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Hello, im new to this fourm and have not started my daycare so for now I just watch family. Anyway I watch my cousins daughter who is 6 and there is just something not right about her. She is always rubbing on people back and but. Then once when I was watching her and my youngest sister, she took a picture of my sister bending over then she took a picture of her naked but. I have watched a lot of kids and have never had this problem before. I just don't know what could be wrong with her and why she keeps doing stuff like this.
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sounds like mom and dad need to talk with her. it could be an issue of curiousity without clear social boundaries, but that is an issue for the parents to address, not just you. it could also be that your radar is going off for good reason....if someone is being inappropriate with her and she is now exhibiting signs of that. -
It is common that kids around that age to start to become more curious about bodies and try to test the limits of appropraite/ non appropraite touch. Also sometimes kids immitate things they see other people doing, like if their parents (or even people on tv) flirt/play around a lot and pat/spank each other on the butts. One 5 year old boy I used to babysit would always try to grab/pat my bum, he did this alot with his mom too, I think it was because we are both bottom heavy and I think he would see his parents do this alot too.
Try teaching her about personal space and appropraite/not appropraite touches (you/her mom can give her a visual by using a 1 or 2 piece bathing suit on a doll to show where we don't touch are our friends). It's important not to shame her about her curiousity or her body because it may cause body image/relationship issues later on, just tell her that we don't touch are friends in those places. Probably also look for some "stranger danger" books to teach her not to let others touch her there too (other than medical reasons) and what to tell someone who is invading your personal space and when to tell an adult.
Since it is more on the butt and not much on the actual genitals that are the focal point I think it is more of curiousity than a sign of abuse. Most kids just think butts are funny because of what they are used for and the sounds (and smells
) they can make. If she has problems sitting down or complains of bottom pain or tries to put anything near her or someone elses bottom or hit their bottom than I would start to worry.
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Well my cousin wasn't happy when I told her. She says she doesn't do it at home and we asked her why she did it but she just said I don't know.Comment
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Well, also look at the tv shows she watches too, many tweeny bopper shows or shows targeted for after schoolers, they have now have lots of butt jokes and induendos. And, of course, there is also her friends from school; If their parents act this way around them or they watch those shows and then they repeat the behavior at school. all of these can be subliminal to which the child doesn't realize it is affecting them or they do not say anything about it because they do not want to not watch those shows anymore or play with those friends any more. For now in stead of focusing on the "why is she doing that" just try to focus on teaching her "why we don't do that" or just "don't do that".Comment
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