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  • judytrickett

    #31
    Originally posted by Lilbutterflie
    I respect NannyDe's opinions and her experience. She has brought a lot to the table. That being said, she does come off as very harsh. For new members who are trying to get some information; they are intimidated to post anything for fear of being made to look like a fool. She gives great information, but she doesn't always do it in a respectful way.
    Michael has a tough job, he's using the same tactics that we do with parents that have maybe gone just too far. Let's respect his decision. This is his business.

    Ah, but with NO bias at all - seriously, just from reading about the trials and tribulations most of the members here post and ask about.......I have found anecdotal evidence that says those who appear most "harsh" and don't mince words are also those providers who have the MOST success in their businesses, have the least problems with parents and earn the most money (stay full). Perhaps that so called "harshness" pays off. And really, I think Janet is correct in the fact that harshness aside if a member is openly offering very GOOD advice to other providers then THAT is what matters.

    What Nannyde says and takes her PERSONAL time to answer is true and helpful and right on the mark.

    Nan doesn't HAVE to be here for NAN. When have you ever seen her post a problem SHE was having? The answer is never. Nan doesn't have problems because her experience has allowed her to master the parent/provider relationship. At least be thankful there are SOME providers like Nan that come here and answer questions or, quite frankly, most of the providers here would be totally screwed in finding solutions to the problems THEY post.

    The Nan-Ban is ridiculous.

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    • momma2girls
      Daycare.com Member
      • Nov 2009
      • 2283

      #32
      Originally posted by jen
      what?????????
      nanny de being banned or so everyone else says it???

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      • momma2girls
        Daycare.com Member
        • Nov 2009
        • 2283

        #33
        Originally posted by judytrickett
        Ah, but with NO bias at all - seriously, just from reading about the trials and tribulations most of the members here post and ask about.......I have found anecdotal evidence that says those who appear most "harsh" and don't mince words are also those providers who have the MOST success in their businesses, have the least problems with parents and earn the most money (stay full). Perhaps that so called "harshness" pays off. And really, I think Janet is correct in the fact that harshness aside if a member is openly offering very GOOD advice to other providers then THAT is what matters.

        What Nannyde says and takes her PERSONAL time to answer is true and helpful and right on the mark.

        Nan doesn't HAVE to be here for NAN. When have you ever seen her post a problem SHE was having? The answer is never. Nan doesn't have problems because her experience has allowed her to master the parent/provider relationship. At least be thankful there are SOME providers like Nan that come here and answer questions or, quite frankly, most of the providers here would be totally screwed in finding solutions to the problems THEY post.

        The Nan-Ban is ridiculous.
        I totally agree!! I think the more you allow parents to walk all over you, the worse it is- I have so learnt this from all the yrs. experience!!!

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        • Daycare Mommy
          Senior Member
          • Jan 2010
          • 339

          #34
          There are other far more abrasive people here who don't contribute nearly as much to the boards as Nan did, yet Nan was the one banned. I've been under attack before and I've seen others talked down to in very disrespectful ways by the same poster repeatedly. It's been going on nearly as long as I've been here and nothing ever happened to that member. Yet now out of the blue Nan is kicked? Not right. I see some of you especially those who are new or perhaps didn't agree with her are fine with moving on like nothing happened, but some of us who have been helped enormously by Nan in our time here are more than a little ticked. She has tons of experience and shared loads of advice with us. Even though I've been in this profession nearly a decade I learned things from her left and right. Things that have helped me run my business, work more effectively with the daycare children as well as my own. So no I'm not really feeling much like moving on without a word after someone who helped me and others here so much is booted.

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          • mac60
            Advanced Daycare.com Member
            • May 2008
            • 1610

            #35
            Gone for a while and come back, all I can say is wow. How sad it has all come to this.

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            • Janet

              #36
              Exactly!

              Originally posted by judytrickett
              Ah, but with NO bias at all - seriously, just from reading about the trials and tribulations most of the members here post and ask about.......I have found anecdotal evidence that says those who appear most "harsh" and don't mince words are also those providers who have the MOST success in their businesses, have the least problems with parents and earn the most money (stay full). Perhaps that so called "harshness" pays off. And really, I think Janet is correct in the fact that harshness aside if a member is openly offering very GOOD advice to other providers then THAT is what matters.

              What Nannyde says and takes her PERSONAL time to answer is true and helpful and right on the mark.

              Nan doesn't HAVE to be here for NAN. When have you ever seen her post a problem SHE was having? The answer is never. Nan doesn't have problems because her experience has allowed her to master the parent/provider relationship. At least be thankful there are SOME providers like Nan that come here and answer questions or, quite frankly, most of the providers here would be totally screwed in finding solutions to the problems THEY post.

              The Nan-Ban is ridiculous.
              Judy's right. Nan doesn't have to take the time to answer questions that providers have, but she took the time to answer anyway (and you all know how long her posts are and how well put together they are!) She's been around the block enough times to be able to answer pretty much any question that has come up. I think that the value of her expertise more than makes up for any "harshness" that her posts may contain. She doesn't beat around the bush.

              I'm thankful for the times that I've needed help that Nan was able to offer good suggestions. Like I said before, I have recieved lots of really valuable information from many of the providers here and I've also gotten to see many perspectives on lots of issues and it helps me to be a better provider. I'm thankful for that. It's just really unfortunate to lose out on Nan's perspective and her advice.

