What Would You Do In This Case, Quick Advice Needed

[Willow]

Holiday - I have no idea what elimination communication or broccoli has to do with a near two year old kicking and screaming not letting their regular daycare provider change their soiled diaper.


Edited - off topic.

[Crystal]

If a 20 month old is kicking and screaming over a diaper change like that - they are forcing it.

Period.

That's not a normal response in any way shape or form and does indicate desperation for control or just complete and utter confusion/shame/fear.

You could be right. And, you could be wrong.

I have seen children throw huge, screaming, crying fits when being changed by their parent here, but would never dream of doing that with me. These are 2 year olds who are not even potty training, so it has absolutley nothing to do with being forced to train. It is simply something they can "boss" their parents around with and they do it. SO, it could simply be that this child is showing the provider who's boss, and the kid thinks he's the boss!

[Jewels]

You could be right. And, you could be wrong.

I have seen children throw huge, screaming, crying fits when being changed by their parent here, but would never dream of doing that with me. These are 2 year olds who are not even potty training, so it has absolutley nothing to do with being forced to train. It is simply something they can "boss" their parents around with and they do it. SO, it could simply be that this child is showing the provider who's boss, and the kid thinks he's the boss!

yes, i know my 2 yr old who started getting reaaly upset about diaper changing, had nothing to do with her potty training, and everything to do with having to stop what she was doing, power struggling me, that only lasted 2 days though and its over now. And she only stated there was one kicking screaming fit, not that it happened everytime, and to just leave the kid in the dirty diaper screaming to prove a point to the parents I disagree with, the provider could have been very frustrated also, which lead to more of a battle.

[Unregistered]

the DCK did have a horrible fit every time I took them to the toilet. THis was the very first day at my house that they even tried and I am not one to ever force a child to do anything.

In the morning during daycare, when I told the child it was time to use the potty, as soon as I said that, the child said no and had a melt down. I was able to talk them down and with some coaching get them into the bathroom to at least let me change them. The child did have one successful trip to the toilet, but that was only because I think the DCK was trying to delay nap time. They did not pee or poo while on it, just was able to get them to sit.

DCM called in during nap time to see how things were going with PTing here. I told her not too well, that DCK does not want to. DCM was in disbelief that her child was acting out like this here with the PTing, because at home they always went when asked.

I did not have time to get detailed about the OP, because I was looking for advice on what to do with the child. There was no way I was going to power struggle the child in any way. I was not at all frustrated, in fact, I told dck I am going to walk away now and when you are done screaming, I will come change you, but that only resulted in the child screaming and kicking even more.

I feel I did the right thing and the DCM got to see what I was talking about. Before DCM left, I asked her to work on it at home for another good solid week before I would try to do it here again. The child is very part time, so it seems that working on it at home first and mastering more of the skills is going to be necessary....