New DCB Hasn't Even Started Yet And I Have Heard Some Bad Things

[mrsp'slilpeeps]

Current DCM came in yesterday and was a little suprised to see this baby that was spending the day with us yesterday. She knows the family very well. (small town)

So I asked her this morning if this family was ok to take on for daycare.

I had my own gut feelings with this new family, so hubby suggested I ask her today.

Turns out the dad of this baby was the mothers, brother in law at one point.

This mother does not have custody of any of her children (3).

The dad is a criminal and was just relased from jail for drug charges.

The dad has been charged with spoucel abuse (sp), she had put a restraining order on him, then she broke it.

They like to bounce checks....... DCM said dont be suprised if they bounce the check that you are supposed to get on Friday.:confused:


SOOO after hearing all of this, should I give her the benefit of doubt, or run like hell?

[Blackcat31]

If I based any of my enrollments on the opinions of others, I would have no families.

I use MY experiences with a family to form an opinion of whether I can or am willing to work with them.

That is the sole purpose of a trial period.

[mrsp'slilpeeps]

If I based any of my enrollments on the opinions of others, I would have no families.

I use MY experiences with a family to form an opinion of whether I can or am willing to work with them.

That is the sole purpose of a trial period.

Ahh gotcha!! I guess time will tell.

[mema]

I would still give it a whirl. Do you have a trial period that you can terminate without giving your regular 2 week (or whatever) notice? I would have them pay however they normally would, but go to their bank to cash it. 1 bounce and it's cash only. Good luck. Hope it all turns out ok and they end up being the best family ever!

[AnneCordelia]

You could always ask them for references to get another pov.

[mrsp'slilpeeps]

I would still give it a whirl. Do you have a trial period that you can terminate without giving your regular 2 week (or whatever) notice? I would have them pay however they normally would, but go to their bank to cash it. 1 bounce and it's cash only. Good luck. Hope it all turns out ok and they end up being the best family ever!

Yes I have a 2 week trial period, and I was thinking the same thing about cashing the check at their bank.

[crazydaycarelady]

I'd give them a try. Make sure you get a signed copy that they read/understand the contract and then make them stick to it. Then stick to it - considering what you have heard I would not put up with much.

[cheerfuldom]

you are requiring payment in advance correct? if you get the check monday, you can try and cash it that night. if it doesnt go thru, you can contact them immediately and require cash payment in full before child returns again.

[daycarediva]

If I based any of my enrollments on the opinions of others, I would have no families.

I use MY experiences with a family to form an opinion of whether I can or am willing to work with them.

That is the sole purpose of a trial period.

Regardless of what someone says, that is still just an opinion. KWIM?

I have dcf's now that are great, but had I known some of the things I do now, I might not have taken them on (dcg's dad is in prison, for LIFE-just an example)

You will find out during the trial period for sure.

[Crystal]

Current DCM came in yesterday and was a little suprised to see this baby that was spending the day with us yesterday. She knows the family very well. (small town)

So I asked her this morning if this family was ok to take on for daycare.

I had my own gut feelings with this new family, so hubby suggested I ask her today.

Turns out the dad of this baby was the mothers, brother in law at one point. And? That is her personal business. I am not sure how this would apply to a daycare relationship at all.

This mother does not have custody of any of her children (3). If she doesn't have custody, why is she the one looking for daycare?

The dad is a criminal and was just relased from jail for drug charges. Who DOES have custody of the children? If Mom doesn't, and Dad just got out of jail, I am confused as to how they have the children and why they are looking for daycare???

The dad has been charged with spoucel abuse (sp), she had put a restraining order on him, then she broke it. This happens. I think it is horrible, but as an adult, it is her choice to go back or not. Sad, for sure, but her choice.

They like to bounce checks....... DCM said dont be suprised if they bounce the check that you are supposed to get on Friday.:confused: Haha. I doubt they "like" to bounce checks. How does this DCM even know they bounce checks?


SOOO after hearing all of this, should I give her the benefit of doubt, or run like hell?

Sounds like gossip to me, and sounds like your current DCM is pretty nosey!!! LOL!

I would go with my own gut feeling...what were YOU feeling and why? What made you feel like this might not be a good fit?

What I felt and my professional opinion is what I would follow. Not the gossip of a client who may or may not have a hidden agenda about this potential new family. That considered, do you think the current DCM might be upset and pull her own kids if you enroll the new family? If they are as bad as she says they are, she may not want her kids around what could result in potential drama at daycare.