours, ECS

        Maybe this will give you a starting point - but Blackcat writes awesome letters! I have a habit of saying too much. I wish you every happiness, an easy pregnancy and a healthy baby.

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        • EntropyControlSpecialist
          Embracing the chaos.
          • Mar 2012
          • 7466

          #5
          Thank you!

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          • cheerfuldom
            Advanced Daycare.com Member
            • Dec 2010
            • 7413

            #6
            you just have to bite the bullet and let things happen whatever way they are going to happen. A short simple letter that lets them know you are expecting and a brief plan regarding maternity leave (subject to change). They may leave....that doesnt mean that you cant handle this, it just means they cant. But you obviously have to tell them at some point soon and take whatever comes your way. As always, keep things short and simple, upbeat and professional. Not too many details or explanations but just an assurance that you appreciate them sticking with you during the transition and you are always doing your best to make sure that the kids have quality care.

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            • Starburst
              Provider in Training
              • Jan 2013
              • 1522

              #7
              Maybe something to keep it positive and up beat to set the tone in a happy way(warning some of it may sound obnoxtiously perky so feel free to edit):

              "Dear DCFs,
              Some exciting changes are coming to our daycare! We will have some new faces coming soon, as I am now expecting a beautiful baby {boy/girl} (<--optional), he/she/who is due xx/xx/2013. As of now I plan on only being closed for one week, unpaid, while I welcome my new bundle of joy into the world. I will keep you posted as soon as possible to let you know when my maternity leave starts and when I will open again. I will also be happy to recommend or be a refernece for your substitute care (<--optional if you are willing to help but not required too) you may need for that week.

              In addition, I will soon be hiring a new daycare assistant who will be helping me regularly during this transition. As of now, I do not plan to change any services at all other than previously mentioned. I will continue giving the same quality child care I have been providing your families as before. If you have any questions please feel free to ask me. We can't wait for you to meet our family's newest member!
              Thank You for your understanding, FCCP"

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              • spud912
                Trix are for kids
                • Jan 2011
                • 2398

                #8
                I don't really have anything to add besides giving you a virtual hug. Please let us know if you need anything!

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                • Meeko
                  Advanced Daycare.com Member
                  • Mar 2011
                  • 4349

                  #9
                  I think you are an AMAZING woman. God bless you and your family as you go through this stressful time.lovethis

                  Any daycare parent who has a problem with you needs to take a hike anyway.

                  Hopefully, they will realize what a gem they have in you and will be as supportive as they can.

                  You are in my prayers dear lady......keep strong and you will get through all this because of your wonderful attitude and faith.

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                  • EntropyControlSpecialist
                    Embracing the chaos.
                    • Mar 2012
                    • 7466

                    #10
                    Thank you!
                    Some daycare families have been especially sweet since they are aware of the basics. Offering to help me, be a shoulder to cry on, etc. I really do not wish to/like to cross personal and working relationships so I haven't taken them up on any offers but I think it is very kind to offer those things nonetheless. Some of them gifted my son and I with Christmas presents which was very generous, and I have received a "tip" for helping out a family since I helped them out. ::
                    I also had one Mom come and check on me after hours just to say she was praying for me. Very sweet!

                    The obnoxiously happy e-mail sounds like me, except when a parent tries to continuously break my rules. I try to be pretty upbeat with them otherwise. ::

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                    • mema
                      Daycare.com Member
                      • Jul 2011
                      • 1979

                      #11
                      I don't have any advice except short and sweet. Hang in there! It will all work out-if they don't like it and leave, then it is probably for the better. You don't need any extra stress. Hugs and prayers coming your way over the next few months!

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                      • EntropyControlSpecialist
                        Embracing the chaos.
                        • Mar 2012
                        • 7466

                        #12
                        Question for you all:

                        At what point would YOU announce a pregnancy to your clients?

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                        • jojosmommy
                          Advanced Daycare.com Member
                          • Jan 2011
                          • 1103

                          #13
                          I didnt announce until like 14 or 16 weeks and even then two people were shocked. I am tiny, gained a minature amount of weight, and my baby was 2 weeks late and 7lbs so I "hid" it well apparently.

                          And good luck with all your "life hiccups". I say dcp come and go, if they don't support you and your family then they belong elsewhere.

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                          • EntropyControlSpecialist
                            Embracing the chaos.
                            • Mar 2012
                            • 7466

                            #14
                            I'm going to wait a bit longer. I'm really scared and trying to cast my anxiety upon the Lord concerning this situation.

                            I run a Preschool program and while 6 use it as a daycare as well I do have 4 that use it JUST for Preschool. So, I'm worried that they may think I won't be able to run my preschool program still with an infant since I don't even accept infants.

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                            • Starburst
                              Provider in Training
                              • Jan 2013
                              • 1522

                              #15
                              Originally posted by EntropyControlSpecialist
                              I'm going to wait a bit longer. I'm really scared and trying to cast my anxiety upon the Lord concerning this situation.

                              I run a Preschool program and while 6 use it as a daycare as well I do have 4 that use it JUST for Preschool. So, I'm worried that they may think I won't be able to run my preschool program still with an infant since I don't even accept infants.
                              Newborns usually need lots of naps through out the day so you can try to schedule him/her to nap when you have the instructional ("sit down") part of your preschool and when he/she is awake and you need a free hand or two you can get a sling/pouch/ carrier and wear your baby.

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