Annoyed

[Lyss]

I have a DCF that I already go out of my way for, I extended my hours (by 45mins in the am and 45min in the pm, yes that 11.5hrs DCK is here) for this DCF when DCM's schedule shifted and DCD was overseas. Now he's back (and not working) and DCM just got a new shift, she's been telling me that it's gonna be evenings and weekends and wanted me to extend again but I said no. She was going on and on trying to get me to do it but I stayed firm. I think my exact text was "I'm not going any later than what we are now, 6:15, as my family is a priority"

Well now I just get a text that she got an AM shift that would require a drop off at 5:15, which is nearly 2.5 hours earlier than my regular time and nearly an hour and a half earlier than my extension for them. I know she's going to say that I didn't say anything about not doing mornings and I'm really annoyed because she made no mention of an AM shift. I'm not working a 12.5 hour day (other DCKs get picked up at 5:45pm).

How would you reply? I haven't sent anything back because I'm so annoyed/frustrated I'm not thinking level headed ::

[saved4always]

I would just tell her the exact hours you are available and tell her it is non-negotiable. If she cannot work with those hours, she will need to find alternate care. Or you can tell her that you can do the extra hours, but it will cost her like $20 an hour for each extra hour provided outside your regular hours.

I would not be willing to work that many hours either.

[Crazy In Mo]

I have a DCF that I already go out of my way for, I extended my hours (by 45mins in the am and 45min in the pm, yes that 11.5hrs DCK is here) for this DCF when DCM's schedule shifted and DCD was overseas. Now he's back (and not working) and DCM just got a new shift, she's been telling me that it's gonna be evenings and weekends and wanted me to extend again but I said no. She was going on and on trying to get me to do it but I stayed firm. I think my exact text was "I'm not going any later than what we are now, 6:15, as my family is a priority"

Well now I just get a text that she got an AM shift that would require a drop off at 5:15, which is nearly 2.5 hours earlier than my regular time and nearly an hour and a half earlier than my extension for them. I know she's going to say that I didn't say anything about not doing mornings and I'm really annoyed because she made no mention of an AM shift. I'm not working a 12.5 hour day (other DCKs get picked up at 5:45pm).

How would you reply? I haven't sent anything back because I'm so annoyed/frustrated I'm not thinking level headed ::

$25 extra per day

[Patches]

I would just tell her the exact hours you are available and tell her it is non-negotiable. If she cannot work with those hours, she will need to find alternate care. Or you can tell her that you can do the extra hours, but it will cost her like $20 an hour for each extra hour provided outside your regular hours.

I would not be willing to work that many hours either.

[dingledine]

I would either stick with my times (likely), or give her an obscene additional rate, for the additional time.

[e.j.]

I have a DCF that I already go out of my way for, I extended my hours (by 45mins in the am and 45min in the pm, yes that 11.5hrs DCK is here) for this DCF when DCM's schedule shifted and DCD was overseas. Now he's back (and not working) and DCM just got a new shift, she's been telling me that it's gonna be evenings and weekends and wanted me to extend again but I said no. She was going on and on trying to get me to do it but I stayed firm. I think my exact text was "I'm not going any later than what we are now, 6:15, as my family is a priority"

Well now I just get a text that she got an AM shift that would require a drop off at 5:15, which is nearly 2.5 hours earlier than my regular time and nearly an hour and a half earlier than my extension for them. I know she's going to say that I didn't say anything about not doing mornings and I'm really annoyed because she made no mention of an AM shift. I'm not working a 12.5 hour day (other DCKs get picked up at 5:45pm).

How would you reply? I haven't sent anything back because I'm so annoyed/frustrated I'm not thinking level headed ::

I would tell her, "My hours are from __ a.m. to__ p.m. I don't want to lose you as a client but I understand if these hours won't work for you any longer. If you need to find someone else who can accommodate your needs, please keep in mind...I require two weeks notice." If she says you didn't say anything about not working mornings, just tell her what you told us....you didn't ask!

[bunnyslippers]

I would not do it, for any amount of money. 5:15?!??! Seriously, that is just ridiculous. Even if she pays you, you will be resentful every single day. Noooooooo way!!!