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              • judytrickett

                #37
                Originally posted by Janet
                It's just really unfortunate to lose out on Nan's perspective and her advice.
                Well, luckily for YOU, you know where else you can find Nannyde. And, no, admin there doesn't ban anyone who has a valid reason for being there.

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                • nbtan
                  New Daycare.com Member
                  • Aug 2010
                  • 3

                  #38
                  Originally posted by Janet
                  Judy has an amazing forum and blog and I feel like my opinion counts there. If you'd like to join, you could talk to judy about it. The more, the merrier!
                  I love Judy's blog/forum.

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                  • originalkat
                    Daycare.com Member
                    • Dec 2009
                    • 1392

                    #39
                    Originally posted by Quincy
                    I don't know anyone here well enough to pass judgement, but as a former board admin and mod of parent boards I know just how tough it is to try to be as neutral as possible while keeping everyone feeling like they and their comments matter. You don't have to be perfectly versed in child care to run a board like this, in my opinion , you have to be able to manage personalities. RE: NannyDE, I appreciated her comments to me but as a new member I can attest that some of her other comments were intimidating. Whether she asked to be removed or was banned, I don't know, but Michael has a tough job and I feel he IS trying to keep the peace which ever way it went.

                    I just want a place to ask questions, get and give advice, and maybe even form some online friendships with other providers.
                    I agree with this.

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                    • Janet

                      #40


                      Originally posted by Daycare Mommy
                      There are other far more abrasive people here who don't contribute nearly as much to the boards as Nan did, yet Nan was the one banned. I've been under attack before and I've seen others talked down to in very disrespectful ways by the same poster repeatedly. It's been going on nearly as long as I've been here and nothing ever happened to that member. Yet now out of the blue Nan is kicked? Not right. I see some of you especially those who are new or perhaps didn't agree with her are fine with moving on like nothing happened, but some of us who have been helped enormously by Nan in our time here are more than a little ticked. She has tons of experience and shared loads of advice with us. Even though I've been in this profession nearly a decade I learned things from her left and right. Things that have helped me run my business, work more effectively with the daycare children as well as my own. So no I'm not really feeling much like moving on without a word after someone who helped me and others here so much is booted.
                      I have been criticized on several occasions and I didn't see anyone get talked to about that. But then again, I figured that it was all just a part of the experience of being a member of a forum. Opinions vary so even when people were being harsh with me, I didn't complain. I notice that there are a lot of responses that talk about just moving on. Those are either the people who didn't like her style or the new people who haven't been here for long. Hopefully the new providers here will be able to find a provider who will be as helpful as Nan is.

                      I don't have to tell anyone here that being a daycare provider is not always a walk in the park. There are facets of this profession that can really only be understood by other providers. We have to wear a lot of different hats and it gets overwhelming at times. This is when the advice that we can get will help us the most. Sometimes the advice that we receive has to come with some honesty that can seem a little harsh. This is not always a "feel good" career choice and I've personally had times when I have needed people to be really straight with me and to tell me that I needed to get my head out of my rear.

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                      • Golden Rule
                        Former Member
                        • Apr 2010
                        • 154

                        #41
                        I have so many of her responses printed..... She (and a few others) called me out on my problem areas and made me see my mistakes. I have been researching things I had not even heard about before coming here.

                        I just started finding my backbone...


                        I don't know where to find her...... I just found this forum. PM ME....PLEASE

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                        • Janet

                          #42
                          A rainbow

                          Originally posted by judytrickett
                          Well, luckily for YOU, you know where else you can find Nannyde. And, no, admin there doesn't ban anyone who has a valid reason for being there.
                          Yep It's nice to not feel the need to censor myself and it's nice to feel a sense of belonging!

                          Judy, have you seen the movie "Semi-Pro" with Will Ferrell? The motto for the basketball team is "Everybody Love Everybody". That should be our motto! LOL

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                          • misol
                            Advanced Daycare.com Member
                            • Jan 2010
                            • 716

                            #43
                            Originally posted by janet
                            where is the line drawn? Does everyone have to walk on eggshells and censor themselves so that nobody takes offense to an answer that's given? Does every member of this forum have to conform to the same school of thought? If nan's posts were put on a balance and measured with one side being helpful and informative and the other side was posts that were considered abrasive, the balance would definitely be in favor of the help that she has provided. I really believe that her intentions are to provide helpful advice and that far outweighs bruised egos.
                            totally totally agree!

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                            • jen
                              Advanced Daycare.com Member
                              • Sep 2009
                              • 1832

                              #44
                              Originally posted by Iowa daycare
                              nanny de being banned or so everyone else says it???
                              Ooops! I meant to quote the one that said she got banned! Sorry!

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                              • misol
                                Advanced Daycare.com Member
                                • Jan 2010
                                • 716

                                #45
                                Originally posted by judytrickett
                                Well, luckily for YOU, you know where else you can find Nannyde. And, no, admin there doesn't ban anyone who has a valid reason for being there.
                                I want to know where to find her too so please enlighten me. PM me if you have to! ::
                                Last edited by misol; 08-11-2010, 11:01 AM. Reason: typo

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