[canadiancare]

I know it is difficult when you are counting on income but I think that it sounds like a give an inch take a mile type of family. Unless you are happily willing to do it I wouldn't change my hours. Remember that the remainder of your children will still be there at closing so even if she is working 6-2 or something you still need to work until the last child goes home.

I work from 06h30-16h30, my parents work from 07h30-15h30 and they get an hour each way to travel. I don't fluctuate unless the weather is bad or in case of emergency. I tell them those are my hours at the initial point of contact and I am willing to walk away if people are looking for earlier/later hours.

[Lyss]

Thanks!

I used your suggestions and just told her what my hours were and if that didn't work for them then I understood they would need to find other care. I also reminded her I need a 2 weeks notice in writing.

She sent a few texts trying to guilt me into it but i just said no. I can't do that early, I'm not a morning person as it is! ::

DCBs last day is in Feb now. I feel SOOO much better now that its figured out, I will really miss this DCK and of course the loss of income will hurt but I can't get walked over or I'll just get burnt out and resentful.

On the plus side I just got an email from one of my all time favorite DC families, asking if I will take their new baby in April (their older DD aged out of my program a year ago), so that will be a higher rate and great family to fill this spot. happyface I just have to scrape by for 2 months

[saved4always]

Thanks!

I used your suggestions and just told her what my hours were and if that didn't work for them then I understood they would need to find other care. I also reminded her I need a 2 weeks notice in writing.

She sent a few texts trying to guilt me into it but i just said no. I can't do that early, I'm not a morning person as it is! ::

DCBs last day is in Feb now. I feel SOOO much better now that its figured out, I will really miss this DCK and of course the loss of income will hurt but I can't get walked over or I'll just get burnt out and resentful.

On the plus side I just got an email from one of my all time favorite DC families, asking if I will take their new baby in April (their older DD aged out of my program a year ago), so that will be a higher rate and great family to fill this spot. happyface I just have to scrape by for 2 months

I am so glad it worked out for you! If you are anything like me, working those extra hours would have made me bitter and unhappy.

[daycarediva]

Thanks!

I used your suggestions and just told her what my hours were and if that didn't work for them then I understood they would need to find other care. I also reminded her I need a 2 weeks notice in writing.

She sent a few texts trying to guilt me into it but i just said no. I can't do that early, I'm not a morning person as it is! ::

DCBs last day is in Feb now. I feel SOOO much better now that its figured out, I will really miss this DCK and of course the loss of income will hurt but I can't get walked over or I'll just get burnt out and resentful.

On the plus side I just got an email from one of my all time favorite DC families, asking if I will take their new baby in April (their older DD aged out of my program a year ago), so that will be a higher rate and great family to fill this spot. happyface I just have to scrape by for 2 months

I am soooo curious as to why Dad can't atleast drop off this dcb? He isn't working. Who wants to drag their little people around at 5am when they don't have to? I would kick my husband's BUTT for that!

So glad you stood your ground! happyface

[MarinaVanessa]

I am soooo curious as to why Dad can't atleast drop off this dcb? He isn't working. Who wants to drag their little people around at 5am when they don't have to? I would kick my husband's BUTT for that!

So glad you stood your ground! happyface

That's exactly what I was thinking ::.

I'm glad that things are working out for you OP!

[Lyss]

I am soooo curious as to why Dad can't atleast drop off this dcb? He isn't working. Who wants to drag their little people around at 5am when they don't have to? I would kick my husband's BUTT for that!

So glad you stood your ground! happyface

My DH wouldn't be around if he expected our DD to go to DC while he was off!

Their reason "why" is DCM's new schedule. Its PT so she would be picking up at 11:30am, DCD gets up at 9 ("DCB is on his own if he wakes up before DCD" ) so she said there's no point of him dropping of because it'd be like 10 and I won't keep him all day (I already said DCB doesn't need to be here all day then if they both are off).

Originally DCB was 4 days (6:45 to 615, FT charge) but when DCD came back from overseas (non military contractor job) they didn't want to loose DCB's spot completely, in case DCD got a FT job, so they went PT (2days/wk) to keep a at least a pt spot (i was advertising the FT spot) and give "DCD time to look for a job"

DCM doesn't want to work and is hoping going PT will force DCD to get a job finally, then she'll stay home. I'm assuming she'll want to bring DCB back if this happens but I'm not going to have space and I'm ok with that!